What's the trick??

Duhhhh! Everybody is different as you already figured out. Do you think every guy likes the exact same blowjob as you?

...each woman is different and the key to pleasing us is twofold- you gotta ask what we like and we gotta not be shy and be willing to direct you.

Each individual lady is responsible for her
                  Orgasm.  
She will know her body better than anyone, including another female.

 
She will have to learn to give Directions.
You will have to learn to LISTEN

You seem to be good at taking cues on what feels good or not. Follow the reaction of the woman and you'll be fine. As every one says each woman is different.

As many have said, it definitely varies from woman to woman, sometimes from mood to mood. You just have to pick up on cues, as it appears you have been, and ask her if she likes what you are doing. I always appreciate when someone asks me, or reads my cues, over just doing whatever he wants down there with no regard to how it feels for me. I do the same when giving bj's. I want to do what they enjoy, not what I think is good.  
Don't be afraid to ask. I bet she will appreciate it, and be more than willing to answer.

Depends...

On the day,  my mood and of course my partner

Posted By: statson1234

I am a DATY freak and always looking to perfect my art .  
 I noticed some girls when I finger fuck their G-spot they love it  
 Other ones are not that much into it .  
 Then other ones when I lick the clit some get super turned on and  
 Some are just ok with it .  
   
 Whats the trick here ?  
   
 When Daty I always asses what is better for my partner  
 And once I feel And see what produces the response i was looking for  
 i just continue with it till she orgasms . Sometime they do sometime they don't.  
   
 Do you like G-spot fucking ?  
 Do you like tong on your clit better ?  
 Or do you like both ?  
   
 Whats your pleasure ?  
 Please give pointers , Im hungry for good education here  
   
 Xoxoxo  
   
   
 

Finding what pleasures a lady takes communication and exploration. That is if she is in the mood to be pleasured.  
It's always been a part of the journey for me.  

I think there is a difference between wanting to get a woman to orgasm and wanting to pleasure her to orgasm.  One is about the result and the other is about the journey to the result.  Both can be great.  
Comes down to communication.  

OK,  now I'm seriously horny.  Need to find a delicious pussy to lick.

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each lady is a new adventure. One of my favorite long term lovers responded to my tongue and finger almost immediately and became so excited that at the last minute I would slide up next to her and whisper certain dirty talk in her ear as I held my finger and other hand in just the right places and she would have a wonderful climax and we could repeat this many  times together. I saw a beautiful lady a few weeks ago who acted and talked in such a sexy charming way, but I got no where with DATY with her.  I have met some women who like to be on top and in control and others who like to lay back and be teased and controlled until they lost it.  In short, I don't know a thing about any lady I am meeting for the first time and I don't know much about the lady I live with who will at time respond with tenderness and then passion and other times with and absolute absence of any real interest.  All I can do is hope for instruction and clues and pay careful attention and focus on what she is willing or able to share.....always holding in mind what one of my best lovers (I was 20 and she was in her 40s) told me: "Remember this if nothing else: She cums first....and if she wishes second and third as well."  

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They are different...

In fact, this is where ladies and gentlemen can be quite a bit different. It is generally very easy to know what will work when performing oral on a gentleman, but each lady is unique in what they like stimulated and how much pressure. For some, it is also a little difficult to tell when they have cum and when they are done. Yes, some are like guys in that you know when it hits and when it is over, but others take a few sessions to figure out their individual 'tells'. That is what the fun part of getting to know a lady intimately...their bodies sometimes like to keep the guys (and other ladies) guessing...

Best advice is to ask them to let you know what they like and ask them to be honest if you do something that is not their favorite. Be gentle and committed to their pleasure...that should get you most of the way there...

Good luck...your question is one of the reasons we provide hands-on demonstration and training in this area for ladies and men!