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Recently a provider I see frequently, told me I could use her real name during sessions.  At first I was taken back and didn’t believe her but she showed me her drivers license as proof.  I realize this is a big leap of trust on her part and a situation like this doesn’t happen frequently or at all.  

Have any of you ladies done this before and what would your advice be in this situation?

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Posted By: lopaw
When there is a trust between me and a provider they tell me their real name.

No, and I don't think I personally would do it. Since she offered and is fine with it, go on ahead. :)

It's that simple.

Posted By: GlutealsGuy
..Have any of you ladies done this before and what would your advice be in this situation?

There are guys that I have seen for years. They still call me Shai and will continue to. I agree with the others that she feels comfortable with you. Just make sure you only use her real name when you are with her meaning don't tell anyone else! shhhhh! ;)  



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A few know my name and have even been around my family, but I have known them for many years. It's a rarity for me to do that and it requires a lot of trust and a huge comfort level. I prefer to keep the hobby and my personal life separate.

mentioned in conversation the family name and business . I'm sure we've crossed paths IRL in that business .

Posted By: GlutealsGuy
Recently a provider I see frequently, told me I could use her real name during sessions.  At first I was taken back and didn’t believe her but she showed me her drivers license as proof.  I realize this is a big leap of trust on her part and a situation like this doesn’t happen frequently or at all.    
Have any of you ladies done this before and what would your advice be in this situation?
Is my "real name."  

Once my rendezvous verification process is complete, I will know who my date is...so, he might as well know who I am. ;)

...there are many reasons why. As said above, don't overthink it.  

Sexy Ton

will still draw blood if you're not careful how you handle it.

A few do, most don't.  Clients I've traveled with do. It's not a super deal breaker what's the difference if my name is Alyssa, Ali, Jessica etc.  If I'm out on a date especially in Chicago it's likely I will run into at least one person I know so it's good that I have a story and my date can play cool.

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I once asked a lady what name to make out on the check. She said her friends call her "Cash."

who takes checks, pleeeeez, share her name with the rest of us.

I know some will take Slovakians.

Posted By: coeur-de-lion
who takes checks, pleeeeez, share her name with the rest of us.  

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Very useful when guys get just a little too interested...

 But yes. Giving out "real" names seems more common than you might think after you have seen a provider a few times.  I do my best to forget them.  I am not giving "Elizabeth" benjamins;  I want "Trixie the wonderslut"!

I have known the names of at least 8 providers that I can think of quickly.  Much more private info also.  Home towns, kids names. facebook addresses, parents names, and more.  Must be my honest face.    bigdell

Today's client can become tomorrow's stalker. There are times when a gal does need to give up some real info like in the case of traveling with a guy but those situations are not the norm.

Giving up real info is bad both ways, but for a girl to do it, she is placing herself at higher risk of physical abuse. Some girls feel compelled to tell clients they get close to their real name. Nice sentiment, bad idea.

I would suggest having a second fake name and give that to the dudes they get close to. That will make the guy feel a bit more connected to her but she can still maintain her anonyminity which can be vital to her self preservation.

With everyone....She offered so go with it......

I have so many regulars who it's just hilarious to me that I know them so well yet they call me by my working name.i have a few I would trust to tell but haven't.probably just to keep things "legit".

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I think it's important to maintain the provider/client p4p perspective when in a session. There's a few providers who!ve given me their real names, but I use those only outside of sexual play situations, i.e. just talking as friends.  I think it helps minimize the chance of complications. It seems to work, for me at least.

I would not read into at all. She seems like a sweet women (provider) that just wants you to know her name. She probably feels super comfortable with you. Just take it as a compliment.

I consider it an honor to be trusted with that info and never EVER use that real name in emails, texts or telephone conversations.  In the privacy of a session where its just us two alone, sure, but never where it could accidentally get out.  Those names go to my grave in my head and written no where and only used in person.

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