I came right back to the hobby.

How's that old saw go:

Be a lady in the living room, and a whore in the bedroom.

A guy was complaining about a boring home sex life that has now become dormant. he suggested roleplay and his wife replied "i'm your wife, not a hooker".  A few months later she surprised him and did it and they had a lot of fun.

... She might be right on this one. I kind of believe (based on what I hear from the gentlemen I meet) that many wouldn't be seeking escorts out if things in the bedroom at home were better. I have a handful of friends I'm thinking of right now as I write this post and each of them love and are 100% devoted to their partners so believe them when they say it's just the sex part that's missing.  

Abby provided some sound advice... that housewives will surely ignore.  

In my case, a lack of interest / effort from my wife led to a lack of interest / effort from me led to no sex (and subsequent hobbying)

same path for me; I put forth a lot of effort for a long time and tried everything I could think of to get things rekindled but how many times can one be rebuffed? I love her and she's a great mom but I'm done. As I've said before, I'm at the point now where I don't cheat on providers with my wife, it just wouldn't be right.

without the risk of disease or arrest. I thought long and hard before getting into the hobby and didn't just do it because Ahm A Guy.

I thought for almost two years

I doubt my wife initiated sex more than 10 times. It could be 0. She's got that good catholic girl thing going that sex is kind of dirty.

and when it went from once a year to zero...  refused every advance...  I could be celibate or find it elsewhere.   Looking back over the years incidents make much more sense now.  Had I KNOWN, I'd have never remarried.    

My wife did have one then after menopause, nothing. We had toys, outdoors at the river, fun stuff. Now I can't even get a HJ.

my ex hated the Church and the knuckle-rapping nuns. Maybe that's why she was so good in bed.

Similar story for me. Until her early 50s, she had as much of a sex drive as I did; oral, anal, pretty much open to everything, then had to have a hysterectomy and it was all downhill from there. Still get it on once a week or so, but her heart's just not in it.

+1

Will be married 30 years this summer.  
She still gives a good hummer

Hey it's right next to the comics in a real paper. EZ reading whilst dumping.

In my younger years in Boys boarding school, there were a few young hot Nuns I fantasized about every single night .  
  Black clothes can hide a lot of things but Big Bosoms always stand out under any color clear as day.  
   
 None of the young  twenties  Nuns ever hit me with sticks or fists like mean older Nuns and big shot bully boys did on a daily  basis.  

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my ex hated the Church and the knuckle-rapping nuns. Maybe that's why she was so good in bed.

Posted By: 89Springer

my ex hated the Church and the knuckle-rapping nuns. Maybe that's why she was so good in bed.

but let's be clear that you are paying for it with your wife and not getting it. And, now you're paying for it with providers.

How else would you know how often the friend's parents were fucking?

as long as I was paying the bills.  She had a schedule...  give it up once right a month after her period...  just enough to give a guy hope & string me along.  When the monety ran out, she stopped pretending & wanted me gone.  Never said so, just acted out until it became intollerable.  I left.  It took a long time to get my head together after that.  

We do except with one couple. Very close to them so it is a matter of trust between us. STD rate among swingers is a bit less than the general population

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I've looked all through this thread and I don't see the comment saying it's always a bad wife, maybe you can help us understand exactly who you're advocating against.

many wives loss interest in taking good care of their bodies as well.  They either exercise way less or not at all and overeat thus gaining significant weight.

How the fuck do you get the flu by shoveling snow?

You do realize that the flu is a virus that I seriously doubt is transmitted by snow, don't you?

Aside from that, I guess fucking hookers for you is a lot better choice than jerking off or having an affair. If you are happy with your life, then who I am I to judge?

but I have to confess, if I go longer than 2-3 days without sex, I get rather grumpy, I can't imagine going to sleep every night next to the woman I love, but still having to take matters in my own hands. I honestly can't imagine living life that way, but that's just me. Dammit, I could have sworn I just said something about not being judgmental, sorry. lol

but it's few and far between.  Granted she's also a Mom of 2 and has been overweight since I met her.  She is a wonderful person and despite her body's looks is a wildcat in bed and can suck a dick like nobody's business.  She's my best friend in the world and despite holding down a full time job and being a Mom we are still "in love".  Unfortunately she is also asthmatic, allergy ridden and has irregular periods which strike at odd times, never on a schedule.  She doesn't' like sex on her period, or when she is tired, or has breathing problems, or has a sinus headache, or if the kids haven't been asleep at least 2 hours, etc. etc. etc.  we have sex maybe once a month.  

The sex slowly ground to a halt after menopause. I went two years with nothing. There were other major issues, too.

Well, I have children who bring home illnesses from school and then due to over exertion in a cold and wet environment where I am sweating while in subfreezing temperatures thus lowering my body's core temperature/nasal passage temperature or whatever the flu does to take root when your resistance is at its lowest due to exhaustion, cold, etc.  the flu takes root in your body.  At least that's how I understand how you can catch the flu.  My son has it too.

I've seen a lot of divorces. Seems like financial armegeddon.

You didn't really catch the flu from shoveling snow, you caught it from your kids.

As for you fucking hookers and it being "cheaper to keep her" yours is a very common theme here, and I am certainly not trying to be anyone's moral compass here. It's well known I have no morals, I do have standards, but I am a bit short in the morals department.

Should have spent your hooker money on hiring someone to shovel snow.

But then again so is she (the hobby not the site), and we each knows the other are fucking others for money or paying money. Of course I would quit if she asked me to, but she is having to much fun herself to want to do that. I know I am lucky, and insane, What else is new?

lowered my resistance due to the exhaustion and weaker immune system brought about by the cold and the snow shoveling perhaps I may not have caught the flu from my kid.  Thus I blame the snow shoveling for wearing my resistance hence "catching the flu while shoveling snow".

You "caught the flu AFTER shoveling snow"

You have to agree that you could not have caught the flu while outside shoveling snow by yourself as I doubt you were exposed to the virus while out there in the snow, but the act of shoveling snow did put your immune system at risk and was a contributing factor. lol



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Or he would be aghast at your misuse of the word "inferred"

I will agree that hot young women are cheated on at much the same rate as old fat ones.

Before anyone disagrees with this, please keep in mind that most "young hot women" are involved with "young hot guys" who are more likely to have temptation thrown their way than the average "old fat guy" who is married to an "old fat woman"  

I think all the above kind of balances itself out and I believe that cheating happens across the board, mainly because people are cheaters, and that there are a million justifications for cheating.

and yes, I guess this means that in a way, I suppose I agree with you. Surprise, Surprise. lol

I still would not have been able to "like" your post as I use Classic which does not have the "like" function.

I will concede, I by and large did agree with your post, unlike most of your other posts here. Baby Steps Tiddles, baby steps.