Why would anyone who have given me a low score in appearance, would want to see me again? Also, why in the heck would I want to see him again, if given a low score. The atmosphere would not be perfect one. If he and I were to have met again, all in my mind I would be thinking: if I am that butt ugly, why are you here with me????? I would have to admit, that I would be given a complex problem lol I wouldn't feel like myself and nor really into the session. I think that if a guy intends on giving the girl an honest score, and it happens to be even lower than a 7 in looks (which is considered attractive versus the 6, as in nice), he shouldn't try to bother at seeing her again. Most likely she would have read that review and decided to give him a 1=a definite no see again.
Obviously, the reviewer isn't talking to us guys here. It makes you wonder which parts of the review are written for the guys and which parts are a love letter to the provider. While I try to sort out the reviews that are done annonymously from those that are requested/known to the provider, it isn't always possible. It's pretty hard to rate a lady less than an 8 in appearance if you are going to see her again and she reads the review. Until now I have used the same handle for posting and reviewing. But I am going to separate them from now on. Once I wrote a review and got an email the next day thanking me for the nice review. TER wants details in the reviews, and if you give details, the lady will know who you are. Bye, bye objectivity. A long-time favorite lady I have been seeing also said she liked my review. Yikes! The review was so...graphic....but I like her so much also as a person, so I felt really exposed for the shallow creep I am. Some day I will review her again, and I will have to balance the awareness that she is going to read it with the responsibility to be honest to TER. I have been asked by providers to write reviews, but I don't do it in response to a request unless I was planning to review her anyway. Other times, when I was aware that a provider asks for reviews, I wasn't, maybe because the session didn't go all that well. This kind of management of reviews can influence the overall average for a provider. Does anyone out there have a good way to sort out these biases in order to get a better reading? Thanks.
I envisioned a bus driver named Ralph making that statement after his 2nd or 3rd cup of coffee with a delectable,lusty provider whose name happens to be Alice...lol
So...its a definite thumbs up review on a reasonably priced provider with that definitive wry,happy "kramden" smile!
and if he didn't have a great time....Well...lol..everyone knows the saying....."To the Moooooon"
"It's pretty hard to rate a lady less than an 8 in appearance if you are going to see her again and she reads the review." -- SteepSlope
good point. you make several good points in fact. as long as we know they'll be reading our reviews (and like hawks!) we're not completely free to be objective
welcome to the imperfect world we live in. i'd posit my own (imperfect) solution to this, but there's no chance in hell it will be adopted!
With the average descriptive review here on TER, it's not hard for a provider to tell who wrote the review, because each visit with its details is unique. Most of us can tell without much difficulty.
Now consider this brief review: We did DFK, DATY, BBBJ, covered mish, and I finished in doggie. She cleaned me up and I went home. (end of review)
Well, that might satisfy some technical details and it would certainly keep your identity unknown, but most would agree it's not a particularly helpful review.
I do think your idea of separating your posting handle from your review handle is good to help preserve your anonymity.
Also, you don't have to mention TER when you make an appointment and the lady would never know you post here at all. However, you may lose one of the "perks" of being a known TER poster; i.e. priority appointments with the ladies.
For example, if I'm visiting a city and have a limited number of slots, those slots are going to go first to TER posters who let me know their TER name when they email me. It's a matter of comfort and security (the LE threat basically goes away).
Anyway, you bring up some valid points about improving objectivity in reviews. Hopefully there are more ideas out there to improve the process.
maybe you can share with us whether(if ever) you received a review that hurt your feelings, and the guy came to see you again? (maybe this is rare, since a bad review makes it unlikely the guy would return)
Of course, you could also stop returning his calls.
to be affected by potential influence from ladies.
It is a tough choice and is getting harder to make by the day. I have actually foregone several chances to hook up with very well reviewed ladies simply because I didn't want to reveal my TER handle in the appointment process.
