I had a provider who was not satisfied with the scores I gave her on the reviews email me back expressing disstatisfaction and make negative comments about myself and things like that. Eventhough I felt my review and scores were good, apparently the provider felt anything less than a 10 and 10 to be a bad score. So eventhough I was thinking of seeing this provider in the future, I am not going to now. What else would any of you do in this situation.....Be nice and explain? Or just ignore all communications from her? Thanks
Someone ought to castrate all those mangina's
Yeah, those guys really piss me off. I'm also amazed at the sense of entitlement some women develope. If you want a good review, do a good job.
Nor do you want to get mixed up in any sort of email or texting battle with her. Above all else DO NOT bring it to the boards. Whoever she is or whatever she did there will be White Knights coming out of the woodwork to take her side. Just move on and, as you said, don't bother to see her again.
Barring inacurate information in your review, you're in the clear.
Plenty of reviews state YMMV, maybe that's the case of how you felt. Certainly doesn't sound like you torched her.
You can also explain that she can dispute your review with TER. As long as you didn't blast her and put lot's of emotional jargon in your review (the worse the review, the more factual and dispassionate you have to make it), you should be good.
If she continues, you can either:
A) send a second response to let her know you won't be coerced... you can also explain your options which you would consider if further bothered regarding this.
B) Options include contacting TER admin (keep her emails and PMs) regarding her behavior or
C) Revise your review to include what she has done - post session - and reduce your rating further
As always, tempter your actions/choices with the amount of drama she can cause for you.
My VIP membership was revoked a couple of years ago, I think due to a provider dissatisfied 7s, more than she deserved. At the time my credits were revoked, the review was removed, so that seems to be case IMHO. I don't get any credit anymore due to her. I considered buying membership just to read all the PMs, but do I really want to give money to support that kind action?
I have decided to ignore her and not worry about it. Thanks for the replies. I have a year's worth of paid VIP anyways, so not worried about her refuting the review and revoking my VIP.
I have had more than one girl tell me they only wanted a review if it were a 10/10. As soon as I hear that I will not write a review. I saw a girl recently who I thought deserved a 10 for performance. She told me she was mad at some guy who gave her an 8 for looks. She thought it was an insult. I thought it was about right. I decided it was best not to write a review. Unfortunately I think we are seeing a lot of score inflation due to this.
But she deserved a 10 in performance. I don't want to downgrade her performance because of her honesty. She didn't tell me what score to give, only to say she thought she deserved better than an 8 the other guy gave her.
If I were reading a review, the 10 for performance is more important than the looks score. So I figure it's her loss not to get the 10 for performance.
I also plan to see her again so I can always write a review in the future.
These things are not supposed to be as subjective as it may seem. There are certain parameters that will guide you to certain grades. Did she meet those or not? If the numbers become totally subjective they are meaningless and, therefore, not helpful to anyone.
And I might lower her performance score because of her insistence of a 10 or nothing. If a lady asks that I don't write one I don't but if she said something like only if I get a 10 or "only if it is good", I will write it for sure. I don't play the "only if it is good" game.
I just wrote my first review, which, the way things go around here, may never be posted. I tried to err on the side of being somewhat generous and toward the high end of her previous reviews. I did think she deserved it, even though she wasn't perfect for me, because she really did go "above and beyond." I hope she's OK with it but I'm not going back to bump up the scores (which were 8s). I will say I have a better understanding that it's a tough line to walk, being fair to someone you've been intimate with but not wanting to deceive your fellow clients.
PS - For what it's worth, I'm 14 for 15 on reviews writing / published. The one that wasn't published absolutely slated a shocking new provider who subsequently left the business before the review was checked, and therefore had her page removed which was the reason for rejection. Be honest, and write for hobbyists, while being fair to providers good and bad.
That's silly, dishonest and imo a bit tacky to give a lower score just to stick it to her. Good or bad or in the middle if you're going to write one be honest.
How is it silly, dishonest, or tacky to have her review score lowered because she is complaining about a fair review written by anther client to the OP putting pressure on that client to write her a 10/10 review?
I am not trying to stick it to anyone but if I am being pressured to write a good review it affects my experience in a negative way, thus she earns a lower score. It is not acceptable to only ask for good scores on a review in any business, that is tacky, silly and dishonest. Lowering her score a bit because of a bad business practice is not.
I don't write reviews if the session was not all it could be because of me. I don't write a review of any session that is a couple session with my wife. I don't write reviews for ladies that don't want one and I do ask, unless I feel I have to warn people, but if they want a review ether good or bad I will write one. It will be an honest one at that.
Please note I said I MIGHT lower her performance score. If it was said as a joke with no real pressure it won't even enter the equation as it will have no affect on my feelings on the session, but if she is serious it will lower my fun level and the score will reflect that in a negative way.
I try to write honest reviews, if she wants one, even if they are good, bad or somewhere in the middle. I don't play the "only if it is good" game. If she wants a "good" review she will get a review good or not.
Again, how is it silly, dishonest, or tacky to have her review score lowered because she is complaining about a fare review written buy anther client to the OP or anyone else putting pressure on that him/her to write her a 10/10 review, especially if it affected the session? I just don't get it. Maybe I am just a bit dense. TrulyMsMocha, I would really like to know.
