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Dr Who revived
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Too bad you didn't meet up with her...she's a riot 
As for having experienced any of this myself...all the time LOL
As for having experienced any of this myself...all the time LOL Behind the scene, the people on here are lovely. I get the sweetest messages in my mail box, I've met some wonderful providers and hobbyist, most of the reviews I've read are awesome (not just mine, but in general) and I've had some great encounters.
But, on the board, people are mean, spiteful, and rude. I don't get it. Is it because they want to make themselve look better by making others look worse? I've never understand how putting someone down would make you look better. I would think it would only make you look worse.
A year ago, I got into a flame war with another provider. She followed me around to different forums to combat my opinion at every turn. It got so bad that I private messaged her in tears asking why she was such a bitch. Turns out I got the sweetest reply from her and she actually helped me out, offered me an incall in her home town and invited me to visit. I never made it to her home town and we never met, but she was so sweet behind the scenes and such a bitch on the board.
Now, before someone thinks this has to do with a mean comment about one of my post, it's not. I occasionally write some stupid stuff and get "called out" for it. I own that. I don't always think before I post. But, I'm talking about the two-faced business I've seen around here.
I see post from people and get a bad taste and then behind the scenes they are so wonderful it's hard to believe it's the same person.
How any of you experienced this contrariety?
But, on the board, people are mean, spiteful, and rude. I don't get it. Is it because they want to make themselve look better by making others look worse? I've never understand how putting someone down would make you look better. I would think it would only make you look worse.
A year ago, I got into a flame war with another provider. She followed me around to different forums to combat my opinion at every turn. It got so bad that I private messaged her in tears asking why she was such a bitch. Turns out I got the sweetest reply from her and she actually helped me out, offered me an incall in her home town and invited me to visit. I never made it to her home town and we never met, but she was so sweet behind the scenes and such a bitch on the board.
Now, before someone thinks this has to do with a mean comment about one of my post, it's not. I occasionally write some stupid stuff and get "called out" for it. I own that. I don't always think before I post. But, I'm talking about the two-faced business I've seen around here.
I see post from people and get a bad taste and then behind the scenes they are so wonderful it's hard to believe it's the same person.
How any of you experienced this contrariety?
bonordonor
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skarphedin
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bonordonor
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7 / 39
JohnyComeAlready
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skarphedin
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10 / 39
skarphedin
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skarphedin
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bonordonor
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14 / 39
89Springer
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15 / 39
that people act more aggressively and with less concern for the feelings or attitudes of others when anonymous -
additionally people tend to write for the purpose of being "heard" instead of in an attempt to communicate
additionally there is a complete lack of social cues that would modify discussion so people take everything to the extreme that they would likely not face to face
I don't think that in most cases people are intentionally "posturing" but there is also the "troll" factor especially with those who start posts that are designed to be divisive and to evoke a non-rational response for the voyeuristic pleasure of the poster.....
additionally people tend to write for the purpose of being "heard" instead of in an attempt to communicate
additionally there is a complete lack of social cues that would modify discussion so people take everything to the extreme that they would likely not face to face
I don't think that in most cases people are intentionally "posturing" but there is also the "troll" factor especially with those who start posts that are designed to be divisive and to evoke a non-rational response for the voyeuristic pleasure of the poster.....
bonordonor
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16 / 39
Dr Who revived
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17 / 39
Many others posted to your drivel...you left, came back, you left, came back.... And here you are once again. "The Forest Waits"
Related Link: I guess you have your reasons LOL
Robert_BadenPowell
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19 / 39
dakine18
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Romantical
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Dr Who revived
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23 / 39
But you'll have to bring that "highly rated and most sought after" gal to the coronation. It's only fair
As an involuntary but self-educated member of this community, I expected a number of personal assaults when I posted my story the other day about turning to TER and other escort sites to uncover the truth about the woman I was engaged to, who became an escort during our time together without my knowledge.
Yes, my story was onerously long. And by portraying myself as the dupe, as a fool for love, I anticipated a certain degree of take down. But the hostility my post was greeted with -- exclusively from the male side of the aisle -- was eye-opening.
Maybe it's because I was an outsider, a non-hobbyist, crashing the party. Maybe it's because my story, as tragic as it was, was also an admission that I had been exclusively intimate with one of the highest rated and most sought after escorts on this board.
But likely it's because the women who posted comments, providers all, were nearly unanimous in their support and words of kindness and encouragement.
Which was counterintuitive. My story was an expose of the dirty deeds of a provider, of the deceit and selfishness of one of their own, a mirror held up for their own consideration of their deeds and motivations.
I guess they (you) got that. The guys, they just saw a vulnerable target and moved in for the kill. They called me a liar. Called me a pussy. Tore me down. As I responded to one troll: Like my daddy always told me, the best way to get ahead in this life is to tear another man down.
This forum has an amazing array of thoughtful, even passionate commentary, advice, observation and conviction. But is also infected with a viral strain of hostility and resentment that often threatens to obscure the unique and purely positive potential of a community bound together by their marginalized status in in mainstream society.
Without the vindictive and self-righteous trolls, this forum serves as an astoundingly free, open and nonthreatening window to a world that -- when exposed to the outside world -- articulates better than any advocate the true hearts of those engaged in the hobby.
