just be made love to? I am not talking about the wham bam thank you sir, kind of sex, that most clients give you. But I am talking about passionate, caring (for that special moment) feeling between 2 people. Lately, I have been feeling I am missing out on something special Maybe, it's because of the fact that I haven't dated anyone exclusively for over a year (?). But, when I think about dating someone, it actually makes me sick to my stomach, for I feel that I cannot commit to anyone, while being in this business. But yet, I am craving that emotional bonded sex. Do you ever get that way, in this business? Am I wrong for feeling like this??? All opinions are welcomed.

YES!

Sometimes I get that feeling.  Sometimes 2 or three times a day!

No business, no screening, no appointments ... just a man that TAKES ME!  Plunges into me with all his power .. uses me in every way and all ways and leaving me feeling used, spent and put in my place.  Sometimes I want that man, any man, to bring his friends and make me the centerpiece of the most carnal buffet I can imagine!!!!!!

But then I wait a few minutes ... and that feeling goes away on it's own.

I'm guessing you don't have someone in your personal life? That's what you're missing, and your feeling that way has little to do with being a Provider. It has to do with being human. You want somebody. Just like many people do.

I've been with my SO for four years. I can't imagine being a Provider any other way because that's the only way I know it. Having someone in my personal life makes it so much easier to be a Provider (for me), and being a Provider has so greatly made a difference for me in my personal life. I couldn't do one without the other.

Where there's a will, there's a way. And yes, you CAN be with someone while in the business. Most (?) of us are. And, YES, it does work, so don't feel sad that you can't or are on an isolated Provider Island. You're not. So, chin up, sweetie and start putting out the 'feelers' because there's someone for you that your lifestyle will work for him, too!

Hope that helps..

Sedona ...

It's what I call 'grounding'    This is a great business for a young girl to make a good income as long as she doesn't get sucked into this world and mistake it for anything OTHER than a job.

A good SO is, I think, the best way to remain grounded (although not the only way)

I really seperate my sex life from the biz.
I have to stay in my happy place and sane.
I have said again and again the encounters I have had with men in the hobby ( i sometimes dont like that word client ) have far exceeded dating situations. The men in my personal life ABSOLUTELY do not take the time those on a professional level have taken to reach nirvana with me.
Dating= lets be nice enough until she drops her drawers ( which i stopped doing a long time ago and left many blue balled men pissed)
Hobby= lets go somewhere I cant havent or am not able to because of (home marriage family etc) Lets go there together and lets do it more than ONCE !!!!

This is what works for me personally. Everyone is totally different. I am really really a very private independent solitary person when it comes to "men"
I am surrounded by an enormous family and community I am a very involved civic member of.. so I am just weird that way .. ya kno

not having a SO in your life does leave a void. being a provider and making sure that emotional attachments are kept out of your job has to be a tough one. But staying active in all areas of your life is important as well. That sick feeling is something you'll have to deal with. good luck.

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In my limited experience with providers (7) I have had one GFE.  I have seen people have a hard time describing what a GFE is.  They try to talk about what acronyms need to be available.  That's where they go wrong.

Services available, all or none.  It makes no difference.  A GFE is when you are with someone and you click with them.  You feel a connection.  It's 100% a YMMV type thing.  Many providers advertise it, but it's not something that a provider can give to any client.  Sure the sex can be great, and there can be good comfortable conversation and even friendship, but it's not the same as a true GFE.

I would never have really understood if I hadn't stumbled across it with someone.

So, IMHO it is comletely possible to have the passionate, caring, special moment feeling that you are looking for without dating someone.  But you have to be lucky and stumble across it, or be very selective about your clients.  If you only see the guys looking for GFE's then you will have higher odds of making that connection with somone.  Even if for only a little while.

Thank you both ladies and gentlemen for you input on this

It has been bothering me for a while, and hadn't found a way to express this feeling, until this very moment. You all made great sense, and given me more insight to myself

I think doing certain things as I do helps reduce or eliminate many of the tougher areas of being an escort - keeps the head grounded, get less depressed, have fewer problems, etc.

