Classy cocksuckers

Post under your real name and we'll take you seriously.  Otherwise you are making all providers look like flakes.

I function well in a corporate environment, that's why I had a successful career before I started escorting.  I don't relish going back to a full time 9-5 but that doesn't mean I'm dysfunctional.

And you know what?  I like to think I can be classy and suck cock too.

If you really are a provider, then you probably don't enjoy your work all that much.  If this business is causing you to have an identity crisis, you might think about taking some time off and reconsidering what you're doing to make a living.  I'd be interested in reading your reviews if you have them.

I don't mind it at all that many escorts describe themselves as classy, well-educated, upscale or what have you.  It's important for me to know and verify these details.  During a session, I'd like to have some level of intelligent conversation with the lady as much as great sex.  I pay the $$$+ for the whole package.  I have no interest in visiting some low-class street hooker.

So basically, I disagree with most of what you're saying.

It creates so much meaning for most that they get upset at the mear mention of it. I would be surprised if you don't get tons of angry and maybe even crazy replies to your thread.

Your truth is true for you. For some it is the same and for others it is not.

Yes, escorts are being paid for thier time and what happens during that time is pretty much understood, but that denies the fantasy or "truth" others choose to create out of this hobby. So my only advice to you or anyone else, is to worry about you and how you are reacting to life.

You have very little to no control over how others act.

Be great for as many people as you can in life and you will most likely have more happiness than less.

who are square pegs in round holes, don't do will in the corporate sandbox and definately have to check our sanity from time to time.

You, at least, have a career that provides some latitude.  I do not.  My job is about as straight as they come.... My marriage?  while I take great joy in saying that it was her fault there are two conslusions in that statement: a) I picked her and agreed to marry her... and b) there were things I did to ensure the failure of the marriage (as much as she).  Either of these conclusions do not reflect well on me.

So, am I bent?  I would say so, but not in a psychopathic way, just in a "hey, I like sex" kinda way.  Scared, yes, but what scares me is finding out that there are much worse out there... people who do scare me... So far, in this hobby I have been lucky, I have met nice ladies who, for the most part, have been kind to me and made me feel welcome - if only for 60 min at a time.  

You write from your own perspective...that's fine.  But your reality is not my reality...nor that of some others, although I'm sure others can and will agree with you (if only secretly...).

What's normal?  What's bent?  What is true happiness, or a sense that you have found your true calling in life??  We all walk our own path in life, and those definitions are never the same for everyone.

Just because I may spend time with someone I wouldn't date in my civilian life, doesn't mean I don't enjoy that time, and that it can't be pleasurable.  Certainly I make different choices on who I spend professional time with, in part, because of monetary compensation...but that is not the only reason or motivation behind what I do or whom I see.

My happiness in this career choice is multi-faceted.  I could try to explain it, but why??  It is about following my own personal path, and that has nothing to do with whether or not you or anyone else find my points valid.

And while I abhor elitist attitudes, and agree on some level that, as escorts, we are all *essentially* doing the same thing regardless of how much is charged, I will take issue with the notion that you cannot be classy and suck cock at the same time.  Class is about how you hold yourself and how you respect others around you, not about what activities you are engaged in (or how much you charge...).  You can be classy and scrub toilets for a living, just as you can be classy sucking cock and gettinga good, messy facial.    

Renting my body does not mean selling my soul...

But that's just my perspective...and just one of a million other perspectives out there.  

Look at yourself first without those rose colored glasses, as that is the only place the truth matters.

Regards,

Megan

it raises an interesting question: what is it that prevents regular women(civvies)from becoming providers? are they all flawed in some way?You're in a better position to answer than me a hobbyist.

Okay, here goes . . .

After I read your post, I contemplated what I was going to say to you. After all, I agree with some of the points you have listed. I interpreted your post as a need to vent about how fantasy gets mixed up with reality at times in this business. However, I find it odd that you bring up the part of "self-promotion." It sounds like a rant that's been going on and displayed on the Phoenix board as of late.