Due to the nature of my hobbying habits and my current circumstances, it is hard for me to pass the more restricted screening process. Since I have a large number of reviews and a relatively high profile presence in TER boards, I am sure I can get more mileage or preferential treatments from many ladies if I revealed my TER handle. But this is not my MO.
I prefer to be treated by a lady based on the way I treated them not because of my membership in TER. I guess my pride gets in the way.
Thanks for bringing this up. I had figured that revealing one's TER handle to a provider was just a common courtesy.
Regarding the original question by SteepSlope, the obvious answer to sorting out the biases would be 1) read additional reviews on the provider, and 2) read additional reviews by the reviewer. Both help to put things in perspective.
On another point, I have not found it difficult to give less than 8 for appearance when I plan to see a lady again. I have done it a number of times. To me, the appearance score is an objective (somewhat) indication of where the lady ranks in the universe of providers. Totally unrelated to my subjective feelings about the lady's beauty (which generally ranks higher.)
anybody can call up a girl and tell her i'm "A Spectator" from TER and ride the coat tails of your fame and fortune to hobby hog-heaven! i mean ... since you don't have a "mailbox" that a provider could send you secret passwords and such ... now, what would be hard to pull off with, is a VIP member's handle!
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(*) NOTE to all ye providers in providerland, if EVER anyone appraoches you and says he is "singleton" from TER then please DON'T do any of these things:
1. believe him
2. give him that mega-discount you reserved just for me
3. NOT call the police, cuz you liked his jokes!
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also, since when did a 7 become such a humiliatingly low score?? if 10 is "DDG" (drop-dead-gorgeous) and 5 is "fair" or by statistical definition "AVERAGE" -- and let's face it, the rest of the world is littered with 5s not 7s! -- then when and where and how and why did a near-mid score between 10 and 5 (that is ~7) become such an anathema that providers are willing to throw a guy out just for being rated a 7 by him (instead of an 8)???
I received an email from a lady who has since been de-listed asking me if I was going to write the review like I promised. I replied by letting her know that we had never met.
This is a very disturbing situation because the first thing that flashed though my mind was that this imposter acted like a jerk with the lady in question, or worse might have done harm to her or another provider using my handle.
Either way it made me sick to my stomach to think that someone, not so scrupulous as I was out there using my TER Handle to get perks with the providers.
I don’t currently post as actively as I was back then, but still, the worrisome part of the situation was that if any untoward activity by this imposter was in progress the ladies on the receiving end would be emailing Staff or posting on these boards about it.
I took action and emailed staff explaining the situation, he seemed to think that it wasn’t a real problem and that made me feel a little better. However, the reason that I sent the email was to go down on record that the person posing as me to the providers was in fact an imposter. Last thing I wanted was to have the police knocking on my door one day and arresting me for assault or worse on one of the providers this guy had been seeing.
And if the idiot who was using my handle is reading this, I hope you have the guts to use your own handle/alias going forward.
Why would anyone who have given me a low score in appearance, would want to see me again? Also, why in the heck would I want to see him again, if given a low score. The atmosphere would not be perfect one. If he and I were to have met again, all in my mind I would be thinking: if I am that butt ugly, why are you here with me????? I would have to admit, that I would be given a complex problem lol I wouldn't feel like myself and nor really into the session. I think that if a guy intends on giving the girl an honest score, and it happens to be even lower than a 7 in looks (which is considered attractive versus the 6, as in nice), he shouldn't try to bother at seeing her again. Most likely she would have read that review and decided to give him a 1=a definite no see again.
Would it make any difference to you if the guy who gave you 6 in looks also gave you a 9 in performance? If that's how I rated a lady, I'd be back in a heartbeat.
Besides, as singleton pointed out, what's so awful about a 6? I guess it's about each person's self-perception.
Your post is so true, a while back a gal 24 was in town, very average looks and small breast, not your typical A provider but every guy on our local list who saw her gave her an A+ for performance and many of us saw her several times. She loved it all s*cking and F*cking and never wanted to quite. Her looks score 5 or 6 but she sure pleased the crowed
As a provider, I do not judge my client by what he rated me on my reviews. I feel the review itself is strong enough, and I am not "that swallow" that I wouldn't seee a client again because of how he came up with the numbers.
