If you have to drop that kind of a hint you are probably seeing the wrong ladies...

Never suggest something along the lines of "I'm clean but you're not, go wash up".  Bad play.  

You can ask a provider to take a shower *with you* before/after a session. I always invite a provider to take a shower with me after a session.  But if it's a hot day, I'll invite her to a shower both before & after.
Just remember that women cannot bathe/shower as often as men, it dries up their skin.  --z

Who are you seeing that you would feel that was necessary.  If it comes to that you should probably show them the door not the bathroom.

Maybe its time to upgrade your choice of providers...

I wouldn't be offended, but I'd probably miss the point.

If someone showed me to the bathroom and invited me to "freshen up", I'd think he was indicating the envelope was in there, not that he wanted me to literally freshen up.

Regardless of my inability to pick up on hints, I can't fault anyone for encouraging his/her date to be squeaky clean. When I host, on his arrival I do invite my date to freshen up if he'd like. By no means am I insinuating he's not clean, I just think it's polite to give him time to do so if he wants.

The mere idea of the provider - who may very well be squeaky clean - walked from her car to his place makes him ill. I mean, my goodness, think of all the germs that she picked up from her own driveway and the inside of her car, and then add his driveway and then the sidewalk, and then when she wiped her feet on the mat...

You think I'm exaggerating? Some guys ARE as bad as Monk!

On the other hand, the provider might have reeked of cigarettes (or herb). The odor of either on a client are enough to make me feel a bit ill, moreso because I don't smoke at all. Imagine if the OP felt that the provider reeked - and think, too, that his outcall might have been in his home while his SO was gone.

Too many possible scenarios - but, hey, we ask the guys to freshen up. It's tit for tat here, I'd say. If you still want her to stick around, then by all means, ask her to shower. Be aware that it'll cut into your playing time. If you don't want to go to the bother, then show her the door instead.

Clear as mud, right?

the OP did NOT say the provider was stinky. After all, the way he stated it, he'd already put the soap and washcloth on the sink BEFORE she even got there. Because they didn't read his question AS HE WROTE IT, nearly everyone here ASSumed he meant the provider was a smelly tartlet. He asked a question that required mostly a yes or no answer from individual providers, not the treatise that we (me, included) gave him. So, to me, this is not a question of whether the provider stunk or not. The soap and washcloth awaited her arrival; he wanted to ensure that she was as fresh as possible.  

I merely provided another scenario to the already wild speculation that he "said" that she stunk.

So, to answer his actual question, would I be offended? No. And I'd probably ask him to join me in it!

Not at all. Though I would say i've already showered (which I would have anyways) before coming and if he's laid out a new soap it'd have to be a certain kind....I don't put just anything near my vagina.  Never had anyone ask because depending on the bodywash I use you can smell/tell I just got out of the shower.

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I would not take it as an offensive thing.  However I would never show up unshowered.  I also shower right after, it's relaxing too.  I am a low volume provider tho.
Just my .02 Cents.