Got no show no call no answered on tonight.  After a "more intense" screening than most including verifying employment and a prior day call and same-day 1PM confirmation call with the Hotel name then 6PM comes and her cell goes right to answer mode for the next hour and no response to messages or anything.  No answer no nothing.

So what creative excuse will I end up getting once she builds up the nerve to answer an email or call?

Kid got run over, mother had a heart attack, brother got shot.  I'm really getting tired of the lack of respect many providers have for keeping an appt or at least cancelling in a timely and reasonable way.  It has happened way too much!!  Lots of great reviews and they still flake out like this.

I had three such experiences, all coming within months of each other.  This was a couple of years ago.  I started to grow paranoid that I was on some DNS list.

What was most maddening was that I got no response to repeated emails and voice mails, so I have no idea whether the people came to some harm or what.

If they had at least left a message saying that for reasons they don't wish to reveal that they won't see me, I would have felt somewhat better.  At least I would have been acknowleged.

Two of the providers are people I had seen before and had wonderful times with.  In fact one was making up for a session that they cancelled the week before at the last minute.

I implore any provider reading this to think about what it means to the poor hobbyist when you pull the rug out from under them like this.

Man...she better have a seriously amazing explanation.

Since reviews are not allowed for encounters that did not occur, would it be inappropriate to out her on a regional board?  It sounds like you did everything you could to contact her to hear her side of it.

out her
simple courtesy is a necessity in this world

It wasnt me..lol..I would liek to say that, sorry it sucks..it happens to all of us.  I had a guy..reschedule on me 3 days in a row.then the night of our appt he totally ditched me!  I was funing mad!  I told him, in a voice message to never call me again..that I would never see him.  He called me yesterday asking for an appt!  He must of thought I wouldnt remember who he was, (I did).or that I would want his money no matter what. JERK!

 Iunderstand that things come up..stuff happens..but the person should ALWAYS call, email, to cancel if they must.  It is simply NOT acceptable to ditch a person and then NEVER even call back to say sorry at least.

 If she NEVER calls you back or never contacts you in any way..then go ahead and mention her name if it makes you feel better.  I mean if she has good reviews..then maybe something happend..but she should still call you back.  ANd if she does, no matter what reason she gives you..you cant argue it..because you simply cannot know if its truth or not.  You can only decide not to deal with her again or not.  I think sometimes people are too quick to out others when they are mad or upset..so I would tell you to wait a bit before posting anything.  Becuase if she has good reviews...and isnt known for ditching guys...why post her name?  If people want to backchannel you, then do it that way...but if its really going to make up for everything by posting her name..then thats up to you.

 Hugs, Sidney Starr

before you "out her". At least give her a week, and that is enough time for anyone to get back to you. After that, do what you need to do to get the message out there to all the guys. I do agree with the poster above my post, and will say that people now a days are too quick to react. Remember, something could have happened to the provider, which might have caused her to not show up! If she is any kind of a lady, she will email you, and wish to reschedule with you, and hopefully at a discount

Also remember, life is short, so move on to something better

Enjoy!

Actually, it would be okay to mention this on the regional board according to the answer given on the Newbie Board.

I've seen girls held up in rooms by men who won't leave.  

I've seen girls get LE warnings and too affraid to call their dates to cancel in fear one could be a sting.  

There are many reasons typically responsible women flake out at the last minute.

I hope you get a response from her to clear this up.

I just posted this on my own board..  A few days ago i had an appointment with a very well reviewed and well known provider. The appt. was set two weeks in advance and we e mailed each other at least 12 times leading up to the day.  Four days before I received an e mail from her stating we were all set and she would see me on Monday!! and that she would  let me know by weeks end the final arrangments. Come two days before, I send two e mails..no response, next day two more e mails, no response.. the day before two voicemails, no response.. the day of.. two voicemails one e mail..nothing.. to date- nothing.
Unless something bad happened, God forbid, I clearly do not understand this..  I will not reveal the name of this provider on my local board and prefer to just move on... However, I'm not happy about it, especially since this lady is well thought of in the community and well reviewed... Waiting to hear something...

just to be with you ladies.  Yes, as hard to believe as it is, we do not hobby '24/7'.  We have lives, we have friends, family, jobs and other committments.  When we set aside whatever time we set aside to be with you, it is often difficult, if not impossible,  to "Get that time back"!  Disrespect of that 'our time' is not just disrespectful to us, it is also disrespectful to all those around us, who we might have had time with.

Yes, this, for us, is a hobby, but it is a very personal and intimate hobby.  We like you (or at least most of us like you).  When you pay attention to us as only you can, we are in heaven.... but when you disrespect us?  Well, there is the other place.

I know, things happen, they have happened to me!  but know what, even with the lamest of excuses, I did call and cancel... I was honest... and I did offer to reschedule... you could do the same.

I know that I am preaching to the choir - for the most part.  but spreading the word?  telling others that this is just rude!  would be good.