I have two 5's a 6 and a 7 for appearance, who cares I know I am not a looker, guys don't stand on the street whisling at me either. I'M JUST ME.
Like me, don't like me, it's your loss not mine..........
because we all know that men are shallow to be obsessed with a woman's looks. So if instead you think about performance ratings, then this is what I was trying to get at:
the purpose of TER is ratings. That means comparing. That means if one provider's score is higher than another provider's score, then it indicates a difference in performance. What bothers me is that guys give high ratings because the provider knows who they are. In the LA area, there are some reviewers who give 8, 9 and 10 all the time for performance. I have followed some of these scores in making appointments and have been VERY surprised sometimes. If a well-known, very well-reviewed lady who everybody on the discussion board has heard of gets 9s, then following one of her reviewers to another "9" should be somewhat consistent, you would think. But I have had some big surprises that cannot be covered by YMMV. Maybe there should also be an expression to the effect of "your mileage may vary, and the bridge may be out." Not too coherent, but this has been a useful exchange. Thanks
Who cares if he says 'You're the greatest baby'? He knows she is going to read it and that one line was for her. In the case of anonymity, or using all kinds of different names, why bother? For me, I'm always going to know who it is - as I'm quite low volume. So, no surprise there. I'm a very honest person, and I expect honesty from the guys. Everything is subject to interpretation, anyway..Most of my gents are not reviewers. Fine with me. If they would like to do a review, I'm delighted. I want simple, easy, fun and pleasurable all the way. Eventually, I don't even want to be visible! No website, no reviews, just a simple call and code word and let's go! Keep it simple, sexy.. Anybody that calls for a date will already be plenty aware before he makes the call.
I don't ask for reviews. That's like asking for a birthday present. I want them to write a review because they WANT to. You mention 'graphic'. I don't appreciate graphic. That's why, like Tammy, I like to read their posts and their reviews before accepting the date. I want to know their way of thinking, and their review style. Graphic, vulgar or insensitive is not attractive..
Rickbethel: I agree. I always thought, and still do, that revealing one’s TER handle was just common courtesy. And, while on that note, I may get a PM from Mr. TER Handle, and then he’ll email me, using his email address [email protected], and then sign it ‘ Bill’, and I’m supposed to relate this how??? Knowing the TER handles should be common courtesy. I have nightmares of accepting a date from someone, who didn’t provide me with one, and then finding out after the fact that it’s someone like Peckerhead in SD. Not fair. You might not know my REAL name, but you know exactly which Provider you’re getting.
Chrissy, you wrote:
“For example, if I'm visiting a city and have a limited number of slots, those slots are going to go first to TER posters who let me know their TER name when they email me. It's a matter of comfort and security (the LE threat basically goes away). “
You’re kidding, right? You DO know that LE has full on TER handles, review handles, and fake reviews up, right? Perhaps you meant AFTER you’ve verified it thoroughly, as I certainly hope so..
Spectator, I agree with Singleton. And any further comment, which I do have, I can’t say because it needs to be PM’d, and we can’t PM you.. I do like your post, however. We’ve similar styles..
And, once again, Dio, you hit it right on. What’s wrong with a 6? Heck, even a 5 is middle road – or average. Now, a 4 might have me in tears..but, if a guy felt I was a 6, then write it. I’m not going to jump off a cliff over a 6.
What did I just write in an email tonight? I enjoy the ‘dating’ life of being a Provider because I want simplicity, and pleasure - just to enjoy. All the other aspects of our life have enough problems, and enough BS of it’s own..let’s keep this part fun and free of it.
So much emphasis on the reviews! Good grief! Write one, don’t write one – as long as they are ‘knocking on my door’ for lovin’..I’m a happy girl.
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