Do you politely let your provider know and tell her what you were hoping for?  Or do you simply go along with her and then roast her in a review?  As a provider, I would love to have a gentleman's opinion.

Rachel

I haven't had too may disapointments yet. But the ones I did have, I kept my mouth shut and left.

Hey Rachel... LOVE your eyes...

Usually I will let real disappointments go but it really depends on how my expectations were developed. If pictures on ad and subsequent telephone conversations were pleasing or exciting, and please remember I do not ask rude or explicit questions, then I show up as promised and I've been obviously misled, then I may post a review.

When I walk into (and hopefully out of) a rip-off situation I will always post.

But when a woman, who is who she holds herself out to be, and I simply do not click, then no, I would not post a negative review. How can I put a meeting that went bad for one reason or another totally on the woman? That is selfish and irrational. Somewhere chemistry has to take hold or it is just unusually interesting exercise.

I can think of one lady in particular that was branded as a rip-off mostly because she was (is) expensive. I certainly had a great time with her and posted so. Took a lot of heat for liking Lene. I guess I could have let my wishes get in the way of reality, but I was just happy she actually answered the damn door.

Another time I posted what I thought to be a very positive review. My words did not match the ladies expectations and I hurt her feelings pretty bad. I can't take it back (although I would in a heartbeat if I could) but I learned that what I write can have unintended consequences.

There is an aweful lot of fiction presented out there. Some is harmless cotton candy (I love soft pink sweet... never mind) and some is intended to be hurtful.
I would not go back either.

which is all I can do or have ever been equipped to do, I will say that I often have wondered the same thing myself.

I notice that my male guests tend to be very well behaved, but because they come to me, I understand that they are in an awkward position.  I try to give them a chance to relax, and adapt to surroundings(egging them on very gently in a certain visceral direction sometimes helps them relax), while assessing if they would like to stay.  Still I try to give them a gracious out without making it obvious.

But sometimes there are situations that go far beyond what one provider or any one human can be expected to resolve in a given session.  Sometimes a client will carry woundings, sadness and unrealistic hopes. Any number of things may have happened recently, causing him to seek some kind of comfort with us. Sometimes these hopes are crushed because they are unreal expectations, and can bite back at us in the form of reviews, only because we are the surrogates, we were there.  

I wish I could say that reviews this or reviews, that.  I just dont really know what they mean anymore.  I think like some men on the board have said, they are moreso a reflection of the client himself.

Good Question.

xoxo

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Straightman, you are a gooooood man.

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If I was disappointed, I would pretty much keep that to myself.  If I felt ripped off, I would roast her in the review.  

I've experienced one of each.  One has many positive reviews here.  She showed up tired and depressed.  Told me her life's issues and they were pretty severe.  (I didn't ask either).  She starts out telling me she is in therapy, husband left her, lost the kid but this beats living out of the trunk of her car.  I paid for two hours and she pretty much just laid there.  Worst experience of my life.  Still I said nothing at the time and completely let it go.  She recently contacted me via email so I unloaded on her.  She didn't deny but said she didn't remember me.  I should be so lucky!

but when I have, I've kept my mouth shut. If it was a case where I didn't find her to be what I was looking for, then I tried to be as honest/objective as possible in the review. I also qualified it saying that she was not what I expected and any disappointments may have been from my perspective only and not typical for others. The only time I wrote a harsh review was when she was absolutely not the person in the ad, she asked for additional tips for everything (this was FBSM), and wore latex gloves even for the massage portion. So, normally, if a session doesn't go as I hoped, I generally just don't return.

BTW, this can often be avoided a spending a few minutes or more just talking and getting to know someone before moving to the fun zone. A little bit of foreplay (ie, unbuttoning his shirt, giving him pecks on the cheek, etc) gives you the opportunity to tell him what you like and he'll let you know what he likes. This way there are far fewer disappointments. JMHO

pt

Wow I'm sorry you went thru that. I do have a tendency to babble too sometimes, but my *hope* is that my clients would let me know if they were unhappy with ANYthing going on during our session.  Tell me right then, when I have the chance to do something about it, instead of later, when all is said and done... I can't go BACK and fix anything. Now in this particular instance this may not have been the appropriate action... I'm only saying that I sure hope if someone were with me, and were unhappy, they'd speak up.  I'm all for constructive criticism. I am not perfect and there is always room to get better! It would hurt me a lot tho, to think the guy had a fine time and then see him trash me in a review for something I had no idea was happening.

Hugs*
Nicole

great question rachelann.

I think the first 5 minutes of any session with a provider is
without question, the most important.

Is she the girl in the picture?  Is she in a decent mood?
Is there chemistry?  Does she ask for the money before
she even sits down?  Is her cell phone constantly ringing?
Does it seem like she wants to please you, or just the
agency she's working for?

Before you exchange money, always always always confirm,
in person, how much, how long, and whether it is full service
or not.

Even though it was confirmed over the phone, through an
agency, or whatever.

For all those great providers out there who don't scam, please don't take this in the wrong way.  It's just that the
number of providers who do scam far outnumber you.

After that, things like, could you go a little slower, faster,
or "I like it when you do that" will help ensure you have a
great time.  

If the chemistry just isn't right, that's just the way it goes.

If it seems like mentally, the girl never took her coat off,
that's the way it goes.

If she's getting ready to leave long before she's supposed
to stay, well, i suppose you can always point that out.

But the awkwardness that will ensue as you try to ride out
the rest of the session she was going to blow off isn't worth
it.

All in all, you can try to turn a session that isn't going so
well into one that is truly memorable.

At the end of the day though, unless you're with a provider
you've been with before, there's one fact you simply can't
get around.

Two strangers have  to click and become great lovers
in 1hr.

That said, adjust your expectations accordingly.

IMHO