I hear from dozens, and dozens, and dozens of ladies EVERY DAY, and I'm appalled at the naivete, ignorance, and sheer stupidity of some providers!

I was going to rant, but I'm a fun fuck, and not a ranting type guy. TWO things-- let's call them "Fuzzy's Fuck Facts 101 "

1) Screen Like Hell and REFUSE to see guys that won't be rigorously screened. Is a stinking $300 worth your life?????  BTW, the fact a guy has a "verifiable job" is NOT enough. Every DAY I hear stories of girls getting busted by LE,  beat up, robbed/mugged, raped, stalked, harassed, and this week, another murder.

2)NEVER EVER work from HOME !!!!  The same guy that murdered the gal in Boston this week was at the HOME of another provider last week with a GUN, and attempted to rob her!  Working from home opens you up to blackmail, stalkers, delusional hobbyists that think you "Love" them, and the aforementioned violent stuff too. Being "Low Volume" is NOT a valid excuse for working from your residence!

The bad economy has gals going EASY on screening, and cutting costs by working from home. Both are Stupid, Inexcusable, and can be deadly.  Wake up Ladies!!!  The above may seem OBVIOUS, but you would be surprised how MANY girls ignore both of these basic rules of safety.

Also avoid CL ! BTW, The murderer is being dubbed the "CL killer". The guy is going after CL girls! CL is a veritable clusterfuck! Not only does LE target CL,  So do the sickos !!!!

I'm done preaching, and will go back to my usual sick, twisted, depraved debauchery!  

Happy Hobbying!
Fuzzy

Who just likes his pussy delivered in different ways.

Thanks for being so thoughtful as to push this message..Many gentlemen will understand the importance so much more coming from a man's point of view.

One great big kiss coming your way Fuzzy

Kisses Haley

for somebody tellin us gals how to run our businesses ...

its risky ... we do what we can to mitigate the risks ... but its a business that is inherently risky.  


i screen, screen and re-screen.  and i meet new clients in public before going anywhere private.  

still doesnt mean i'm never gonna get hurt.  if the risks ever outweigh the benefits, i'll find another line of work.

strage as it may seem, the stories that you hear from guys is that they fear screening will somehow "expose" them.

HOW?  at work, I get a ton of calls... who would know that one would be from a caller "Screening me?"  I try to provide as much information as would be possible.... and never do I fear that some lady is gonna go "Fatal Attraction" on me.

sure, there is that one in a million who will "snap" the very first time - on YOU, but that is indeed rare.  usually there are warning signs.... both for providers as well as hobbiests....  

I've always wondered what it would be like if we GENTS were reviewed by the ladies.... lol!  

I know what they would say about Fuzzy... but what would they say of the "Green one!?"

Good Morning

I agree with Anna*
One on the main reasons-I don't post my #.

I screen my way ;o)it has been working for 9 years now. Never know what may happen. We can't control other's in there ways or thoughts. All we have is to be aware of what we are doing here.

Thanks for being real Fuzzy!

If the Ladies would review the gents-lol. It would probably be like the reviews from the gents.

I get a kick out of some girls when they do their Screening. They ask  "how did your date go" and if I would see him again."
I don't have to share my intimate moments with them! All they need to know is that- he isn't LE, Or that he is whom he says he is.

Besies aren't we all individuals?
Viv

Maybe more than YOU !!!      

I don't advertise my "Fuzzy Services" on CL, or work from home. I screen like a Mother Fucker, and am a VERY selective HO !  A few tell me I'm an ATF!

They were claiming to be from my dentist's office, finalizing the arrangements for today's appointment.  There was absolutely no way to tell that she wasn't really from the place she said.  She even knew my dentist's name, and mentioned a cleaning, an appointment time and to figure an hour at her office.

Oh shit, I think I really have a dentist appointment!

This is exactly what everyone needs to hear.

Hugs,
Ciara

I never ask how the date went, I don't care.  That's a matter of personal chemistry and taste.

However, as to "Would you see him again?" ... it is a very valid question.  Have you ever done an employment check on a potential new hire, or received one from another company?  "Eligible for rehire?" is about the ONLY question that companies feel is legitimate to ask and answer without exposure to liability.

A company representative will not say, "He was too aggressive with out clients, rude on the phones, and liked to play grab-ass with the secretary."  They WILL tell you that he is ineligible for rehire.

Hopefully a lady will elaborate, as I do when I send my references.  "He was who he says he is, verified by ID and with two good references.  But I personally would not welcome him back as he was late, indiscreet, and he tried to camp out at my incall."

Regardless of elaboration or not, if a lady says she would not welcome a gent back it's a red light for me.  I push for more references and more opinions, and/or simply decide not to see the gent.

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Let me approach this from the hobbiest point of view.  I am a total newbie but I have approached several providers in advance of a trip to their town.  Only one has insisted we meet in public prior to our engagement.  All have asked for employment info and such. When I have provided the requested info, they have all indicated that I "passed" but I know that none of them have called my place of work.  I have been torn with which one to see.  Should I pick the one that is most careful in her screening?

I have heard of some ladies meeting in public first.