I hate to break it to you, but our jobs are self-promoting (unless you work for an agency). That is what this board is for: to make new friends, to flirt, to add helpful contributions to someone who might want advice, to market ourselves and maybe just to chat because we're bored. It's not always about self-promoting. And, even if it was, if you don't like those who choose to post often just move on and not read that person's post.

As far as class, money doesn't buy class. Being a Christian does not buy class. Baking cookies for your kids class does not buy class (although it's a nice gesture). I believe "class" comes within one's soul. If you treat people the way you would like to be treated, are a friend to those who truly count on you, and if you are courteous to everyone (garbage collector, waitor, street walker, homeless person) then you have class. Just my opinon, for what it's worth.

Hugs,
Ciara

It seems like you might be burned out. Have you considered retiring ?  Maybe you need to look at the reason(s) why you have to do constant marketing ? Read books and do things outside of the hobby to focus on the positive.

and if you go shining a floodlight and looking with a magnifying glass at ANYTHING, you'll see the flaws of whatever-it-is.

Sanity is a relative template that no one I've ever met completely personifies, in or out of the hobby...

We do this job because we're good at it, regardless of whether or not we are "bent". There are many posters here in many lines of work, and I'm betting that we'd be hard pressed to do some of the things they do professionally with any degree of success.

And like Ciara said, for the most part (DUH) we are posting on here because it is free promotion, tho for me at least half of my posts are here because there are few places to discuss things hobby-related, and for me to be less "bent", I have to be able to think things thru and get feedback.

Then you'll not only be bent, you'll be bent over. Have fun whoever you are!!

When my rose-colored glasses fall off, I put them back on immediately. But I do it in a really cool, macho way like Chad Everett from "Medical Center". Chicks love that.

I am a sl*t and I do lots of men.. professionally AND nonprofessionally.. and I dont lie about it.  Authenticity in this profession actually can be a bootiful thing.  Of course sometimes the s*x suxs and my jaw hurts and my butt is on fire from being pounded for the 3rd time that day and I am tired and I dont wanna open the door for my 4th.. and that is when I take out my vibrator AGAIN and masserbate about what a dirty rotten little tramp I am.. and I cum and I cum and I cummmmmm cause I LOVE IT! But I will say.. I am very lucky because even though I did not get the gift of small talk and nonliteral butt likkin or a 9-5 career attention span.. I did get the ability to eroticize just about anything.  Sooo in the end it really is ALL ABOUT me.. and money just isnt enough to keep me interested without the YUMMMM factor.

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The delusion that everybody thinks like you?  

I've talked to a few great **retired** providers, who no longer had an interest in the self-promotion of which you write.  One of them is a woman I will never likely meet in person, and no longer goes by the only identity I know her by. I have to say, she's the same person before and after her retirement.  Her views, her writing style, her outlook on life haven't changed.  She writes mostly of the same things.

I never considered her to be "bent."  She was able to bring herself to sessions, and her clients paid for that.  I've met a few tryster who I consider bent, but not so much because they are trysters or adult entertainers.  

If you have trouble with a 9-5 job, or subordinating yourself to a boss, or if you're a non-conformist, then being an independent tryster might be an option, but it doesn't mean you're really cut out for it.

However, as a male, I had the same problems.  I managed to groom myself to the task and hide the corners on my square peg, and obscure the fact that I don't fit. I might have taken your career track, but I would have had to see 12 clients at a flat 50 bucks a day-- with no hope of a raise.  

No, I didn't really check on that, but it's my best estimate.  

Normal biology says that you will crave male attention, like it or not.  Biology also says that you are more likely to have sex with a male who provides resources as opposed to one who doesn't.  Females are like that in almost any species.  

People like attention.  Buried beneath shyness or social anxiety, attention indicates power.  Sex makes people feel powerful, too.  Ladies in this business can overdose on both.

I will agree that you are in a business, but there is no business like it.  Your clients will pay more for your services than for **any other professional.**  Think about that.  This goes to the heart of our biology.  It's all not about sex, it's about all business.  But if it weren't all about sex, it wouldn't be about business.  

You do have a deep ambivalence about your work.     And perhaps sometimes, it can approach identity crisis or panic.  But take some pride.  You bring pleasure to the world like few others can.