Lately I've been frequenting a certain nude club in LA, particularly on nights when no provider action is available.  Last time I went, I met this gorgeous curvy latina and we did the table dance thing.  Not being a regular, I got more than I expected via body-to-body, touching,  squeezing of nice breasts (even w/implants I liked them).  Nothing overtly sexual, but highly sensual.  I would pay top $$$ for one night w/this girl, but I don't want to demean her or come off as disrespectful with the idea of us hooking up outside the club.  

Though there are some lookers (at least in pics) on my TER faves list available, I'm mad hot for this stripper babe.  It's causing a real dillemma for me because I'd rather put down a few twenties for about 30" worth of hot sensuality and touching of a beautiful girl than a similar price for a cheap lay or BJ.  

So what do I do?  Keep fantasizing?  Use the power of suggestion?  Ask in a subtle way?  I just want more of this babe's lovin', even if it means I have to skip a car payment this month.

Any feedback or shared experiences would be helpful, either here or via IM.  Thanks!

I wouldn't hold my breath too long hoping for an OTC encounter. Contrary to what strip club boards would have you believe most dancers just dance. If she is by chance available as an escort she will find a way to let you know once she trusts you. Note: Trust, in this case, equals spending money on a regular basis and NOT asking her if she is an escort.
Many years ago I saw my first Brazilian escort because I had the hots for a Brazilian stripper....did it work? Well, I had great sex with a beautiful woman and spent less time visiting clubs and more time visiting escorts. Eventually both the stripper and the escort moved on but that's par for the course in both occupations.

LOL Great reply!

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As someone who was in the stripping scene for about two decades before becoming a full time hobbiest, I would say the odds are not in your favor.  There were a number of stripper's that I wanted to have fun with outside the club, but $$... for nothing more than the LD's.  Yes, got lucky a few times, but you will be better off seeing well reviewed ladies here than hoping hit paydirt at the clubs.  Mostly, you will just go home with blue balls.  Of course, if you're just knocking down a few with your buds, and not expecting anything, then it's worth it, I guess...

First, stay the course of NOT demeaning or disrepecting the naked lady dancing on your table for twenties.  Keep it subtle, like you suggest.  Ration your implant squeezing to 3 kneads per song.  Then use the power of suggestion and wear a pair of Kreskin glasses to amplify your hypnotic grace.  You'll be signing over that car title in no time, I just know it.

Tell her you want to take her home with you.  She'll say no, unless you smell of money or have something else going for you, and then tell her you have 3 bills going to waste in your pocket.  She'll still say NO, but at least you'll know you tried.  

You may even get lucky.  It's been known to happen.  Don't waste your money establishing rapport.

Women know within .5 seconds if they would be willing to f*ck you.  Extra dances aren't going to help.  She'll either have decided that she would, and the money greases the wheel, or she won't and you can hire a provider.

tell her that you want to take her for a ride in your G5.  Ask her if she'd like to "hop on over to Paris" for a weekend.  You'll also buy her a nice wardrobe while there.

That'll do it.

I have been in this situation myself.  My own solution: I asked her if she ever "danced privately, outside of the club."  Her response, initially, was, "I never really thought about it."  Then she brought it up again a couple visits later as, "Are you still wanting that?"

Recently, she said, "We'd have to work out the timing and the details." Each time, I have tried to be as light-hearted and respectful as I can, while still letting her know I was serious.

Last week, she seemed to actually be pushing me for it, but I resisted since I had a date set up with a much anticipated provider a couple of days later.  (That date was fantastic, by the way.)

So, not really an answer, but the process has been interesting and fun and it may just happen.  Will the reality live up to the hype?  Probably not.  But the hunt is fun!

Be respectful but realize she has probably been asked this before, I have gotten take out from a few  strippers. And a couple I was able to get oral or full service from in the vip. Some approached me offering more than a dance some I hinted by asking do you ever do bachelor parties, or private shows. Take out works best IMO with dancers from the day shift they don't make the same amount of money as the night shift dancers, and some dancers are more apt to see you after their shift ends at 7 pm rather than 2 am. Take out with a dancer costs more than seeing an escort, I call it priming the pump. Which means you have to buy dances from her before you even approach the subject of take out.

but don't go overboard. There is a fine line between being a gentleman and being a sucker, especially in strip clubs.

