Reading some of the posts here, I see that a lot of guys have ATF's who they see regularly. I'm just wondering how many of you prefer seeing only these ladies, as opposed to seeing a variety of ladies.

I would love to have that one special lady, but a couple of things come into play. My hobbying is mostly restricted to when I travel, and there really isn't anyone closer to where I live than a two hour drive. My first encounter was pretty late in life, so I'm still fascinated with variety. There are a couple of ladies who I've seen several times, but they are literally thousands of miles away, so a couple of times a year is all I can manage. Still there are others that I've only seen once, but would just love to see again and again.

Like you, I started fairly late in life about 2 years ago (I'm now 61), so I have not chosen an ATF.  Not sure if I ever will.  I love meeting new ladies and experiencing the variety of women that I did not experience in civilian dating.

I also have a few ladies I have seen more than once, but have not gotten into seeing a particular lady on a regular basis, like every month or so.  There are just too damn many fine ladies out there I want to have as my temporary girlfriend.  

Some of the ones I have already seen I will probably visit again, but......see above paragraph.

I do have a 'bucket list' and every time I see someone on it, another beauty pops up and the list doesn't get any shorter.  But, I guess that's a good thing, isn't it?

Swim

I travel also, so in each city I go to I have an ATF of sorts who I try to see regularly, and then there are 3 or 4 others who I see off and on, and I try to mix in a new girl every third or fourth trip.   But that depends on the situation.  I was in SF for an extended period of time a while back and my ATF and my few semi-regulars were all already booked, so I ended up seeing several new ladies...

I have Favs who I see regularly & can only have one ATF.  While I continue to sample, I am becoming more discerning.  I'm 50's, started late.  Little chemistry with the young ones (though there was one hot little MILF).  

90% Favs.  
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.. but, I can't help being attracted to them.

I like the experience that comes with time. Comfortable with each other, both having a good time, etc. It is hard to get that on the first date.

I have a short list of ladies I like. Your situation makes it difficult to be a regular. If you have regular areas that you travel to, you can have a lady in every port.

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It'd be nice to live in an area like Chitown where there's so much variety. On the other hand, small nos. or providers often cuts down on the no show drama.

I find that over time, our love making continues to evolve and improve, and I also love getting to know them as individuals and learning more about them.

However, Ciara of Buffalo told me that I should always see at least three new gals each year; so I have made that an annual New Year's resolution and I've been very good at keeping it for four years running.  (I've seen two new gals this year and have a date for the third the weekend after next.)

I discovered that what works for me, at least right now, is pretty much sticking with my two favorite ladies.  I experiment very little nowadays as opposed to a time, two or three years ago, when I should see two or three different ladies in a month.

I guess my preferences changed when I started comparing newer ladies to the two that I am a regular with and they started coming out on top every time.

The great thing about the hobby is that you can change course any time you like.

But took me less time!  After four months I was down to two favorites- one in town and one out of town with a very occasional interspersing of a couple of other repeats or new.

Then the one in town retired and got replaced with another frequent repeat- which now may go by the wayside and leave me to the one out of town.  

But I always have my eyes open and a 'bucket list'-  the delights of a large menu out there and as Boston said so well- nothing is fixed in stone!

Since not all of us have enough funds to see a favorite AND a new girl every week, I prefer to see new girls and then see my favorite when I have extra cash.

I also can't see my ATF too often because I don't want to get too attached. I see her every couple of months to stay close, but not let emotions cross the line. It keeps it fun and intimate, but still distant.

I usually see 2 or 3 new ladies for every time I see a favorite. I love the thrill and excitement of meeting new ladies. It's fun to see new bodies, be turned on in a new or unique way, etc. Favorites are good if you want to know what you are getting or just want to experience something good that you have experienced before.

Although I wish I had the funds to answer BOTH like most of you.

I've been seeing my ATF exclusively for almost a year now.  For me, there just is no better experience.

We share a love and friendship that I wouldn't change for anything!  So for me, spending time with my ATF is really all I need.  It's safe, it's fun, and she knows me very well.

Generally,  I prefer to see someone regularly as opposed to a lot of variety.  I suppose if I could afford to hobby more often, I'd maybe see more, but for the most part, I really like to get to know someone by seeing her regularly.  A little variety is nice now and then.

I think that I agree with Mr. Fisher.  Although I am still making my bucket list as it is called. I have only started this hobby in the past 6-months on a regular basis. Let me see if I get to see 3 new gals a year when I have a little bit more experience at it.

I am glad that Boston Guy mentioned that nothing is set in stone.  It is great way to experiment.

Thanks.

I generally see a new lady every few months and date a lady I have seen previously in between the new gals.  As Swim said, there are too many hot women in Florida to stay with the same lady month after month despite how talented she might be.

Lately I have been mainly sticking with providers I have seen before. I know a guy who got busted in downtown DC by undercover sting recently. If he had stuck to his regular he would have been fine.

Today was my 92nd time with my ATF.....but who's counting ????

92 vists with your ATF, wow! I am experiencing the sin of envy.  Now 100 visits with my favorite is a goal I can relate to better than writing 100 reviews. Of course at my current frequency of visits I may be over 100 years old when I reach it. I'm sure I won't look a day over 95.

I am new to this hobby.  At first I thought that I met the perfect provider.  She was everything I wanted.  I asked her if she had lots of repeats and she said no, that they like to try different providers.  I started reading the new reviews and realized that as happy as I was with her, I had never been with an Asian and really thought it would be great.  It is lordy it is .  I have also never been with a Black provider and thought it would be great.  I found a black goddess and it was over the top great.  Hauntingly great.  Next I was thinking about a latina, maybe from South America.  It sure sound like it could be hot.  I went to one that is not so physically attractive but has God given oral skills.  She took me to heights that a body was never designed to attain.  After popping, my body shook uncontrollably for at least 5 minutes.  I have seen 3 providers twice because the second time is much better than the first.  One provider thought I was LE and cancelled at the last minute...it happens.  One hour later was when I had the oral experience of my life.  It's all good.  When I started going to restaurants as an adult, I wanted to try every new restaurant and was usually let down.  I found a few that were great and have been a loyal customer for years.  Once in awhile, a new one sneaks into the rotation.  Usually by a friend's recommendation. I think this is what will happen with me too.  If something is predictably great, you stay with it.  If you live by the TER reviews, it is hard to go wrong.  They are always right on the mark.  If you read all of her reviews, you get a really good idea of what to expect or not to expect.  So far I have not be disappointed at all.