My view:

What does meeting in public first have to prove?? Maybe I am wrong, but think about it...why??? Just so you can "see" what the guy looks like???? Check his id??? Well I do that all the time anyway.

Personally I do call their work with a set plan in place that the guy doesn't know about nor does he know when I am calling.  If they don't call, RED FLAG on your behalf...Run don't walk...

Some girls are just not real diligent about checking things.  Makes me wonder even more.  I am actually probably going to get more stricter and if the guys don't like, then move on....

Good luck

Bella

Consider the possibility that they DID call, and you just didn't know about it.  If you gave the main number, and the operator answered "Acme Company", she could have feigned a wrong number and hung up.  If so, she got what she was looking for.  She may have also looked for the info online, and found what she wanted.

Just because you don't understand what she did with your screening info, don't assume that she didn't use it.

All of that said, Fuzzy's post was dead on.

but seriously fuzz, i appreciate your input, but have you ever tried to 'screen' a complete stranger(not a provider) to the extent that u feel comfortable meeting them in private?  its hard work.

i'm not even going to address the working incall from home.

because he comes off as dr jekell and mr hyde and the nice one doesnt show up first.  its a little spooky. but as soon as he popped, he was right as rain and we laughed our asses off.  (well not all of mine).  so when a provider asked for a reference, i vouched for him and told her not to be spooked by the routine.  Dr Jekell was in their waitng for her after mr hyde was finished.  its all good.

u would be surprised how much info can be gleaned from an email, a phone number, an ip address or simply the name of the employer ... lots of social networks for employment contacts ...

bella, look for an alert on provider buzz from houstonsmartgal and u will see what meeting in a public place did for me ... kept me from accepting my stalker  into my incall when he had been blacklisted under his initial identity ... might have savee my life actually

Fuzzy Thanks for this post. And again sonme knuckleheads will take it wrong. But I didn't keep my head on my shoulders by not screening,. Yes when I trusted my so called insticts and took the sweet guy who passed the job refrence. he was a fricking Long Beach PD. Yep it cosr me a little for a kesson on instinct.
he coulod have been a guuy like the ones all ovedr the World. ladoes if you thinl the Boston guy is the only one. You have anothwer thing coming.
I am GRATEFUL FOR THE BAD BUST EXPERIENCE. I WITH 6 OTHER Ladies were caught in a sting. yes froma Eros ad. Others from CL and CV.
I am ever so happy it wound up making me always always always screen. And yes I do take tips from the men in this industry, I am not a man. I don't think like a man,. And I don't act like a man.
pointers on dealing with the other sex. Is always taken with appreciation.
ladies be safe. My SO seen the board postings last night and all he could say is.
I am in a fucked up kinda biz. We deal with potential STD risks,robberies, LE and murder.
Yeah and tell me now boys are rates are too high....

Summer, as a total newbie, I am amazed that such wonderful women are so affordable.  I am fortunate that I have the disposable income to do such things, but so far, I just haven't gotten the courage up do see a local provider.  I am waiting for my infrequent out of town trip without the SO along to try my first.

read the post at the top of this thread.  Your safety is #1!!!!

I agree and some who do get attacked decide not to report it for fear of LE..girls if you are attacked the cops will not do anything to you.

well i have on many occations met gents in other cities since I travel often I can make it avail with out the SO finding you  out.

I appreciate this thread because it's telling me a lot.

I don't go looking for FS, but even so some providers still want to screen me. I finally allowed one to find me on the internet the other day but I am one of those stupid guys you are all referring to who is afraid I'll become "exposed."

I have a good job that allows me to hobby and I'm afraid of becoming exposed.

I can understand the need for ladies to protect themselves. I really want the girls to be safe. But I get worried for my own sake - afraid of LE knocking on my family's door one day.

By the way, the lady who screened me never got back to me so I didn't see her. I'm not a scary dude, I think she's just been busy.

Love to hear back from anyone about this.

or psycho.  Any male (assuming larger and stronger in physical features) can be a threat to a woman and possibly do her bodily harm or more.

Lady's safety comes first PERIOD!  If you don't like their screening requirements, move on.

I have seen CMT's  Tantra therapists and escorts all of which work out of their home.  Its easy, safe and it cuts costs.  Its easier for me because of my line of work, I can say I was seeing a client.  This is a great cover for me.  It would be hard to explain someone seeing me going into a hotel.  All of these ladies know the risks involved in bringing in strangers.  I applaud the screening process that these ladies run us through...

Dear Anna:
I was just wondering in what ways have you modified the way you screen especially with the advent of the internet and le constantly being savvy as providers adjust?

Fuzzy:

Great Post!

I always worry when I don't go through screening.

Only happened once...but who knows what was done.

Unfortunately I think most of the people here who read these posts are smart enough to know!

that same murderer can find you in a hotel too!  The beautiful young lady (From CL) who was just murdered in Boston was staying in a Marriot HOTEL.  Another lady (From CL) not too long ago was held up at gunpoint at a HOTEL.    

It is no more dangerous working out of my home than it is from a hotel room.  Frankly, I feel much safer being in my home than I ever would in a hotel room.  