Remember, she is is the business of teasing, not providing. This is not to say that you have no chance, but don't be too afraid of hurting her feelings. Most strippers will have no respect for a guy who is "too" nice. I don't mean be an asshole like her biker exboyfriend, but don't take take too long to get to the point or she will figure(rightly) that there is more money in not fucking you and continuing to sell lap dances, then there is money in actually fucking you.

There is a trick when dealing with a striper.  Their job is to con you out of your money.  Your job if interested is to con the con.  Here is what I have done.  I visit with them and talk about parties, what she likes to do for fun.  Give her compliments.  Wait for awhile before you buy a dance.  Maybe ask her to come back as you just want to chill.  Ask them if they have a boyfriend.  If not ask if she would ever want to go on a date sometime.  Or if she would do a private dance outside the club.  One stripper I met was so pretty I thought she would be fun to take pictures of.  She had a boyfriend.  I told her she looked very photogenic.  I told her how I would pose her and stuff and if she ever wanted me to do a portfolio for her to call me.  Two days later she called.  The pictures turned out great but the sex was even better!

make her think that you just don't give a shit.  Especially if you seem to have some major character defect.

They can't resist "fixing" you.

I must say that posing the subtle question of if they dance privately is the best idea.  Granted, I'm not naive enough to believe that I have a shot and I don't drive a Z3 or have a brick of Benjamins in my pocket.  But I can at least toss the idea out there.  If not, then I agree with the alternate option of finding a provider like her, which I'm sure there's plenty of.  Thanks all.

Have had a few. Mostly not as cost effective and satisfying as a date with a well reviewed provider.
First time was in the vip room of a club. (i have found that the vip room helps them get more frisky)I was massageing her and she was grinding on me and seemed to be getting into it and so I just flat out asked her for a BJ. To my surprise, she said yes for 3 benjamins. This was before i started hobbying, so i said yes. (As i said, not cost effective)
Next time, same club another stripper who was kind of a friend of a friend. I had chatted her up a few times, not really trying for anything. Took her back for a private dance, and she start dancing on me, and telling me she is very attracted to me (I have no idea why) Next thing I know, she pulls off my belt, loosens my pants and starts grabbing my guy. This then proceeded to BBBJTCIMNQNS. Didn't raslly ask for anything , but I gave her 3 benjamins anyway.
Next time at another club did a few privates with a girl, and was chatting her up and she starts telling me how she would like to make some real money. She gives me her #. Called her up a few weeks later and set up a date. Bottom line, she charged me $500, I would have given her an 8 or 9 for looks , but maybe a 6 for performance. not really worth it.
Another time in Vegas was getting lap dances from a pair of lovely ladies at Spearmint Rhino. They basicly asked if they could give me a private show at my hotel, full service, for $800 each. Well, little head was in charge then, so I went for it. Not exactly a ripoff, but also over priced for the service - again 9 looks, but 6 in performance.
Overall, my experience is that strippers will charge you more and give you less than a well reviewed provider, unless you happen to get very lucky, but the chase is part of the fun.

That is a very good point.  I never said this was a cost effective way of pursuing pleasure - at least not if your sole aim is to get laid.

I'd venture to guess that I have spent upwards of $500 on this particular woman over the course of a year or so.  But, I feel that the entertainment value has been excellent.

Besides, if I ever did manage to pull it off and it actually lived up to it's potential (unlikely), it would be a story I could tell my grandchildren ... uh, er ... maybe not.

We are what we are... and not what we do.  I now date several strippers... all are nice... but none take the place of my sweet sunshine lady... I miss her so much - my heart aches and I cry when I think of her.

Maybe this gal is all that to you.  And maybe not....  maybe she "just gives good lap dance"  

All I would suggest is that you just talk to the lady in question as if you had met in a normal situation... bumped shopping carts at the grocery store... met at your kids school function.... church... or even - in a normal civie bar...

how many have I picked up... lots over the years... but this one... stole my heart... and the hearts of all in my family...  including my ex-wife...  life is funny that way... yea... it is.  PM me for more if you are interested.