What I wonder is - are you like this in all aspects of your life - or only with us?

The lady that most recently stood me up (and I'm waiting for her "reason" is like that in every aspect of her life.  It helps to know that it wasn't me, but yeah it still sucks.  I wouldn't do this if I didn't enjoy it, so I feel deprived of a pleasant experience.

I couldn't have written it any better. Last week I had an first time appointment with a provider which I had set up a week in advance, not at the original time I had requested but a time offered by the provider. The appointment was at her in call location.

I emailed her the night before to confirm and received no response. I called her cell 90 minutes before the appointment to get a location and no answer. She calls back 15 minutes later and says she has to cancel cause she is in --- city, (which is 50 miles away from her in call) and can't make it back in time. No big apologies just “I'm here now and I won't be there for you like I promised, oh well.”

Ok, well shit at least she did call back I’ll give her props for that, but then she asked if I wanted to reschedule for next week? I told her that won't be possible.

WTF, I carved out a chunk of my business day, including rescheduling meetings for this appointment and she just blew it off even though she had set the time a week earlier, and she thinks I'm actually going to try again. Ha!

I understand that respect of time for ladies is required and a couple of times I have had to cancel an appointment cause shit happens. In those cases I have been overly apologetic, asked humbly if I could reschedule and brought extra gifts to the reschedule to show my appreciation for their patience. That kind of respect and consideration is a street that should work both ways.

I think of the hobby as a time when I suspend disbelief.  For a while I am with a beautiful lady whom (I hope) is an excellent actress and can convince me for our time together that she is enjoying herself and that the money exchanged is incidental.  I don't think the pretending that the money is indicental happens to me anywhere else, not even in therapy.
 So when I am disrespected by a lady by her being inconsiderate of my time and space it hurts more than just that moment's emptiness.  It really brings home to me how inconsequential I really am to that person.
 I think that is why I like going back to the same lady again.  There is some kind of relationship built on at least a history together.  I let her become consequential in my life and believe the reverse is true.
 My reaction, when blown off, is to not want to see anyone again rather than find someone "even better."  It just becomes too difficult to get in the psychological space to get exposed again.
 I think it is similar to when a guy tells a lady that he loves her in order to get in her pants.  When she realizes that is what happened then trust for men in general goes out the door.  The difference, of course, in the two situations is that with a provider there is nothing implied past the time together.  But my expectation is certainly that at that time, and in preparation for that time, my experience better matter to the other person.
There is my $.04 worth.
B

OK, with some time I'm going to try to give her the benefit of the doubt as that would be a horrid thing to make up as an excuse.  So I let it pass.  What made it so bad is this is the 4th provider that has flaked out on me in 4 months.  Others much worse but it gets old!

1st. After screening we set a tentative Fri 1PM that I was to call and get Hotel Fri morning.  No answer to phone all day.  Emailed me on Mon saying her sister dumped her niece and nephew on her all weekend ( doesn't explain no email or call to cancel appropriately ).  Gave her 2nd try and this time she verified Hotel and room# 2 hours before and then no shows ( the paper was still hanging on the door and no sign of life ).  Later she posted on a message board that family matters had come first in a blanket apology - she must have reneged on several that week.  Later find out from other providers she is a flake and does this often - though the reviews she has are all V good.

#2 I detailed this nightmare in a thread a month ago.  After a great first appt with a provider 1:05 away the 2nd appt she isn't there and her brother tells me her son broke his arm - later find out it was at lunch so she had almost 7 hrs to let me know.  Next try she emails 5 hours before saying she has the flu.  Next try she tm's me 20 min before as I'm trying to get ahold and says she is being raided by the cops because her bro violated parole.  Dumb me gives her 1 last chance and when she doesn't answer my checkup calls from an hour to 10 min before the scheduled time I give up and then she tm's me an hour later asking why I stood her up - the nerve!  I specifically told her after all the problems I would be confirming an hour before and she claims to have been in teh shower but I tried for 50 minutes and she never answered or called back or responded to tm's until 45 minutes after the appt was supposed to start.

#3 Agency confirms morning of.  Get to Hotel and call them for room and they can't get her.  They keep saying they will but after 45 minutes they admit defeat and say they must cancel.  I've complained to them since that 15 min isn't enough between appts and they need to give their girls dinner breaks.  My guess is they had stacked her up and she snapped and went to eat or decided she'd had enuff for one day.

Now this was #4.

And I'm not counting several other cancels same day.  Those suck but at least I didn't waste a long drive and 1-3 hours of my time.

Truthfully what happened to u is not much different than a same-day cancel by a provider, which I've had happen a number of times.  It still sucks that she left u hanging.  But it is soooo much worse when you get washed and ready and drive a fair distance and then end up sitting there with your dick in your hand feeling like an idiot for being duped!

I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt and that would explain the inability to email or call.  I'm just over-sensitive to this since I've had a bunch of incidents in the last few months.