at the door? and if so why?
I pulled up to his house and asked him to come out so I would know I had the right house, it was at night. He said he couldn't because he was naked. "Oh", I thought. Well, that wasn't the first time, I think guys do that for the shock value. But he assured me I was in his driveway. I had seen this guy before with no problems but again, it was dark.
So I make my way up through the front door and sure enough he was naked as a jay-bird. I gave him a hello kiss and his lips were very dry. As we exchanged pleasantries I notices his eyes looked wild and he was acting fidgety. He thanked me for coming over so late and was talking rather quickly, said he had been partying all evening and that my visit was more for than it was for him. Oh! I thought. He want's to play with me because whatever he is on isn't going to allow him to, ya know. I remember seeing him lock the door behind us and it made me nervous. And then I was offered to partake. I asked to use the bathroom and while in there I was trying to think of any excuse to leave.
I worked up my nerve came out of the bathroom and found him in his bedroom. I told him while it's cool that he want's to party I just can't and I think it would be a good idea if I left. He was shocked and even pulled on my arm to stop me. I was bigger than him and I had my mind made up so that didn't happen. Now I guess he now wasn't worried about the neighbors because he followed me outside to the car. I told him when I started the car the lights would come on and he didn't listen for a moment. I started the car and he ran inside.
From reading the two replies, money isn't worth sacrificing for your well being. If you have that "feeling" that you may feel unsafe, just simply don't open the door.
The guy may stand at the door for a bit, and will soon leave. You are doing this for yourself, not for no one else. After he leaves, he may leave several unpleasant messages towards you. Its no big deal. You already have a credible review, and his review will be an outlier, and that will raise suspicion for the hobbyist. So, his review will not be credible, and you can always dispute that with the Admins.
Money and reviews versus your well being and safety. Not all hobbyist play fare and are gentlemen. There's a lot of strange fuckers out there. You just have to take care of yourself. It may be 1 hour, but that 1 hour may have everlasting effects.
I can remember one very recently.. had seen him before in IL.... everything was going good on the calls and texts between the cells.. i couldnt shake the bad gut feeling i had so i told the dude.. sorry it wasnt happening and then he went ballistic on a text back to my cell .. i learn to trust my gut .. its been 2 months since i have heard from him till this past at nite.. when he out of the blue texted my old number which my girlfriend now owns.. and well i told him i wasnt around to see him .. .. he didnt act quite like a prick this time around.. but i heard he gets out of hand with other providers who dont bend down to his level ..
told him to find another provider and not contact me anymore .. i hate those who stalk me..
my 2 cents worth here
Indiana Provider
-- Modified on 11/29/2011 8:51:51 AM
To avoid a situation where you want to run screaming into the hills and far, far away from a client when you meet him face to face, it is so IMPORTANT to have a good and thorough screening process.
In my "business model" there is ample time to build up a relationship with a potential client by phone and email so that when I meet him I ensure that I have a wonderful time as does he. As my business is based on quality experiences rather than a "volume based model" I see fewer people during a month, but each experience is quite satisfying both emotionally and physically.
That said, if someone emails me and I do not care for the vibe of their email, once I hit delete I completely avoid the situation of having to run from them as I never meet someone whom I do not enjoy corresponding with.
For ladies with other business models than my own, I just think that having a good screening process and thinking about making the "slow nickel rather than quick dime" will really help keep you safe most of the time.
xoxo
Sitara Devi
Good screening yes can save you most of the time which is why my negative moments have been super duper rare but i've heard my share of horror stories of making you want to "run screaming" into the hills lol happened with very regular clients.
In my "business model" there is ample time to build up a relationship with a potential client by phone and email so that when I meet him I ensure that I have a wonderful time as does he. As my business is based on quality experiences rather than a "volume based model" I see fewer people during a month, but each experience is quite satisfying both emotionally and physically.
That said, if someone emails me and I do not care for the vibe of their email, once I hit delete I completely avoid the situation of having to run from them as I never meet someone whom I do not enjoy corresponding with.
For ladies with other business models than my own, I just think that having a good screening process and thinking about making the "slow nickel rather than quick dime" will really help keep you safe most of the time.
xoxo
Sitara Devi
Years ago when I was with an agency. They "supposedly" screened. I "supposedl"y was going on a standard one hour visit. No bells or whistles or anything out of the ordinary. When I got to the front door of a very nice house, a very large man opened the door wearing only a cloth baby diaper, baby bottle and baby hat. I just shook my head and turned and walked away then drove off as quickly as possible. I figured if he had told the agency it was a regular session and then he answers the door like that I had no idea what else was in store for me and it was just not worth it to wonder.....
I was coming up to this upscale hotel to meet a provider and she was texting me back and forth after all.. what's a better way then to get friendly with the provider. So i arrived at the upscale hotel and received a text that said "Hold up" i of course said ok but then almost 25 mins went by and i was like em i getting blown off? so i was sitting in the lobby and received another text saying "plz don't leave" so I knew something was up. Appaerantly the gentlemen that she booked couple hours before me was still giving her problems after she denied him and was still at the hotel when i arrived. It was already getting pretty weird considering i was in the lobby amongst gentlemen in dress shirts with me in basketball shorts . So after literally waiting about 45 mins she told me to try and sneak up to her room which i went up the stairs... the whole 6 flight of stairs.... as soon as i got to the level i saw a gentlemen walking around the halls and i told her i'll pass by her room twice before i went in. Plan worked and i was given a free hour on top of the hour just for being so cooperative, but let me tell you... some weird men these days because when i walked out the gentlmen was still patrolling the halls
I once went to an apartment beautiful of the park 60's on east side and the door opens. As I proceed upstairs there pads everywhere that dogs pee on on the floor and furniture, then laying on the bed was an elderly gentlemen and 3 dogs. He was covered in warts and stunk so bad I almost threw up and went running for the door. I don't know how a male or female can expect anything but leaving if the hygiene is bad!!!