I understand the caution SP's take when agreeing to an arrangement with a new customer. I feel for her sense of "impending doom" so to speak wether I am LE. I have tried with three different ladies to arrange a pleasant evening and seem to get nowhere. They all ask if I've seen a provider and I say truthfully no. I hide nothing in my conversations (email) and tell them everything they want to know. It can't be my looks because it never gets that far. (I'm actually a nice looking man). I'm white male, married 19 years now, and age 38. I've never been with another woman other than my wife. I'm about as clean as they cum. SO WHAT'S UP? What am I doing wrong? I even registered with discreet.com to meet a ladies "screening requirements" that alone should show that I was at least serious about an encounter.
Hello All you have to do for most is give a work number that goes thru someone, (most will use whatever name you want them to), they will ask for you and either be swiched to your line or to voice mail. Or many will ask to see your Driver's Lic. Don't worry they aren't going to keep it or write down your info. It is just a precaution.
with all due respect, this belongs on the newbie board; but I'll answer here anyway
Another method of screening rather than provider references, some providers will verify your employment. Usually this just involves someway, somehow prove to her that you are indeed who you say you are, utilizing business card, paystub, company phone extension or email, etc. This depends of course on your comfort level divulging this information, but any well reviewed reputable lady will verify/use this information discreetly.
There are also many agencies that do not require a reference. This may not be your first choice, however it may give you that all important first experience so that you can be screened by the provider(s) you are more interested in.
keep searching, there are alternatives available best regards, mr.man
I've done all that. I gave all information. Although I'm new, I'm not a newbie so that's why its in general. Been trying for 6 months now. I know all the right things, but they still aren't working. ERGO....General help not simple newbie advise..But thanks for you help.
First of all, you have found this site so you should look for a provider with several reviews from men that seem to have consistent reviews. The biggest thing that will make a lady run the other way from you is questions about specific services or acts. That is just crying LE!
Read reviews and select those with physical charateristics and who perform services in a manner that makes you comfortable. Don't talk to much about your 19 year relationship with your wife or your happy family. Just give the lady information that would make her feel comfortable that you are the person that you say you are.
If you read the reviews and give a lady information to make her feel comfortable you should be OK.
I know where your coming from. It took me a few tries to find that special lady willing to "take a chance" with me, a newbie. I personally have good responses from my emails but when it gets to the phone conversation I am so nervous. I try to sound confident, just like I am talking to anyone else but when you know there is a beautiful lady of your dreams on the phone, well thats another story. My advice to you is above all be honest, treat ALL the ladies like a princess, don't be forward or pushy. Remember what your Daddy told you, "they hold 50% of the money and 100% of all the p---y". So go at THERE pace. You are paying for there time only, it's up to the lady if there is anything else. If there is she'll let you know. My 2 cents from a one timer thats in his 50's.
Here's the first phone conversation I ever had with my first encounter:
Me: "hello...I saw your ad on cityvibe.com. I want to make an appointment please."
Provider: "Ok...what time? Have you seen other providers before?"
Me: "1pm please. I am completely new at this... I have no idea what the procedures are.... How do I know you're not a cop?"
Provider: "how do I know YOU'RE not one?"
Me: "ok..i'll just have to take a chance. Give me your address."
Provider: "hold it right there.... when you get close to my place, I'll give you a call. Give me your number."
Me: "so is it safe and everything? Do you get tested? Am I going to catch diseases?"
Provider: "we'll both have to be careful because I don't know if you have any diseases. I get tested every 3 months..."
Me: "can I see your medical report?"
Provider: "it's with the AEA (Adult entertainers association)... can't show it to you."
Me: "are you a porn star?"
Provider: "yeah,...I've done some videos...."
Me: "here's my phone number..... I'll wait to hear from you?"
Provider: "ok...see you at 1pm"
Basically, because this provider is very experienced, she could sense that I was in fact legit. There's no way a cop can pretend to be this inexperienced. Anyway, gotta start somewhere.
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