From a provider's perspective and from a hobbiest's perspective.  There was an old GEORGE SCOTT movie where he tracks down his daughter who wound up in the porn industry and he found an actress/provider willing to help him track his daughter down.  At one point in the film, she says to him, "sex means so little to me, I can have it with anyone for just about any reason, but it means so much to you, you can't even talk about it."

Much of my antics do mean something to me, as do the women, but I do wonder, is my view unique.... or common!???

It became more fun, less important??
I'll try to explain what I mean.

I realized that when I stopped trying to be a stud.
Things flow without thinking. Touch takes control over all senses.
The only way I can explain it is like tasting her breath?
I mean you notice things you never did. Good things.
I learned to respond, because I was actually paying attention to the sex, and the directions it may go.

I used to be concerned with how I was doing.
It got in the way of that trance you can get in with a good fuck.


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who spoke thus with regard to his true passion, golf:

"It is much too important to take seriously."

I figure I spend as much time on sex as he did with golf, and spend probably just as much too, in adjusted dollars.

It's not just about the pure physical pleasure that sex brings - you can find that with any woman you drop a few bills on. It's the "connection" or the "feeling" that their is something more going on than just a primal sexual act. Maybe it is a feeling of some "intimacy"? I guess that's what a real "GFE" girl is about -  not so much how adept she is with he various "acronyms" or "techniques"but the way she makes you "FEEL" for an hour, or two.

to part away with 50% of my assets, and never having to worry about divorce lawyer..

Who wants to settle down when you can fuck a new hottie every other day/week/month....

I never really knew what Intimate was.
I was too concerned with.. "Doing this, and that"
I lost sight of my own body.

You have to admit there is more to it than worrying about a Lawyer.
It is about freedom, and the high you get from it.
It is about fun....

Sex is one of those great things that you crave, but honestly, when it comes right down to it, the only reason I would continue to do this is if I found myself unhappy or dissatisfied in a relationship--or wasn't in one at all.

It is fun and enjoyable, no doubt.

But as I get older...it's just like a fix more than anything else.

Right now I am going back and forth with a hottie and working on details of a "role play" that I have been cooking in the darker side of my mind...

You may be lucky if you get a girlfriend who is into all that "good" stuff, but try with that with your wife !!!

Yeah right !!!

My penis has only been inside two females: my ex gf and one provider.

I agree, sex with an emotional connection is more fulfilling. This topic hits it on the money for me and my views about sex with providers. I don't feel jealous or threatened because they are not me. He's in love with me. I want him to have a friendly connection with a provider to make the experience better. But that's not the same thing as love.

We've heard a million times on here how some guys confuse the two. I think most people want that intimate sexual experience. And here you pay a provider for (hopefully) a good illusion of it. For me, sex is the physical dimension of your personal relationship with someone special. The stronger the connection, the better the sex.

Of course sex is fun.  But for me PERSONALLY, once I get married or have a serious girlfriend...all of this is over.

But that's just ME, and I am not passing judgment on anyone who feel otherwise.

I tend not to over think these things...I am here to do a job, and that's it. If I make friends along the way, awesome, but it's not what I set out to do with every guy I meet. Some men do not want anything from me other than the time they pay for, and I don't begrudge them that.

Sex for the most part in the "hobby" scene for me is just about seeing what I may have missed by marrying young and not having it at home any more really as an option. I have seen a couple women with whom the experience left me amazed that a certain position or act could feel so much better then I had experienced prior.

What sex "really" means for me though, is love. And all I really want in life is to have a woman of my own to love and be loved by. Life has not worked out that way so far though.

I doubt it.

Personally, if a guy is timid it's not that I forget about the sex we had. Though when I remember the sex so vividly it's when;

We fuck so hard in every position that we break the bed half way into 8 hours  of non stop hardcore action. Except for a sip of wter in between. Yes, I broke a new bed set that way and no it was not a cheap one.

Male behind me, any size stick, as long as he participates in allowing himself to be into it without fear of cumming to quickly, he is grabbing my hair, and agreeing that I am his little slut... I'm exploding at the moment.
When a guy moans especially when he cums....or he tells me he is going to cum in either position, I explode again.
Hardcore sex, shower sex, outside sex, I'm all over that.

Sex that makes you wanna laugh...and there is no pun intended here when I say this...men need to not fear exploding while having a BJ, fu(king, making love, what ever he refers to it as. When I have sex, I wanna fuck. It is always meaningful. If its not with that person, then I do not do it again. It can even be a one time fling and as long as we are equally freaky all over the area we are in, I'm going to always remember that.

When sex is well,I do not want to offend anyone by saying this though I do tend to say what's on my mind when asked.

Okay, I am going to rephrase it from not being as meaningful to, "sex with less pleasure".....
When a guy cums as soon as his other head comes out from under the covers. When he apologizes for cumming to quickly, or when he says , "thank you after he cums". My ex used to always say that. I would reply, "thank you...really?" I felt like a fricken thank you, cum again machine.

In one view, it is the perception that I get to appreciate what a specific woman has to offer sexually/physically.  In another view, it is an expression of appreciation for her physical form and abilities, other ways, it is a way to have unique fun together.  It is also a manner of communication and an allowance for me to tell a woman what I think of her - all good.

He thinks so. But don't forget, I'm a lucky gal too.

By the way, what does Ofah mean? I tried to look it up but I still don't understand.

I do however believe the best sexual relationships are formed when two are in love though. I am not talking the "physical" aspect of sex only, but the where your heart, mind, and soul are also in the equation. I offer my body and mind here...that's it. My heart and soul are not for sale.

I also believe MANY guys here still love their wives dearly, but they are not having sex with them. This is how they get that part of their lives satisfied, and not hate their home life.

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