Shower together. Draw her a bath and bathe her. Let her pick your blackheads. Give her a foot massage. Play cards. Break out a board game. Watch a ball game on TV. Go out for coffee. You paid for the time. Use it however you want.

I've never had that problem come up (pun intended) but, during a longer session we were watching some TV while resting and the South PArk episode about prostitutes was on. Pretty funny!!

Don't worry about what's not happening with your little head or your big head will make it almost impossible.

I try never to focus on such problems and just have a great sensual makeout session. I haven't found many men who don't enjoy hot steamy sensual foreplay just as much as the main event. Don't worry about your destination and you may arrive with out any detour at all.

If you have missed how much fun a tongue can be it's time to find out. Oh my, how I love a man who knows how to use his tongue. If your worried about pleasing a woman brush up on your oral skills. A skillful tongue will make any woman melt into you and you into them.

I love the passion of hands as well and using them for lovemaking works well. Stroking each other during the passion of kissing can be a real turn on and the stimulation can make your b
problem disappear.

Last but not least is finding the right condom. Once you get hard just the few seconds putting it on could be the deal breaker for you. Many men lose interest quickly because they lose sensitivity. If this happens don't give up but maybe trial and error in time will help.

Final thought is the comfort with the lady your with. Many men treat this as a hobby and part of the excitement is variety. This isn't the case for every man but many feel like a kid in a candy store and want to taste it all. If you have tried a few ladies just once and walked away because you didn't make a match it's time to change your method. Find a lady who will rock your boat and heat you up. Someone who kisses and moves her body close to you. See her again and maybe a few times. Things do get better with comfort and knowledge.

Hope some of these suggestions help

Kisses Haley

You can still have a lot of Fun...lol...

That's when You take it slow and easy...You tease and You please...You Enjoy that slow deep french kiss....and our hands exploring each others bodies...mmmm...and maybe..that's when I can take the control and sit You in a chair and give You a strip tease dance...and afterwards...slowly crawl to You and slid up...and give You a lap dance...and afterwards...slowly undress You...we can always Enjoy my favorite 69ing position...and then let me lick Your whole body...maybe You would Enjoy a full body massage....or maybe I could pull out my trusty cockring...believe me...we would have a Great time together...and I would make sure You still left feeling as though You had a Happy Ending

Re: things you usually do with a provider when you can't get it up

start discussing who keeps the dog, who the china, and so on......

Now, on a serious note, the fact that is not up now does not mean it will not be up later. It's all in the attitude; maybe enjoying he company for the company will do the trick?

It's always the second time I have problems with.  Usually about a half hour after the session I am ready again, but of course it is too late.  I've only had one provider take the initiative to make sure I had at least two cups, and I must say that she is the only one I have seen more than once. So sometimes it is just about finding the right lady and the right chemistry.