Hiding will not solve any situation, it will make matter worse and some another fella will get from her. So just be honest and tell her everything,

If you're going to try to dodge this bullet go all the way and blame her. Tell her SHE must have given it to YOU, because you were clean but her wife's gyno checkup showed she has an STD. Maybe she'll be so remorseful, she'll offer to bring her hot cousin to your next OTC BBFS session. That is, after the itching, burning and/or blisters go away.

 
In any case, she needs to know something ASAP and stop spreading this throughout your community.

 
As for your wife and disease ridden lover, well Karma is a bitch ain't it.

 
Last but not least, congrats on learning a valuable lesson. It's obvious that you'll never make this mistake again.

My major issue is you being  a cowardly little cunt who is coming on here asking about how to protect yourself from this hookers wrath when what you should be doing is telling her that she is at risk before she gives whatever you gave her to someone else.

 
Tell her however the fuck you want. Do it anonymously if you don't have the balls to tell her honestly, but TELL HER and tell her NOW!!!

What a huge mess.  
In any case, for me there is only one thing todo.  Tell her yourself, and immediately before she spreads this any further.  
Whatever the outcome, it is the right thing to do.  If she does not see that you have watched out for her interest by telling her immediately. thats too bad for her (and of course for you as well) but you will have done the right thing. i hope this is easily treatable and will ruin no ones life.
Good luck.  

...... get on the freaking phone now and tell her. Your wife is a bitch to, for not telling you.

Shit, in 1979, I got a phone call from one of the hookers I worked with in the brothel, telling me to go get checked. She was positive for gonorrhea. I came up negative for everything. But, she called me.  

Grow a pair and be responsible.

The bottom line is that you DON’T KNOW if you got it from your wife or your ATF so just man up and say that. The ATF is in no position to be sour - for fucks sake she’s shagging various people bareback she knew the risks and now it’s time to own them.
DO NOT try pointing the finger at another bloke - that’s a proper cowardly trick and you could cause him major problems. You and the ATF took the risk so put your big boy and girls pants on and deal with it like adults. I’m shocked you’re even considering blaming someone else...As for BBFS, that’s a whole different thread that has been beat to death countless times but suffice it to say you should have expected some harsh responses...and frankly they are well deserved.  

SMH 🤦🏻‍♀️  

C

Is there such a thing as "good" STD news?

fixing your fucked-up marriage.  I mean, for fucks sake, your WIFE is playing around on you and getting STDs from another man.  Do you even give a shit?  What are you going to do about THAT?
Just first take care of letting your hooker know you probably infected her.  STAT.

If your story is true you couldn't have known.  Just tell her the truth (or this version.)

Anyone on these boards has skin in this game...
How many other providers do you see? How many clients do they all see? How many of those clients see other providers? Ripple effect...
How about a heads up as to what area this happened in? Not that this helps a lot... with girls who tour, and clients who travel to multiple cities, but still.
And the delay in informing her just multiplies the potential risk to others. You don't have to partake in BBFS to be at risk here... any inadvertent touch is all it takes to transmit. And what STD? You want advice, but you're hanging a lot of people out to dry potentially.

...you'd fit right in.

Well, Literally and NO pun intended!  Doesn't matter who gave what to whom If everyone's barebacking even ONE person, you're already exposed to Everyone else she/he has ever come in contact with.  Is this really news to you??  

Don't blame her that's low of you since you TOO have been barebacking with a provider who Barebacks at least 2 others, documents or not, they're all fucking around MORE than you're told.    YOU KNEW THIS AND CONTINUE TO DO SO. You allowed this to happen to you and your wife. OR if it's truly your wife then go see a professional and either dissolve the marriage or stay together now that you BOTH have it anyway!.  

WTF is wrong with people these days? Just baffles my mind. Clients that get upset because I won't BB them. Really?  I mean isn't a " Thank you for protecting me and my wife" is appreciated and yet I get pressured having to explain myself for using protection.  Sure don't need client's like yourself and fellow mongers who think they're clean and then blame girls for giving them and std or talking shit if she doesn't do it his way.  
 don't want a client like YOURSELF , EVER to put shit like that one ME. I had 2 show up with active Herpes on their dicks and pretend it wasn't' there that morning.  C'mon it didn't grow on you just in my presence!  You guys ALWAYS want to blame the girls when YOU , YOU're the one that did the deed knowing facts were in your face and CHOSE to take a risk vs playing it safe!  I mean does that ever sink in Knowing you're risking your health, your life, your home/kids/finances/reputations etc??  

Regardless if you found out about your wife's affair. If she was a pure angel, then you gave it to HER and who is she to blame?  YOU obviously, how would you coward out of that one? Knowing you're the one fooling around on her. Perhaps she's retaliating because she found out about your games and wanted a piece of that cake too!   Perhaps she's not having an affair but had symptoms she couldn't explain and labs prove YOU'RE guilty and now sign over your 50%  Can't blame her!  

No need to mention an affair or finding labs. Perhaps just say you're at a point you'd like to have a peace of mind and you both get tested together. See how she reacts, if she is truly concerned she would have no problem if she's hiding something then she'll blow it off and blame You if she gave it to you.  She probably already knows and is hoping you don't say anything. Might be better coming from you than anyone else you'd be helping her out in a sense.  If it's not too late!  

Don't blame others for Your poor judgement and living a fantasy that Bites your Real Life Ass with a real life STD.  Aside from you making it seem like a death sentence, most are curable with antibiotics. It's just embarrassing to admit having one. Be honest, don't let it weigh on your conscience!  
Probably wouldn't be a first for her either.

