Fast: busy, controlling, aggressive, hurried, analytical, stressed, superficial, impatient, quantity over quality

Slow: calm, careful, receptive, still, intuitive, unhurried, patient, reflective, quality over quantity. It is all about making real and meaningful connections  

 
Which style is yours or where would you like to be or are you already there?  

I'm an advocate of slowness.  
There is something so beautiful about slowing down...

Preparation

There is nothing else on your mind, I recommend deep breathing beforehand if feeling a little tense. Sometimes it takes a little practice, wherever you are coming from - a crazy busy hectic week at work. To stop, switch over into a state of clarity and mindfulness But it's worth it and I promise you don't have to be a disciplined student of tantra, yoga,  
or wherever else they teach these philosophies
The Art of Slow is not some type of otherworldly cult
It's a natural state of being

Stimulation of the Senses

Pre-Date

Initial contact - Mental, Written, or Verbal

After sharing the basic necessary details over email/phone
take the time to really introduce yourself, could be in one or two lines, describing what kind of person you are  
and what kind of experience you think you would enjoy,
offering the provider more insight. Show her you took the extra time, effort to "connect" if she feels drawn to your offer
she will likely put in her best effort ensuring a mutually enjoyable experience.

--The Voice--

How powerful is the human voice?
When someone sounds like a jerk, impersonal, insensitive
or soothing, attentive, inviting
not from their words but from the sound of their voice
how can you just sense that
how powerful is that
a voice that repels you, blocks your heart
or makes you feel relaxed and 'safe' going into a date

The date

So there you are....you've slowed down  
and maybe feeling excited, a bit nervous

Visual  

What details do you first notice

Do you linger longer on the face
are they genuinely smiling and seem welcoming
or do they barely make eye contact
does it feel fake, insincere, rushed right from the beginning  

body language

Be sure you notice everything - in a gentle manner
Every perfection (or imperfection) the Whole of what your partner is
The other person will feel awareness of this and feel more accepted

Now some of you may feel insecure of the thought of someone noticing your "imperfections"  
but the very root of sensuality depends on accepting all your parts and being at peace with it

Do you greet each other with a slow caressing hug
or it doesn't seem natural?

Do you take their hand and kiss it - women can do this too, let's not be sexist  
Lean in closer, breathe in their essence, place your hand around the gentle curve of the neck, placing a light feathery kiss

Conversation

I think here people really get a bit confused
What is conversation? Is it just moving your mouth randomly "small talk"

There is also a fine line between what's too personal and impersonal
Example of Too personal - Soooo ...how'd ya get into This? wink wink
Impersonal - You've got Nothing to say. Blank stare, no visible emotions  

I also think in face to face interpersonal communication  
is where it really all comes out

It's an opportunity to discover each others personalities  
- and if you're good at sort of understanding a person  
through what they like to talk about,  
are they very mental/analytical, lengthy, detail oriented
vague, dreamy
lighthearted, full of laughter
you can often get a sense of  
how they would like to be treated in bed

Speaking of which some of you Fast laner's might be wondering at this point
OK NOW CAN WE FINALLY GET TO THE PART WHERE THE SEX STARTS???

To which I'd have to say  
the actual act of lovemaking is something you have to build yourself up to
and is the last part of the journey
a lengthy pleasurable journey...of the unknown
each experience is different and unique
and I will get into that on my next post  
The Art of Slow Sensual Lovemaking Part 11

Meanwhile you'll just have to be patient  
and contribute your thoughts

I would love to hear about  
how you like to be treated, prepare
and your past positive/disappointing experiences  
leading up to the Big Moment