Hi everyone.

If the answer is not "A LOT" than don't even think about jumping right into SO. Try seeing if she will "date you" first. and by date, I don't mean P4P. Or better yet, ask her to go on an OTC weekend trip together, if you get the slightest bit of resistance to taking a non paid trip together put all thoughts of becoming BF/GF together out of your mind.

You're not JUST asking her to be your significant other.  You're asking her to give up her current means of income, as well.

You are dating an accountant. Would you want her to stop being an accountant just to date you? Think of her escorting as her career. If she decides to date you. You should feel lucky and enjoy the ride, but that doesn't mean you should expect her to change her life for you. Maybe you should look for an SO elsewhere. Dating an escort is definitely not for the faint hearted.  

Accountants don't make shit. I would much rather replace an accountant wages than have to make up the difference for what a decent hooker makes. lol

You don't even seem to know if she even wants to be your SO. It doesn't sound like your willing to take her as she is. Yes her choice of career is part of who she is, just like what you do is part of who  you are. You don't even know if she wants to leave this career. This sounds like it could work, not.  

do not bring the results after everything goes bad to the board.
It will be your fault and you will not like what the board tells you.

Your wanting her to change who she is to be with you. I don't think that has worked in any relationship ever.

It makes me wonder if "that" is what he really wants with her, if he's not getting it already!

Ask for her services for free and see where that gets you and add that you want NO protection..that should endear you to her. Wow I can hear those wedding bells, or is it a warning siren???

but what it usually leads to are husbands finding TER after years of having their wives trying to change them, not the other way around.

I still enjoy the interview process of the newbie CPA's.  I think you'd be surprised at the starting pay today.  And the benefits are outstanding as well.  Frankly the hookers who want to escape from their world simply are trapped.  I think the OP is offering this gal a chance to make a life.

your answer.

Lol if someone HAS to change in a relationship it is doomed for failure. Your getting together with someone you think you might be happy with if they would just listen to you (lol). Its still getting together with someone you MIGHT like MAYBE one day. Seems like bad odds to me. If you cant accept a person for who they are don't force a SO relationship, its like asking for misery. I say NO THANKS. I'm happy and positive where im at now, I for sure wouldn't trade it for misery just to have an SO.

If you don't know a) whether she enjoys the business or would like to get out, or b) if she even wants an exclusive SO...you don't know her well enough. Be patient, let things evolve, if the SO thing is meant to be it will become clear and manifest naturally.  

Go match.com and leave the girl alone . Lifestyle indeed . Pollie

Don't expect that she will change for you. The benefits are usually too good for her to leave. Especially if there are dependents involved. I would imagine it is difficult for some to transition to or even want a civvie job. Be prepared to live in reality. It is very challenging and can be extremely painful. I know from first hand. If you are not one for open relationships, don't bother. Love conquers most. Not all. I know. I tried and lost the love of my life.  

maybe you are on the wrong site.. try a "dating to get married" site.
OR, better yet.. try asking her to be a SO, and change her life for you (only knowing her for 6 months).. because i want to see the follow up post next week..when you ask..

Why are there always so many lame postings in reply to a question?

Sounds great but the way it actually goes is  something like this prove how much you
Love me and want me by starving near to death because I can't afford much and compromising everything you want and believe in while I support my wife which btw I'm never leaving or divorcing and honey I'll be over right after I shovel her driveway ,fix the garage roof and go on a vacation with her ! yeah that lol pipe dreams up in smoke baby ! Pollie  

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...doesn't always work for the long term...I adore my guys to the moon and back...but, I see them at their best...I don't deal with farting, the news paper left all over the dining table, dumb ass forgot to pay the water bill AGAIN, snoring so loud I can't sleep so now I am putting roid cream under my eyes to make the puffiness subside, pee on the toilet rim , toothpaste in the sink...we met via the hobby so I am supposed to greet you at the door on my knees, wearing pricey lingerie with my mouth open and ready for service mmmmmmm the scent of a t-bone hot off the grill in February is wafting through the air...that sounds so super appealing................................................NOT  no no no no no NOPE  don't do it

If you're GAGambler, then hookers just cage match one another to give you free sex and to win the right to run off in to the sunset with you.

lot of men (even myself) have been guilty of sectioning women off in to two categories:

search and you shall fine. Why put yourself through something like that and even if she says yes most likely she won't leave it regardless of the money you give her. How do I know ....well.... exhibit A myself, there is nothing I long for, nothing I want that my SO won't give me. Grew up wearing play less shoes at times with holes in them. He spent 2,700 on a pair of shoes FOR ME. 2,700 on f*cking shoes. He said he wanted my first significant pair to be the most memorable.  

What's it going to be like when the very worst starts slipping out? And let's not mention that when you drop your bombshell, you're likely going to lose a great situation. A recent lady told me she loved me, but we're not dropping the hobby to start up a relationship. We both understand not to ruin a great thing.

I spend a lot of time on another board where guys talk about their miserable marital sexless lives. They always have a past gf who was amazing in bed. It makes me think they didn't see her as "marriage material" which is so snobby. I think it's got to be easier to turn a sexual woman into someone you'd bring home to Mother than it is to turn a frigid WASP into a "freak in the sheets."  Just imho lol

I would advise you to try asking; I'd say most people on the board would say it will not work and the chances of success are very slim.

I am still not sure whether you are a BSU or someone who actually hates hookers, but I do have to agree with this post of yours with one caveat. "If you feel you have to get married", then why not a hooker? I don't feel any compunction to get married again,  and I never allowed myself to be trapped in a sexless relationship. Maybe that's the reason I am almost always in a good mood and as long as I don't ever go completely broke I will never lack for sex in my life.

first genuine belly laugh I've had on TER in months....

Six months together is a very short time to expect someone to totally change their life, and commit to you.  

So do you wear those $2,700 shoes when working?

Payless, not playless.  But when we play for pay, they are easy to confuse.    

Apples and oranges. You can't ask her to give up escorting and expect her to be happy. The money is far too good and far too addicting.Unless you are wealthy and can afford to keep her in the lifestyle she is accustomed to forget it.
Why would you want to ruin a good thing by starting a relationship? Be in love for an hour or two at a time, pay her and enjoy it.

He doesn't let her wear them ... you crazy?!

Of course she can give up the business it's rare that you find someone you enjoyed being with very very rare and if she's a working girl enjoys your company damn that's a rare occasion but the big kicker is she has to find something to do with her passion she can't get bored she's obviously used to running her own business so please replace it with something she likes doing maybe give her a storefront art gallery or get her busy doing something she loves and I bet your workout beautiful scene and I know I've done it I've stopped working for someone and it was well worth it even though he he cheated on me we're still good friends and it hurt but it was well worth the enjoyment I had with him so do it it's good for the heart. If you ever need someone to talk to give me a call I'll encourage the both of you hugs and kisses stay good love always Jennifer

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