This post may be old news, but here goes.

I filled out an appointment  request form on the wbe site of a well known and very popular provider, asking for an appointment over 3 weeks on advance.  My question is how long should I wait to follow up with an e-mail if I have not heard back from her?  I'm just concerned that by waiting too long if she is not available, I may be limiting my options with other providers.

Any help, and comments welcome from providers and hobbyists all.

F.

about 3 minutes.

If the provider doesn't have a voice message service and gets back to you within a couple hours .... I'd move on.

An Appointment Request Form sounds too much like "I'm too busy and too full of myself - just send the money"  to me.

Three minutes? A couple of hours? Give me a break! We all know running errands, picking the kids up for school and doing things in the house takes more than a few hours! How do you expect someone to just stay glued to their computer all day?? What about those who have jobs??

Even 24 hours - she could be out of town visiting Grandma, touring, on an overnight with a client, on vacation...etc.
48 hours - same thing. I'd allow at least 72 hours.

Of course, hopefully, if she is away for an extended period of time, it would be nice if her email sent out an automated email response indicating she is out of town with the dates and date of return. Same with voice mail, etc.

If you know she's not working at a job; not touring, and IS home, then I think 24 hours is a standard period of time to return calls and emails.

"Moving on" without giving her another chance is also not fair, NOR considerate. How do you know she received the email/form? We all know that happens. More than we care for, for sure.
How do you know she wasn't 'suspect' about something? If a lady has a suspicion about something, or something doesn't 'feel' right, they won't answer the email!

As for the form, you couldn't be more wrong. The form is a great tool and many ladies have them. They are much quicker - simply fill out and send. Much faster than typing "my name is John Doe. I work for ABC company and am Executive VP of Sales and Marketing. My work number is 213-555-5555 (direct); the company's number is 213-555-5500 and I would love to see you for two hours on March 10th around 9PM at the Hilton on Morena Blvd. I saw your reviews on TER" and yada yada. It's all there for you, just fill in the blanks!
Not only that, but the lady can select certain IP addresses to be blocked. If this gentleman doesn't fill out the form, it COULD be an indication that he CAN'T, and you have to wonder why????? It also posts his IP address (so does email) and it's all right there in front of you. It doesn't have anything to do with being busy, or 'too full of themself' and they don't usually have anything to do with money - it's the screening information/date request form only - no transaction.

Sorry, MP - I think you're way off on this one.

and they actually work out great for me! I do extensive screening, because my safety comes first and foremost, and NOPE-sorry, an appt. request form does not mean that "I'm too busy, or that I am full of myself here". So, lets clear that matter up, shall we? lol

Anywho, you need to remember that we ladies do have busy lives, just like you men. We are either meeting with other clients, are with family members, running errands, etc. The majority of the ladies will return your requests to meet right away, some after a 1 or 2 grace period. Seeing that it has been 3 weeks since you have tried to get in touch with her, and she hasn't returned your request to meet, so follow Megapig's advice: move on. But, please do it with tact, and gracefulness. Remember, some things were meant to be, and some were not.

Mel

-- Modified on 10/8/2003 1:36:54 PM

I only take appointments through my request form.  No gentleman even gets my phone number unless he has been verified by me.  I am considered one of the top GFEs in my area and am not "full of myself" just do not like to discuss anything on the phone because LE likes to call and try to trap us girls.  Please don't be so suspicious of girl's motives when you are asked to be screened, it is merely for our personal safety.

I also never let more that 3-4 hours go by before returning an email, and often get back to them within 30 min.  Customer service is something I take seriously on the personal and business end of the hobby.

To answer the question (forgot to last post lol,) a few days is all you should wait before contacting her again.  If she has not returned your email or calls then take the initiative.  If she still doesn't respond, move on and find someone else.

Well I have waited a week or two and I also have been called right back.  You might pm one of the people who has seen this provider before to see what type of time frame is reasonable for her.

I did have one who waited so long I completely forgot I was even interested in the first place, the antithesis of going to the grocery store when you are hungry LOL

I also realize that ladies have busy lives too.  For any number of reasons they may be unable to get to their e-mail to respond.

I usually wait 2 - 3 days and then (if I haven't heard) simply send another note thanking her for her time and that I had made other plans.

At 2 days I send a polite e-mail, at 3 I move on .... to many incredible ladies to worry about just one ... it's her loss fortitude ... .02

I filled out a providers web form about a month ago, and followed it up with an e-mail about a week later, just to confirm that she got the form.

I didn't hear back for a while, but she is an out of town provider who has been traveling, and  she won't be here until next week anyway, so I didn't worry about it.  After another week, or 2 I was going to write back when I did hear from her.

Now, if I was trying to make an appointment with a local provider, and there wasn't this built in wait, I would probably follow the form by about a week with with a message saying "Hey, just checking to see if you got the form."

One week later, one more e-mail, and then I would just seek someone else.

If she is available, she'll eventually get back to you.  You'll probably be thinking "Damn it, I am not going to give her my business because she didn't respond in a timely fashion."  And then, since you are a man, you'll make the appointment anyway.

As I understand it you were looking to meet 3 weeks after sending in the appointment request.  I don't believe you mentioned how long ago it was sent.  I will only offer that many of the more popular ladies do travel, often for several days at a time, & may not wish to detract from that client by responding to emails prior to returning to their home base.  That could be the case with the lady in question, & unless it's already been several days I don't think waiting a little longer should be of great concern unless it's for a special occasion...you are talking about 3 weeks from now.  

Hope you hear from her.

