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Follow up on sugar daddy situation
isles71 1357 reads
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Background:

I hooked up with a beautiful brazilian girl who was doing the escort scene part time with her friend. She is a student. Yes she really is a student fellas. She has a sponsor family and works another job at a restaurant  Ive seen her outside the escort scene for a while now. I haven't been getting my "moneys worth" for some time now. I've helped her out, if you know what I mean and have showered her with many gifts. I'm getting blue balls here and don't know how to ask her to help seal the deal. We've been dating and having fun but I do have needs. I think I'm afraid of offending here by asking her to go to a motel. Any suggestions or advice would be helpful.

STOP!!!!

No more gifts, especially if she's not giving up the sweet , wet, pink oyster.. She's trying to play you.. Either set some bounderies for a more even exchange, or leave her alone...
She's not a little girl, and she knows what this game is all about1 don't worry about offending her... tell her your needs, and set the bounderies..

Peace

DoggieStud145 reads

Look, if you are getting into a sugardaddy arrangement, you should cum at least 2 - 3 times a day on top of her, doggie, cowgirl, etc.

Or you must be crazy if you are payin money without your meat inside her honeybun.

Tex

Should we read in the Jersey accent??????

i do a wicked Jersy accent and also pseudo-vampire Transylvanian ;-)

Hallowe'en is coming up you know ;-)

Just fucking ask her already, what do you have to lose, besides those blue balls you were talking about?

You are not really a sugar daddy here, you are more of a "friend without benefits", you can't blame her if you are too afraid to ask.

You are so lucky it appears that most of the board (you know who you are) appear to be sober today. You have no idea how much abuse could have been piled onto you on "one of those days" lol

Anon_from_NYC183 reads

There is dumb. There is dumber. And there is OP.

if she wants to fuck/suck/somf/cim,,,,,,whatever!

hotplants189 reads

Are you 15?

Either hire a provider and, e'hem...“get your money’s worth”. Or acknowledge that you are dating a woman, and abandon the crap in your head about how you ‘think’ you’ve paid enough that she now "owes" you sex. If she wants to fuck you she will.

Advice?: If this is taking too long for you, grab your blue balls and move on.  

While I'd express the idea somewhat differently; the operative elements are the same.

I think this dude must be smokin' somethin'.

Radcow149 reads

If you can't figure it out and with her being in the escort scene prior to meeting, you've got bigger issues. Your name is Tim and that is short for ATM.

First, it involves growing a pair.

She don't dig you, bro. You're a floormat.

She has needs also, and guess where she's getting them fulfilled?

That's right. Mikey's place! ;)

We appreciate your gifts. Means I don't have to give her shit!

Well, orgasms, but that kinda cums with the territory. Know what I'm sayin'?!

Keep sendin' them my way, pal! :)

"There's sucker born every minute."

This woman has worked as an escort, you are helping her out and you haven't been laid yet? Dude, get a clue, you are being chumped. Maybe it isn't her fault. Maybe you haven't asked and she thinks you are just her generous gay friend. If she worked as an escort, she is not shy about discusseing sex for compensation but if you just hand it over without telling her you have expectations, then don't expect anything more than what you are getting. It's pretty clear she isn't "into you" enough to offer it up out of gratitude.

getting companionship in return for the gifts you are giving her.  As of now, you are being used as a walking ATM.  You need to be dipping your stick.

hotplants133 reads

he is not in a position in which he “should be” dipping his stick, or anything else. He is not “owed” squat.

And, he is not “being used”. He is knowingly, willingly offering “gifts” to her with an expectation that, if he gives enough, she will fuck him.

One—what he is offering are not “gifts”. Gifts are given without expectation of reciprocity. Two, he is approaching a dating situation as if he was hiring an escort.

These two scenarios do not overlap. Pick one, or the other.  

shudaknownbetter137 reads

She's perfectly happy to string you along, take your money & gifts...  but not put out.   If she has a "provider" mindset, it is the low class "scam the guy as much as possible".   Provider??  Does she have reviews?   What were you thinking?  

If you try to morph this into a provider/client relationship she'll either dump you or get offended.  Either way, it's time to cut your losses & move on.  
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