I screen well and do my absolute best to become familiar with the person who wants to come see me before giving anyone my address.  Irregardless of where you choose to work, SCREEN WELL!  That is the key.  I have worked out of my home for a year now with no trouble.  Why?  Because I screen well.  Period.  No Exceptions.  No references,,,No date.

So, flame away and preach to me all you want.  I will continue doing what works for me.  I will also not pass judgement on anyone else who chooses to do it differently than I.  

Annnnnnddddd Fuzzy!!!  Believe it or not... I am NOT Stupid, Lazy, Irresponsible nor do I EVER ignore the basic rules of safety.  So, YES I take offense to your post.  This is your opinion and you are entitled to it.  Now you have heard my opinion.

Betty

Anyone who is not screening is asking for trouble.  If I don't have time to screen them, then I do not need to make time to see them.  I never cut corners nor accept anyone without screening them first.

Also, it does seem that nothing good is coming out of CL these days.  Although I know that many legit ladies still advertise with them.  To each their own I guess!  

In closing my dearest Fuzzy.  I appreciate the bulk of your post.  It is a strong warning for all providers to screen in order to stay safe.

All My Best, Betty xoxo

First off...if people are "insulting" you, or anyone else, for how they run their business...that is truly rude.

But with that said...with all due respect...it is merely my humble opinion that your mindset is naive and dangerous. No offense or insult meant.
My opinion comes from a background that includes a stint in the 'personal protection' field...so I'd like to think that I know a little about what I speak of.

So the client is screened. Isn't that nice. Where is the information kept? On your computer? That can disappear just as easily as you can. Does anyone else know who the client is, and that you are safe when they leave? Information on site is not very helpful. No different than a business backing up thier info to a hard drive...only to leave that hard drive at work. If there's a fire...it's all gone.

So he's screened. This means he can't sit outside where you live and follow you? How many people really...REALLY...not only know how to look for that...but do it on a regular basis? If followed...someone now knows everything about you. Got kids? He knows where they go to school now. Hmmm...
He can't follow your clients and find out everything about them? He can't slap one of those cheap GPS devices under your car at 3a.m.? Do you have any idea how simple it is to get a license plate 'run'?
He can't grab your mail the second it's dropped off...or pay some kid on a bike $10 to do it? Live in an apartment and feel safe cause the mail goes into a locked box? He can't show up right as the mail is being put in...says he has something to go out..oh..and by the way...I'll grab my mail while I'm here. Think that can't happen. Please. It's so easy, you can't imagine. Now our stalker boy has your real name. Give me that, and the internet...and 30 minutes later I'll know everything about you except your shoe size. 10 more minutes and I'll have that.
Are people aware that some court clerk websites, or property tax collectors, still show your social security number? My guess is....not.

There are DOZENS of other things that can be done so easily...but I'm not here to write a primer for whackos.

So understand that I respect you, all providers, and a person's right to run their business any way they see fit.
It's also my right...to think that some things are completely foolish and asking for trouble while gambling with peoples' LIVES.

It's like I told a provider friend, who sounds EXACTLY like you, "the only way I'll be proven "right" is if something horrible happens to you. I sincerely pray that I'm still 'wrong' in your eyes, then".

Best of luck to you and all who partake in this hobby...on both sides of the aisle.

DD

So the provider hosts out of a hotel room. All the guy has to do is wait for her to leave, follow her home, and he has all the same information. Hell, he doesn't even have to do that. Like you say, just check her license plate when she gets in the car.

IYHO I am naive and dangerous.  IMHO I am Savvy and Smart.  No offense taken nor implied.

So, lets get right down to it.  Is screeing enough?  Of course not.  Would it be enough for you?  Don't underestimate what providers do to keep themselves safe.  I will not discuss all the other things/people I have in place to protect me.  Let's just say, someone else ALWAYS knows what time my appointments are and who I am seeing.  They protect me.  They are my friends.  One of them also worked in security / personal protection for some time.  

Everything you mentioned can also happen to a lady on tour or to me if I went to a nearby hotel.  I live in the city.  My car could be any one of the 100 out there on the street.  Sometimes I even park 2-4 blocks away because parking is tight.  So, good luck finding my vehicle!  

The day this profession scares me to the point of having to be afraid of every client who walks through my door, that is when I need to stop doing what I am doing.  I cannot nor will I go through life being afraid of the bad guy.  Hopefully, the bad guys will leave me alone.  That being said, I hope the bad guys leave all the ladies alone.  

It is your right to have an opinion, just as it is mine.  We can agree to disagree.  Just one question; How would entertaining in my home be "gambling with peoples' LIVES?"  I guess you feel there are NO RISKS meeting someone at a hotel.  Hhhhmmm???  I beg to differ.  

Your post is nicely written and believe it or not, I understand the point you are trying to make.  I believe your intentions are good.  Everytime I read a post such as yours, I feel I learn something more.  So, thank you for that.  However, I still disagree with you.  There will always be dangers out there to all of us regardless of where we choose to work from.  That's why screening and asking for extra information when getting a referral is necessary.  

Hugs, Betty xoxo

i seem to recall seing it on a website somewhere.... now where was that?