First off, I got some good advice here and in PMs, as well as some much deserved criticism. I appreciate ALL the sentiments expressed and take them to heart.  

I was planning on going with Richy’s rec to show my ATF my wife’s test results, but my lawyer adamantly shut that down.  His advice, just tell her without giving any detail on the circumstances. Just let her know she needs to get tested, and tell her as soon as possible.

Was planning on contacting her this AM (she was on a short trip out of country, returning late last night).  But she contacted me upon her return, letting me know that I needed to get tested for gonorrhea.  Went to get tested again this morning and will be sharing those results with her soon.

I dodged a big bullet here, and learned a valuable lesson at the same time.  My apologies to the community here.  It won’t happen again.

Why on earth would you have unprotected activities with a provider??? You see someone who tells you she is having unprotected sex with a few others and you still go uncovered at home? This is why diseases spread. GROSS!!

re your title: what the hell is good std news? What, that she has herpes not aids??!! Good grief! I notice that in your last response you capitalized tested clients. I was just staring at that. I really want to ask your age. If it's older than 18, brother you are in trouble! Example: I get tested January 10th and three days later my results come back.  I am clean and clear of everything. January 15th, I organize a ten man creampie gangbang with me at the center. After a few hours of jizz literally leaking out of my every orifice, I clean up and go home. The rest of that week and subsequent months, I am cream pie gang bang queen allowing every Tom, Dick, and Tyrone to skeet skeet skeet my insides. April 8th: I have a client that wants to offer me double donation for bareback. I say ok. He says the caveat is that I must provide recent proof that I am clean. I say, I have it! Tested January. All clean! All clear!

So you think that a test result guarantees that nothing is crawling or growing inside of these guys, flowing in their bloodstream and semen because of an ok std report?? In the above scenario I got tested all clean for January yet basically was the Whore of Babylon in between. Who knows wtf I picked up!!! You can't count on tests!! Testing inaccuracies including faked tests are the reason HIV was spreading like wildfire in porn. They used to test once every month. God only knows what and who they were doing in their outside lives and bringing it into porn and many including one of my favorite porn stars, are now HIV positive. Tested just once every 30 days and then doing the Humpty Dance with the wrong person/persons and going on set saying, here are my test results. I'm good! Let's fuck! and they did and then all Hell starting breaking out.  

You are kidding yourself. Your real agenda just seems to pull anything out of your ass to justify you raw dogging this provider. Heaven forbid you would have to (gulp) cover up instead of saturating her insides like you love to. What the eff is going on in your marriage that you were raw dogging your wife, and a known barebacking woman? Why did she have an affair on you? Were you holding back because you had to preserve it for the escort? Also I guess your "friend" as you call her lol probably got the burning when she pees if she told you to test your the G bug. You say your relationship with the provider will change. How? Cover up for just a bit and then she starts talking nasty about the good old days and there is your Happy stick inside of her raw...... just like the other TESTED clients she sees.

You are putting so many more people and lives at risk by keeping quiet. You should have called her that very moment and made the situation clear. If you have any concern for her at all. You mentioned she sees other people bbfs chances are they have SOs and lives. This couldn't just blow up in your face but blow up other peoples worlds the longer it goes on. You NEVER know what is really going on with other people. Even if you have clean lab results doesn't mean you are clean it doesn't always show up right away so unless both people abstain from any and all activity for 4 weeks before a test the test is not 100% accurate. As annoying as protection is it is a necessary thing in this day in age.

I hope

I hope the provider sees this and figures out who you are and outs you on here.

What did you catch?

What did you catch? The herp? The HIV?

That it took you THIS LONG to realize you should just do the right thing is beyond me. She's not your friend. She's not someone you care about. She's not your ATF. If she was you would've been concerned for her health and her safety and told her right away. Instead you were worried about continuing to hit it bare. The lack of morals on your end is disgusting in itself. And the fact that you STILL aren't honest with her is even worse! You aren't "in the clear" dude. You're just making yourself seem like more of a coward. I would never offer BBFS, but I'll never bash a woman that does, or a hobbyist that enjoys it... BUT, it takes a HUGE amount of trust on BOTH ends as ADULTS to be open and honest about these things. And you sir, broke that, and do not deserve the right to be able to still enjoy those specific activities - period. Grow up.

I know you’re reading this, and this is the only way you’ve left me to try to reach out to you.  Please understand I did what I did because I couldn’t imagine the possibility of a future without you. The wheels are in motion to end the marriage that shackled me. I finally had a vision for a future free of her.  I should have told you about the STD the moment I found out. The instant. But I froze at the thought that the news would alter what we had, what we wanted. I’m sorry.  So so sorry. And I plead that someday you’ll consider maybe letting me back into your life. Please. Please. Please.  But at the end of the day, I’ve only wanted what’s best for you. With or without me, I do wish you the best. Thank you for the happiest times I’ve ever had.  I’m sorry.

And for the person who used a curious DM to befriend me, only to then expose me, all I can say is you’ll never have what I had, and you’ll never have what I’ll have.  You make think you’ve destroyed me, but you’re wrong.  A winner is never measured by how many times he gets knocked down, but how many times he gets up again.  So you may think you won, but you lost.

As much as I would love to do bbfs I don’t not just to protect myself but also it a lot of other guys seeing that same provider and out of respect to all it’s about having fun and enjoying this hobby!!