It's just people. With desires. Needs unfulfilled. And consensual agreement to satisfy.
People here are kind, good-hearted and compassionate. Except those who are not. And they tear the whole house down with their self-loathing need to inflict pain on those they feel threatened by. Which comprises everyone who is not as miserable as they are.
Shit, if I got laid as much as you miserable fuckers, I would be one tap-dancing, rose-smelling, head-in-the-clouds beatific.
So what makes you such trolls?
As an involuntary but self-educated member of this community, I expected a number of personal assaults when I posted my story the other day about turning to TER and other escort sites to uncover the truth about the woman I was engaged to, who became an escort during our time together without my knowledge.
Yes, my story was onerously long. And by portraying myself as the dupe, as a fool for love, I anticipated a certain degree of take down. But the hostility my post was greeted with -- exclusively from the male side of the aisle -- was eye-opening.
Maybe it's because I was an outsider, a non-hobbyist, crashing the party. Maybe it's because my story, as tragic as it was, was also an admission that I had been exclusively intimate with one of the highest rated and most sought after escorts on this board.
But likely it's because the women who posted comments, providers all, were nearly unanimous in their support and words of kindness and encouragement.
Which was counterintuitive. My story was an expose of the dirty deeds of a provider, of the deceit and selfishness of one of their own, a mirror held up for their own consideration of their deeds and motivations.
I guess they (you) got that. The guys, they just saw a vulnerable target and moved in for the kill. They called me a liar. Called me a pussy. Tore me down. As I responded to one troll: Like my daddy always told me, the best way to get ahead in this life is to tear another man down.
This forum has an amazing array of thoughtful, even passionate commentary, advice, observation and conviction. But is also infected with a viral strain of hostility and resentment that often threatens to obscure the unique and purely positive potential of a community bound together by their marginalized status in in mainstream society.
Without the vindictive and self-righteous trolls, this forum serves as an astoundingly free, open and nonthreatening window to a world that -- when exposed to the outside world -- articulates better than any advocate the true hearts of those engaged in the hobby.
It's just people. With desires. Needs unfulfilled. And consensual agreement to satisfy.
People here are kind, good-hearted and compassionate. Except those who are not. And they tear the whole house down with their self-loathing need to inflict pain on those they feel threatened by. Which comprises everyone who is not as miserable as they are.
Shit, if I got laid as much as you miserable fuckers, I would be one tap-dancing, rose-smelling, head-in-the-clouds beatific.
So what makes you such trolls?
Dr Who revived
posted
24 / 39
You know you can
very trolls who profess to being the real nice guys in person. I'm reminded of a quote attributed to Lao Tzu:
"Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habit.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny."
"Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habit.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny."
skarphedin
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26 / 39
Doesn't matter to me... you are one of a dozen of cyberbullies in this forum and you, also have reiterated my point. Thanks for doing that.
Re: Why do you sign off on your posts? I also recall that provider...but it wasn't just her.
Many others posted to your drivel...you left, came back, you left, came back....
And here you are once again.
"The Forest Waits"
Many others posted to your drivel...you left, came back, you left, came back....
And here you are once again.
"The Forest Waits"
bonordonor
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28 / 39
Dr Who revived
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30 / 39
Now go and play in some traffic 
the post in this thread?
Doesn't matter to me... you are one of a dozen of cyberbullies in this forum and you, also have reiterated my point. Thanks for doing that.
Doesn't matter to me... you are one of a dozen of cyberbullies in this forum and you, also have reiterated my point. Thanks for doing that.
Re: Why do you sign off on your posts? I also recall that provider...but it wasn't just her.
Many others posted to your drivel...you left, came back, you left, came back....
And here you are once again.
"The Forest Waits"
Many others posted to your drivel...you left, came back, you left, came back....
And here you are once again.
"The Forest Waits"
bonordonor
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31 / 39
I have seen only gentlemanly and polite discourse here of a very high order. Had there been even a hint of rudeness here I would have vociferously complained to management and relentlessly reported all offending posts until the rude posters and their vile spewings were expunged from this site
Robert_BadenPowell
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35 / 39
But this thread is a good example of the risk of a misunderstanding when using the written word only to communicate. Especially when communicating in a language other than your native tongue! However, I am very impressed by your command of what is your fourth language! In fact, based on your post re "leute" (i.e. forgetting a basic rule of the German language), I'd have to say your command of English may be better than your command of German! Good night! I mean, Gute Nacht! 
Do you know what they do with cyberbullies like you?
Re: No..you have continued to be a PITA. Now go and play in some traffic
You're giving all the nice folks in Ohio a really bad rap!
I thought I may have seen your name etched on Big Ben...you know, in London.
You're giving all the nice folks in Ohio a really bad rap!
I thought I may have seen your name etched on Big Ben...you know, in London.
the post in this thread?
Doesn't matter to me... you are one of a dozen of cyberbullies in this forum and you, also have reiterated my point. Thanks for doing that.
Doesn't matter to me... you are one of a dozen of cyberbullies in this forum and you, also have reiterated my point. Thanks for doing that.