What would you do and this did happen to me. Last year around this time I saw a pornstar who was in town. Made the connection and we hooked up. The deal was $1500 for the hour. I went to her in call location. Beautiful hotel and did the deal. After an hour, I was like “I’m going to get going” and her response was “why you have some place to go it’s ok just stay and hang out I’ve got nothing going on”. So I did. She opened up her mini bar and it’s was around 11-12:00 in the afternoon. I like morning sex too. So I had no place to go so sure let’s do some day drinking. We had a drink then small talk turned into great conversations. She then asked if I was hungry and you want to get something to eat. “Sure!” Was my reply. So we went to this local steakhouse and sat at the bar and had lunch. The shots started and it was go time. This is now probably 4pm the buzz is going and she says let’s do something fun and she suggested ping pong. Yes ping pong. So there’s this place downtown called SPIN that’s a ping pong bar.  So now we’re spending the day together and we’re really clicking in the “friends” way. I tell her I have to go take my dog out and she was like “I’ll come with you” and she did. We laughing rolling around having a great time. We walk the dog and now it’s dinner time she goes back to the hotel changes as I do and we meet back up for dinner. I’m thinking ok this fun... Enjoy it.  We have dinner and martinis and we go back to her room where we have more drinks out of her mini bar because it was restocked while we were gone. Now, she wants party favors. I’m like “fuck, here we go.” I call up a guy I know that knows a guy and now we’re out  chasing the snowman around town. Now little head is drunk. Getting horny. I’m feeling I’ve put some time and effort  in to this all day and night. I’m wondering now is there going to be a pay off (meaning of course sex). It’s now 1:00am there’s nothing but drunken high babble and shes starting to get sloppy. I finally give in and I put her to bed and left like a gentleman. Next morning I wake up with a text saying let’s grab breakfast. I meet her for breakfast and here it comes. She asks, “I’m leaving later on today can I borrow $1000 because I have to pay my kids tuition and it’s due right now but I don’t have time to deposit the money I’ve made this week”. She must have thought she had a third eye the way I looked at her. She said “she would pay me back the following week via cash app”. So with hesitation I did do it. All I could think about was all the time I spent with her the night before and day which was her suggestion and it was all on my dime which the whole day and night with everything was about another $1000 PLUS.  

Seems like she gave some OTC time and thought maybe that's worth 1k which is quite cheap.  A full day with a SP not to mention pornstar would cost at least 3-5k even if it's just social time.
I would say maybe forget about it unless u really need the $.  She may get offended If u expect a payback and future session may not be good.

You had a pretty good time to me despite the money issue. Can’t say if she had planned to ask for money all along since she, obviously, didn’t work anymore that day and wanted to recoup any possible losses if she could. I’ve never been in any sort of situation like that, so I can’t offer any sound advice. But, hopefully, the memories from having a fairly fun day with her takes the sting out of the predicament at least a little. Good luck, Snake.

but maybe with the benefit of hindsight she justifies it as the cost of letting you spend the better part of a day with a "Porn Star."  Hell, she might think you got off cheap and that you owe HER money.

But what’s kicks my ass is for a total of $3G I could have gotten a Rockstar local and spent the day and have sex more than once...

Once you have their money, you never give it back.

that you never loan providers money (perhaps in keeping with Fisher's post) -- it's either a gift or a loss?

If so, ask for it. You risk burning bridges, but it is what it is.  

Well, its not really calling it out, but basically letting her know you aint cool with it.

I think it depends on whether you want to keep seeing her.  Even a whole day of social time for $1000 is a relatively painless hit when you paid $1500 for an hour of sex.  The way you make next time a better deal for you is to  tap her again before you go to dinner, and then don't let her get as drunk  before going back to the room.  For me, at my age, three pops in a whole day would be pushing it, but I haven't tried lately when its spread out over 12 hours.  When I spend Saturday nights overnight with my hooker girlfriend, I get two pops, and then after EIGHT hours of sleep, I can manage a third in the morning.  (You;re wondering why I'm on TER tonight instead of fucking her . . . . she's on her period.  I will go for breakfast and a blow job in the morning - lol).   But the point is, even if she gets naked with you in anticipation of a third go-around, fucks you and sucks you, but the third pop just isn't coming, I think you still had a good day for the extra $1000.  

