It became more fun, less important??
I'll try to explain what I mean.

I realized that when I stopped trying to be a stud.
Things flow without thinking. Touch takes control over all senses.
The only way I can explain it is like tasting her breath?
I mean you notice things you never did. Good things.
I learned to respond, because I was actually paying attention to the sex, and the directions it may go.

I used to be concerned with how I was doing.
It got in the way of that trance you can get in with a good fuck.


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to part away with 50% of my assets, and never having to worry about divorce lawyer..

Who wants to settle down when you can fuck a new hottie every other day/week/month....

who spoke thus with regard to his true passion, golf:

"It is much too important to take seriously."

I figure I spend as much time on sex as he did with golf, and spend probably just as much too, in adjusted dollars.

Sex is one of those great things that you crave, but honestly, when it comes right down to it, the only reason I would continue to do this is if I found myself unhappy or dissatisfied in a relationship--or wasn't in one at all.

It is fun and enjoyable, no doubt.

But as I get older...it's just like a fix more than anything else.

My penis has only been inside two females: my ex gf and one provider.

I agree, sex with an emotional connection is more fulfilling. This topic hits it on the money for me and my views about sex with providers. I don't feel jealous or threatened because they are not me. He's in love with me. I want him to have a friendly connection with a provider to make the experience better. But that's not the same thing as love.

We've heard a million times on here how some guys confuse the two. I think most people want that intimate sexual experience. And here you pay a provider for (hopefully) a good illusion of it. For me, sex is the physical dimension of your personal relationship with someone special. The stronger the connection, the better the sex.

I tend not to over think these things...I am here to do a job, and that's it. If I make friends along the way, awesome, but it's not what I set out to do with every guy I meet. Some men do not want anything from me other than the time they pay for, and I don't begrudge them that.

Sex for the most part in the "hobby" scene for me is just about seeing what I may have missed by marrying young and not having it at home any more really as an option. I have seen a couple women with whom the experience left me amazed that a certain position or act could feel so much better then I had experienced prior.

What sex "really" means for me though, is love. And all I really want in life is to have a woman of my own to love and be loved by. Life has not worked out that way so far though.

In one view, it is the perception that I get to appreciate what a specific woman has to offer sexually/physically.  In another view, it is an expression of appreciation for her physical form and abilities, other ways, it is a way to have unique fun together.  It is also a manner of communication and an allowance for me to tell a woman what I think of her - all good.