My ATF said on three separate occasions she had dreams about me, during an overnight and even said I she felt more comfortable with me than her old FWB, and gave some really nice are for my apartment. I'm glad that during the summer I don't have much time to hobby, so maybe some time apart will do us some good we've been seeing each other too often, and has gotten a little closer than I would like.
even though she makes you forget it's a service - she remembers - and keeps the quality up the proper boundaries stay in place ie, she does not start invading your private space and time she does not start asking for loans or showing other signs of exploitation then it's probably okay - the added bit of friendliness and genuine interest in itself can be very nice - but the idea of having ATFs makes me nervous - boundaries are really important in "the hobby".....
I had a long-term "relationship" in the business, and I really struggled to find ways to thank the gentleman for his incredible caring and generosity. Never mind the problem of what to give the man who has everything! The real problem was my fear of giving the impression that I was wanting (or offering) anything more than the arrangement that we had originally agreed upon. In the end, communication was key.
So - regarding the gifts - I wouldn't assign motives to your lady's actions. A simple conversation might set you both at ease. My best to you both!
As long as she's not trying to take advantage through some emotional control (loans, etc.)
My regular and I are pretty tight and while my weekly Benjamins certainly help her, she has done a lot to help me through some very difficult, highly stressful times in the past couple months, being very understanding and supportive, as well as throwing the clock away. I just can't understand why some guys on TER automatically objectify all providers as jaded and grasping. They are people that come in all shapes, sizes and especially personalities who are either trying to make a living or supplement the income from a low-paying job. They can be good friends, too. Sure, I pay her every week, but she's worth it as a person as well as a provider.
I've had several sexy dreams about clients and given gifts besides all the OTC. I do it for the ones (plural) that I'm particularly fond of and hope they keep coming to see me. The ATF gal might just be a giving person. She may do things like that for a couple other clients that she's fond of. I'm not just talking about for the purpose of customer retention. Some of y'all are just so damn charming, funny, reliable and great at DATY. Why on earth wouldn't we do any reasonable thing to keep you coming back?
Posted By: 2labman
As long as she's not trying to take advantage through some emotional control (loans, etc.)
My regular and I are pretty tight and while my weekly Benjamins certainly help her, she has done a lot to help me through some very difficult, highly stressful times in the past couple months, being very understanding and supportive, as well as throwing the clock away.
I just can't understand why some guys on TER automatically objectify all providers as jaded and grasping. They are people that come in all shapes, sizes and especially personalities who are either trying to make a living or supplement the income from a low-paying job. They can be good friends, too. Sure, I pay her every week, but she's worth it as a person as well as a provider.
I agree with 2labmann here. ATFs are people too and I'm sure she's professional enough to keep it "real." I just had a conversation about boundaries with my ATF and she told me that she preferred to be my ATF "with no strings" attached. I think the world of her because she's a sweet person and she's been doing this for awhile so she's 100% professional. I worry about boundaries more than she does she does, but I'm glad she cleared things up. Sounds like you're doing the same and I'd suggest a conversation to clarify things. You may be "over-thinking" things. Just my .02.
Just as long as you keep in mind what she does for Money and in no way interfere with that, then I think you should enjoy the close relationship you have with her.
When I first saw my ATF she was Awesome. Treated me Great and very Polite. After about one month of seeing her she asked me to Drive her Home. From that point I never thought or expected I'd be close to her over a year later. She tells me alot about her Life, Good and Bad. After our Sessions sometimes I take her to Dinner and Shopping. She's really Sweet and Adorable. Sometimes it's difficult not to fall for some of these Girls.
Have had similar experience and agree its hard not to fall for these ladies, but you have to remember this is how they make their living. I just try to consider them as a friend with paid benefits that way I don't fall for them. Its ok to be friends with them outside of the hobby. They are people to and if you both enjoy each others company then great. It's also nice cause usually there is no time limit with them and maybe a discount every so often and if your very lucky even a freebie every now and then but don't expect that it only happened for me once a long time ago.
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