Time to start editing my own post when I’ve been hanging out with GaGa’s bartender Jose C

friends and family because you can just kiss it goodbye or something like that. And now add hookers to the list.  

Now you’re talking! Inquiring minds want to know. 😎

Hookers and blow.  Whatcha gonna do?!  At least you didn't catch fire like Richard Pryor...

My friend, after reading your great story, i got involved with a provider, with a kid , for about 3 yrs. My story is worse, because i got hooked into credit care co -sign issues. 1500$ an hr is a steep fee, but after the fun you had ? the xtra 1000$ is like stealing. If she is a mature , understanding woman? I would in a soft, quiet manner mention the loan. Ask her what is the most comfortable option for re-pay and see what transpires. If she reacts aggressively then forget it. Or she may do the "credit angle"? For 2500$ for at least 24hrs!! You da' Man#

I haven't been in this situation, but I suggest this approach...

YOU GOT HUSTLED

but it's what I would call "uncollectable debt" lol

of whether she thinks she owes it, the likely outcome of mentioning collecting is her ghosting you.

I’m looking at it as a $2000+ loss. Meaning the $1000 “help” for the tuition cost PLUS $1000+ that was spent throughout the day and night feeding her everything under the sun (lunch, drinks, more drinks, ping pong bar, more drinks, dinner, party favors, etc.). The lunch and dinner ALONE averaged approximately $350 each (with drinks, shots, sake and oh, food. We didn’t go to Taco Bell. We went to a steakhouse and a swank sushi bar). I’m not adding in the $1500/hr playtime donation that we did have.  

...the arena you are in.

I have never spent the entire day with a brand new client OTK. You obviously trusted her enough to loan her $1k. I would not have gave her any money based on what occurred. Getting drunk all day with a new friend, and not running to the bank once during your day of binge drinking. If I paid tuition for my children it would be my priority over spending my day with you for free drinks, food & ping pong. Porn star who loves to get fucked up, and evades her Mom responsibilities, and ignores paying you back 1 year later...

Anything you decided to spend off the clock she does not owe you. The more you think about it, the more you can justify adding on things like OTC expenses as a "loss".  If you are really over it, who are you thinking about calling her out on the PS Board?  

Actually, that applies to ANYONE. If you need or expect the money back, get it in writing, notarized, preferably on a contract drawn up by an attorney. Otherwise, either say no or write it off as a gift.

I agree. If it was me and I wasn’t worried about the cash and I didn’t care whether I saw her again then I would call her and politely remind her of the event. If she acknowledges and offers a credit towards P4P that’s awesome. If she says no or feigns forgetfulness, then move on and say thanks and don’t book a session. If she gets mad and ghosts/blocks you, nothing lost since you don’t care if you see her again.  IMO it’s worth a phone call. Just my $0.02. Cheers!

This way she has time to think it over before responding.

OTC date expenses with a provider that I do with a civvie girl.  If they are expenses I would have incurred with a civvie girl, then they are just part of cost of dating.  It makes no difference that the lady is a provider.  When I invite providers out or on vacations, I pay for everything just like I would if it was a girl I met at work or the grocery store.  

And you pay a multiple.

Lil lady wanted some surgery, soooooo, I paid for that $7K, with just the promise to make me happy in the future for that amount--AND SHE DID, well $6K, or so;P~~~ The look in those blue eyes as she dined on some fat sausage and warm gravy, over and over, has burned a memory in the recesses of my memory, never to be forgotten;P~~~ I helped her, she returned the favor many times over) Guess she was one in a million, now gone on with her life. If you got the money to play/dance with these ladies,  just shrug it off and don't let it eat at your mind! AND, for Heaven's sake, don't fall in love with these lovely ladies, they(most) don't want you to do that, anyhoo!  PS, I don't do that anymore--LOL Good luck with getting your mind straight on what YOU need to do going forward)

Maybe write off as donation to non-profit if you are inclined to do so.

I paid in advance because I had already spent what I thought was enough time with them. One honored it, the other didn't.  

I’ve been in a similar situation...if you were to continue, you would be gambling that your initial investment will multiply into more pops at a lower rate/pop. In other words, that your sunk costs will pay off later.