Good day all.  I have been fortunate to be able to see my favorite friend around once every 2-3 weeks for almost two years.  We have traveled, spent overnights together and enjoyed each other over that time.  Recently, as I have been trying to set up our next date, I am getting a vibe that I might not be as welcome as I used to be.  No "I would love to see you then...", but rather "I can be available then...."  Also, some pretty nice offerings (trips, events, etc.) have recently been declined.  Her published schedule seems to indicate actually more availability in the past than what had been the case before.  Have I worn out my "welcome?"  How do you tell?  Note that I always come with flowers, a gift, never negotiate, pay what is asked, host at 5-star hotels with candles and music, am fit and in shape, only email when trying to set up and confirm so do not hassle her, respect her privacy, book well in advance and am always clean and dressed professionally for our visits.  Thank you for your thoughts, comments and opinions.

any time you get the sense that you are less appreciated and *especially* if quality and quantity of service drops off,  go somewhere else, or at the very least take a break and then reduce frequency.  

and it may be that she's simply burned out on you and run out of ways to entertain you.

not one who doesn't!

totally on target response.

What I've noticed is that a gal tends to morph over time.  Sometimes it's that she's chasing for a real BF/GF.  Sometimes she is seeking a different type of hooking deal (sugar baby).  Sometimes she gets involved with "the gang from the other side of the tracks" and likes playing there.

if a working girl can convert you into a faux boyfriend, appeal to your ego and get you treating her like a civvie date,  it's a lot less wear and tear for the money.    

Isn't that what you are saying? Maybe you are giving her that vibe and have become more attached, at least from her point of view, lately.

Honestly, if her schedule shows more availability, she's probably 1) getting way more emails and trying to hurry through them and 2) already busy and cannot accept your trips.  

Sometimes it really isn't you. Or her

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Thank you!  For those in the "camp" of take a break or find someone else...would you just "walk" or first "talk"?

When you start believing it is long term and real, you have become a moron.

Be it business, personal or some gray area. Don't walk, ask her if she's feeling any pressure because of the frequency. You may not get an honest answer but there will be cues. Who knows she may have something going on in her personal life and can only do those short answers. You'll never know what's going on until you communicate with her about this.

I think it's highly doubtful that she wants to dump you as a client. You sound delightful so maybe you need a little distraction with another lady, but if you like your favorite lady don't walk just maybe skip a month. Have some fun with a new lady then go back to your special favorite.

Also I have to ask...has she been different is person, or just in emails?

xoxo,

Steph

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But that's me.  I'm not much of a repeater, I usually have a rotation of providers I see, so that I don't fall into the situation you've described.  

performanc

Thank you for your reply, and I agree entirely that good communication is essential.  I hate to just walk.  We have talked about frequency, etc. before and I was told all is well.  To answer your question, it has just been recent emails.  We actually have not see each other for a month now but will soon.

So see how things go on the actual date. Actions speak much louder than words!

Maybe in the beginning you were the great client clean, "fit and in shape", visited every 2-3 weeks and offered trips and dinner.  

and by that I mean thinks you're a good client ( not this OTC nonsense) she will not forget you after not seeing her for 3-6 months between appointments. Caveat being many ladies dont last past 2-3 years in the business. From personal experience I would say over a year can cause loss of momentum.

Waaaaaay too much IMO.

how? C'mon now...

Steph

But there really is a connection that human beings develop when they get naked and press their bodies together. Call it magic. Call it science. You can even call it love, but around the lowlife degenerates on this board.

And he never said she didn't have other clients. Did you read his OP, I'm not seeing where he overstepped.

Steph

I have seen a woman in this industry for a great number of months, so I know how frequency can lead to unrealistic expectations. On both sides.

if I don't commit, I don't have to hear shit.

"...only email when trying to set up and confirm so do not hassle her."

Now you're talking about "recent emails" even though "We actually have not see each other for a month..."

If you haven't seen her for a month, why the "recent emails?"  If you only email her to set up and confirm appointments, what's going on with these recent emails?  Maybe you ARE hassling her.

All he said was that she doesn't seem quite as "eager" to schedule their next date. He didn't mention anything about her performance being sub-par.

He said it...I just regurgitated it.

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how? C'mon now...

Steph

People jump off tall buildings based on comments made here. Please be a responsible poster...or are you a poser?

I was speaking more to the general situation not so much to the specifics of the OP -  

Do you type with a etch-a-sketch?

She is not stringing you along – quite the opposite, in fact. She senses that you may be blurring the boundaries so she is limiting her availability for outings and using the language of business to nudge you back to reality without hurting your feelings or creating an awkward scene.  
 
This is a common strategy when an otherwise good, long term client seems to be getting too attached

...been trying to set up his next appointment, but he's also emailing her for travel dates and to take her to events.  That doesn't sound like his claim that he only only emails when trying to set up and confirm.

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I may need to re-read the Hobbyist 101 book.

“Revenue without Romance – Maintaining Boundaries During Compensated Intimacy.”

If you read it to me  

that she is taking you for granted.  You might want to see some other ladies and then try this ATF again to see if there is a renewed spark.

Just a tone to her emails!

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she could read the phone book and it would be hot.

Lots of characters, but no plot.

Plot?  What's that? If you are doing the reading, appropriately clad, no plot is required.

However there are men who actually like and want the "GFE choreography" and don't feel they are being cheated in any way. Not every guy is in this for the 59 minutes of fucking and the minute to get dressed and leave.  

See me for 10 years twice a month. The first 5 was once a week but a giant tax bill dropped it to half. This guy is not all about the sex, we have a great time chatting and massaging etc. Some guys want more than a couple of holes to fill, I know hard to imagine on a fuck board but those are the guys I see and I love it!

For someone who tries to come across as worldly with a sense of class and money etc you are really very short sighted and ignorant to the needs of the rest of the people here. You keep pointing out that any hooker that does not provide the type service YOU like is short changing her clients.  

And is waiting for him to leave. Sometimes firing a john is a shit show. This way may not be perfect but eventually he will get the hint.

the boards are for expressing opinions - personal opinions and viewpoints, and for pulling one another's chain on occasion

Agree...  a rotation of favorites smooths things out & gives options if one is unavailable.  If she has declined events that you think she'd have accepted before...  she might be busy...  as In a relationship or other demands on her time.  Without burning bridges, you might explore what's going on in her life.  Accept what she says & don'y pry.

however in the context of this discussion I think it is fair to *add to the discussion* the viewpoint that what this sport is about is sex for money and that the measurement of customer satisfaction is "performance"  

nd the spelling police occupied.