The term ATF annoys the heck out of me. Some people seem to have 4-5 of those at any given times.  

If that ever happened to me, i'd tell that guy to fuck off! I personally don't want to contact others who are seeing my atf. I like feeling like im the only one, even though im not the only one their seeing.

"a lot of guys are protective" How many is a lot?  2?  

f any guy PMs another guy I have seen asking him stupid shit about our date, automatic DNS.  I don't have time for that drama. If it's not in the review, then it is NONE OF YOUR FKIN BUSINESS! Just because I did x with him, does not mean YOU are going to get it.

Some mongers see themselves oddly enough as the lady's pimp or something. I let the ladies name the names of offenders- I don't.  

I must say... I am surprised by this behavior by our fellow mongers as I've not experienced it in my 3 years in this game.    

It's never happened to me and I'd just decline to answer any clown who PMd me like that.  I'll bet if the "ATF" knew about it, she'd be pissed at him for messing with her business.
IMHO, guys who get overly possessive like this are sickos who don't understand boundaries and have totally misled themselves about the nature of their "relationship" with their ATF.