I also am one of those ladies who has a Client Information Sheet on my website. I do not necessarily request that a client fills  it out if he gives me enough information about himself in an email -- same thing. But it is for our safety, and it actually helps me to determine just what he's looking for without being too explicit over the telephone because of LE. I realize this Board is for posting business, humor, and what some may think is humorous. However, some are using this Board to be funny through others' misfortunes lately. I, personally, do not find that funny.

Sorry, but we need to be a little more respectful to each other, don't you think? We can joke -- heck, I love to joke, but we need to think before we speak or, in this case, "write."

Hugs,
Ciara

If it were me, I'd say follow up within a few days. Unless you know (by looking at the ladies schedule, if such exists online) that she is out of town, go ahead and shoot her an email. Waiting three weeks is probably too long... your original form might've been deleted by then.

I know that sometimes I read an email/form and think that I'll get back to it later, and then by the time later rolls around I have ten new emails... so every once in a while one slips thru the cracks. I do say on my site, if you don't hear back you were either rude/explicit or, you should just email me again!

Hugs*
Tamara

I filled out the form this week for an appointment 3 weeks from now.  My question is how long do I wait before I follow up with an e-mail because she hasn't responded?

Yeah, if it's been 3 weeks even I know it's time to move on.  But it's been 3 days now.

F.

your email will be lost in the haystack after a few days.  So you should re-send the first one after two days.  That is what I do.  Sometimes I get a return in under an hour, sometimes in four days.  But no one has ever taken offense at having more than one email sent if the first one was not answered.

Really, as long as you are polite and say, hello, I am interested in making an appointment with you...why should there be any etiquette problem?

until you lose patience and decide to go visit Julie's.

Helped me to get to understand the requestor's demeanor and a little introduction that's to the point, asking if there's anything else she might like to know that you're available between whatever hours, easily, yadda yadda.

You're enough of a gentleman, Fortitude, to know the difference between what will sound like an over zealous stalker type and a presumptuous, pompous ass and fall right into the moderate zone of a great date.

I found honesty to be the most refreshing quality in a prospective date.

Elise [email protected]

If three weeks (21 days, lets call it 20 for arguments sake), then reminder at ten days, then another at 5 day, while you work on other options. If you get a reply four days prior, etiquette should hold that some other lady can steal her business, and you're up for grabs. It becomes your choice.

Peace, Panther

Some days I wonder what planet some people live on.

Guys, the providers are business women.  They offer a service for profit.  When you contact ANY service provider you do so to get a service that YOU want at a delivery that is at YOUR convenience, not the vendors.

You contact the lady saying what you want and when you want it and ask he if she is available to fulfill your needs.   If there is a reason that she can't meet your time schedule, she OFFERS you and alternative time and ASKS if that would be suitable to you and IF the availability she offers meets your needs you conclude the transation.

Do you wait 2 weeks after sending an appointment request to your barber before moving on?   Do you wait a couple weeks and gently nudge your car dealer to remember to get back to you on the car you want?   How long do you wait at the grocery store to get them to serve you before oyu find another store?  You expect these professional business people to conduct their business in a way that suits YOU, noy vice versa.... so why do you get all weird over this particular kind of service provider?  Are you afraid that if you put yourself back in charge, she won't love you anymore?  You're not her DATE and you're not her suitor!

If she can't provide the KIND of service that YOU demand at a time, place and price that meets YOUR needs you move on .. and that includes her finding a way to respond to your requests in a timely manner - not waiting so long that you wonder if she even got your request.

If she can't get back to you in three to five hours ... MAYBE over night if it's late in the day.. go find yourself a provider that will.

-- Modified on 10/8/2003 10:41:28 PM

Yes, I can see how that might inconvenience some of the providers, if the men expected professionalism & all ....

-- Modified on 10/8/2003 10:42:02 PM

I said EOM!  Good day sir!

;^)

I would wait a few days... Appointment requests via e-mails or online forms sometimes take a few days to answer.  I know that I receive a ton of e-mails a day requesting appointments, requesting information, and etc.  Sometimes it's overwhelming.  I try to have a minimal response time, but sometimes it's just impossible.  If she has a phone number listed, you may try calling her, however if she hasn't responded to your online request within a week or so, you may want to try someone else.

Just my .02.

Jaclyn

Forgive me for sounding dumb but, how do I locate the IP address of the sender of the appt form, I do not know how to do that. Also, I have read where IP numbers show up for example using hushmail. The sender's IP number. But I don't see any on my end. I have tried everything. Does this work with free hushmail? Or all free web-based email accounts? Any advice would be appreciated.

Personally, I think the appt forms are a good idea. Although on my site they are optional, a client can always call to schedule an appt.

We can't always call right back, or answer your email right away. Unfortunately, ALOT of phone calls and emails are totally inappropriate and sometimes a girl may not respond right away. Sometimes I get an email requesting a same day appt but I don't get it until the next day. By then, it's too late. I never see anyone who calls right back after a few minutes of just calling and leaving a message and says 'how come you haven't called me back yet?' That is just inconsiderate.

Sometimes we are out at the grocery store or out with our family when guys call. My mom knows what I do but it is so awkward talking in front of her, ya know? Or we may be off for the day or night, not available. Or on a call even. I cannot deal with someone with no patience. It is an indicator of what's to come. Like they may be upset if you are five minutes late or have a real reason to have to cancel a date.

I hope you will give some more time to get a response from a lady. It's nothing personal against you.

-- Modified on 10/9/2003 4:37:54 PM

I've been waiting 3 days for a response from a provider. in those 3 days I've had a chance to do more research on her, glad it's taking her so long, it gave me a chance to reconsider! hope you other ladies out there do the same, it makes it easier to thin out the undesirables!