I can read QUITE WELL. Follow me.....I read that you said YOU MIGHT. And I was stating that DOING SO would be tacky and dishonest and silly to stick it to her that way by doing so. It is not uncommon for guys to do that especially here. Of course you shouldn't write a review only if what happened IN the session went good. Lowering a score because you don't like how she talked to you or bugged you about a review before you even post it is sticking it to her. That whole two wrongs doesn't make a right line comes to mind.
And just Mocha is fine. Yes it's complain to ask for reviews, to ask for 10/10. Yes It is ALSO tacky to complain because she didn't get a 10/10 ... everyone shouldn't expect a 10/10 every time. But that's something else I WASN'T talking about her at that time. But hey about her, lowering her her score because of bad business is it has nothing to do with her session at that time does it, it would be tainted and it MIGHT be better not to write one at all if you can't just go off of how the session went but hey. Writing about what happens during makes sense, after just kind of doesn't. If it went bad during that's fine but not because she bugged you after. I always thought a review was supposed to be about the session, so now how nice she is or isn't afterwards matters in how you rate too? Be honest about how it went during and state you will or won't repeat and out her here if you want or just don't do one.
Business are judged and reviewed by what happened before and after a sale is made all the time and it is perfectly fair. I hate to compare what you ladies do to a restaurant but because it shows my point I will. You sit down at a cafe and the waiter the serves you is rude but the food is great, wouldn't the service of that waiter affect your opinion of the restaurant or any review you would write of it? It would affect my opinion and review of said cafe.
My experience starts at first contact, and ends after any thank you notes are exchanged. It is very fair to judge the whole experience not just the part were the lady is playing with mister happy. The whole experience determines if I will repeat or not. It is not just how well the lady sucks and fucks. We are all judged form fist contact on. It is the same with any business even mine.
I don't just write just good reviews and I judge the whole experience from booking on. I think it is the only fair way to write a review. Fair for both the lady and the guys who read my reviews. The way the lady runs her business affects her sessions and that is a fact. To not take the experience as a whole into consideration in a review in my opinion would taint the review.
I am not talking about using reviews as a weapon to punish a provider. I don't do that. I am talking about grading my whole experience just like I do with every other service I use. I don't write review for ladies that prefer not to have any, unless she is a ripe off, B&S, upseller, robber or I think others need to be warned about her for some other legitimate reason. I don't write reviews if I am the one who is off thus negatively affecting the session. I give every lady an opportunity to not to be reviewed at her request.
I guess we just have a different point of view on what is important enough to grade on. That is why I don't like the TER number system as it is extremely subjective at best. I alway try to be fair to all involved but others are free to disagree if I am "sticking it to" anyone or not. We just see things differently and there is nothing wrong with that.
P.S. I never meant to imply you can't read or to attack you, Mocha, in any way in this, my earlier reply, or any other post. I have great respect for the ladies in this business. If I insulted you in any way I am sorry, it was not intentional. I do get a bit defensive sometimes. I don't agree with your point of view in this matter, but I do find you to be an intelligent, respectable lady from what I can tell from your posts. Take care.
Just read her website and you will see why she is sucking lemons.
I was not addressing the OP but instead I was replying to mindlessfun's post.
The OP should just let his review stand and never see the lady again but save any emails/voice-mails/texts just in case she don't drop it. If she doesn't he should let TER know what is up with the saved emails and stuff as proof of harassment.
I don't see any reason to lower her score because of her unhappiness with someone else's score. The bottom line is, I liked her performance and want to see her again. That is more important to me than writing a review. I will to enjoy her company again. I suspect that at some point I will decide to write a review based on more experience. I don't see any rules that say you need to write a review after the first meeting.
If her complaining did not bother you then you shouldn't lower your score. If it did then you should. If you don't want to write a review then don't. Based on your post I thought you where inclined to but was afraid of offending her, so decided not to. But if that is not the case, don't write the review. There is no rule saying you ever have to write a review, ever, despite what some around here claim.
If you decide later you want to write said review be honest even if it doesn't make her happy. If she deserves an 8 in appearance give her an 8. Don't let her displeasure change her score. That was the whole point of my thread.
The "only if it is good" thing is a pet peeve of mine. Made my post sound harsher than it was meant to be. I did not mean it as an attack on you at all only on the providers that try to manipulate there reviews instead of letting the truth be known. Those ladies are little better in my book than those B&S hookers out there. Both are trying to mislead there clients.
I'm a little confused. Thought TER handle was for whitelisting and a whole slew of community communications. If you can't share that, she really has messed up the system.
I guess if you provide references but not the ter handle you can post honest reviews without being attacked or blackmailed.
Either the provider is bitching about what was said or not said of the "editors" are changing what I said in the review. Or they disallow it for some secret and unexplained reason. This site use to be so much better until they really started kissing the providers asses.
with the new Top 100 providers...some providers want to be on that list so they expect higher and higher grades and they will try to have reviews with low grades removed to stay on such list..that is pathetic!!