And, definitely doing the dinner dates makes a big difference for me. I notice a big difference between those and the one hour date - in every way. That's why I usually don't do them. For me, the one hour dates are perfect for your regulars that you know well, and they are in a hurry and just want to be with you quickly. What a great suggestion Nicole had to maybe change that around (not knowing anything about your business..) and you will see how quickly the dynamics change.

Another thing that makes a big difference is repeat and regular business. That's why I posted my Thank You post to them because, I realize that many guys are on a Play Budget. Maybe that allows them to only see a lady once a month. With that in mind, I can understand how they would want to see someone new each time - I probably would, too! But, having regulars is so special - each visit is better than the last, you develop a comfort level that allows more intimacy, and a friendship grows.
You (all) are more likely to have a satisfying experience and needs at various levels are often met.

Hope this helps..

I really hear you.  Being lonely is an irony of this lifestyle and an issue I have yet to work out.  When your business is about intense albeit fleeting intimacy it makes sense that you would crave something more substansial, safe, and entirely your own. It's so hard to find the right balance and to let down your guard with someone when you've spent so much energy cultivating those very same guards.  It is possible though.  

I try to give myself a massage every other week.  I have a great and trusted therapist who makes me feel nurtured and refreshed and I feel like he puts me back together again.  PM or E-mail me for reference.  [email protected]

If it's financially possible I would suggest a short vacation.  Go away for the weekend and reconnect with yourself.  Meet a stranger and tell the truth about yourself.  It feels good.  I've done this and never had anybody react in a negative way.  

It might help to see a therapist.  Find someone positive who wants to help you move forward and not to dwell in the past.  Emphasize that you don't want to be "fixed" but that you want to talk about this specific problem you are having.  If you PM me, I can give you a reference.

I have been trying to develop more friendships with women (both in and out of the business) if you are like most providers I know you probably don't have that many strong ones.  But, I'm finding that they really really help.

Hell no!  It's a perfectly normal, human emotion. What could be wrong?  Of course that doesn't make it any easier to deal with.  For better or worse life requires a lot of compromises and choices.  Sometimes we have to give up something we want in order to get something we want even more.

Listen to NOSC.  She nailed it.

Very well said Ms. Morghan.

Can I come over? Promise we'll go someplace

Licks and kisses,
Jimbo

In return for your love get unconditional love back just for being you without fancy hair, lingere or makeup.  Be loved in your bathrobe and slippers with the flu that is what I need.  A puppy or a man someday but I cannot be in a relationship and be in the business I cannot find the place where they merge but that is just me.  Everyone is different.

But Ill meet you *there* lol. I need PICTURES
My camera not yours..
This is what Mo wants for xmas ...

http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=2967836973&category=48541

Yea I am an EBAY godess

It would seem they require a very special kind of man.  What are the qualities tha make a guy successful in this role?

pm me if you want some free camera advice

Im not that fancy.
I like Olympus. But for the advertising format I want and the fact ebay always gets tons of Nikons .. sigh.. I want one.
I have an olympus PS and several minoltas as well.
My digi cam that I do all my own personal photos with like the one below is a Kodak.
I try to get on KEH sometimes to get equiptment.

Re:Thank you both ladies and gentlemen for you input on this

MMMM shame you are not around me, I miss that too, don't get it at home and its the major thing I miss as a hobbiest, because I can tell fake and its what keeps a GFE from being real. I have see good fakers and some real bad attempts at faking.  Sex is great but the feeling doesn't last without that connection. I guess I am in the minority here among the guys with this feeling.

But then I never really had a provider agressive enough to just go and bang my brains out like she was dieing of thirst and thats the only way I could save her life.   Hmmmmmmmm....

I thought I was the only one that felt like that..thanks for sharing.

Love to you,
Elise