Sometimes it's just because she's a great f**k. But more often, it's the way she _____.

Her smile, the welcoming way she greets you, the fact that she is NEVER in a rush. Or maybe it's how she can take you in to the hilt and love every bit of it.. or that she's the only woman who can make you c*m like that.

For all of us it's different. But there's something that just does it for us all.

So what makes our ATF an all time favorite?

I don't actually think it's so much about being a great f*ck.  Lots of ladies out there are great in the sack.

I think what makes it special is believing that, for the time you spend together, this guy is your dream date.  And letting him walk away feeling that way.  I'd say that's our job pretty much outlined

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Thankyou for putting it so simply, but, clearly.

Just my opinion...
B

As long as the chemistry is there, she can treat me like shit.


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is that a good wife will do the same thing for her husband.....strange how simple it really all is.

exactly right Carrie.  making me feel like I am special along with some great chemistry/intimacy

I thinks it's 90% inspiration and 10% perspiration.

Attitude is what does it for me.

I'll never forget one of my blind meetings with an escort (pre-internet days).

She was at best, a four in looks, and I was a bit disappointed, but something about her manner kept me from making an excuse and running off.

I'm so glad I did because that lady got me off three times in the next hour mostly with the sheer force of her wonderful personality.

I learned so much that day.

Wouldn't you know that when I called back a few weeks later a different girl answered the phone and said she had never heard of the escort I had seen.  That was par for the course back then.

So it looks like :  physical appeal + chemistry + her attitude/ability to make YOU feel great + your ability to walk away = ATF?

I find it telling that another contributor mentions, and I've thought along these lines as well, that an ATF does everything a wife/SO does.

Yes, it is simple.  And amazingly complex at the same time.  

It looks like hobbying is close to a mirror image of civie relationships.  The ongoing search for Miss Right/Miss Perfect.

I'm more confused than ever.

Through the years, I've had a few ATFs and some has retired (and you don't know how much you'd miss them until they're gone).

Sex is part physical and part mental. Some of the best sex I've had is the result of the great mental connection I've had with that person. Physical attracton is important but sometimes overrated and shortlived. Every once in a while I've paid $700 an  hour to be with someone who has the amazing look to fulfill a fantasy ( but I often do not return because the satisfaction that you get of that experience does not linger on to make you yearn for more). Whereas you can be with someone who could be just mediocre in appearance but she makes you feel so special (from the way you're looked at and touched) that makes you yearn for more of that specialness and keep thinking about going back for more. However, this is not a real relationship. If you see each other too often, it might get stale after a while.  I can't imagine seeing my ATF more than once a month.

It's a combination of lots of things that all add up to connection. Some of the things I think are important: a sense of adventure, honesty, physical appeal, great sex, intelectual curiosity, a willingness to explore spirituality, emotional maturity and depth.

she fulfills, if only for a very short period of time, the fantasy that I had in my mind of married life....  a laugh, a hug, a cuddle, interesting conversation... and while I know that the day-in and day-out of a marriage is not always filled with that, and that there is a significant portion of married life that is more like running a corporation rather than a joyous family experience... I also know that marriages without those simple joys of intimacy - sharring a laugh, or even a smile - fail.

So for me, if I walk in the room, and the lady greats me as a lady, and transforms in the time I am with her into someone who makes me fell welcome and wanted sexually, she is my ATF... and several ladies have done this....

Oddly enough, I do find ladies who are incredible sexually, but who do not know how to provide my fantasy.... I think that I ask a lot...   but as I say, there are ladies out there, who can and do fulfill.

It worked a little too well. A raccoon followed me home.

your lucky... a skunk followed me home and wouldn't leave!!!

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Well I'm not sure I'd go that far, but it isn't physical or how great the sex is. It's purely mental. She's glad to see me come, sad to see me go. Makes me feel like a king in between. Says all the right things to stroke my ego. She's the best girlfriend I ever had.

this was a truck stop... and I ran into a lady who was incredibly fun... nice... and just seemed to like me... we had a great time.... she gave me her private phone # and invited me to call.... I certainly did... she answered the first time, and we were not able to set a firm date... when I called back about a week later.... she had vanished.... those were the days... some say the good ole days... me? I say these are the good ole days...  now. here. the present.

I'd rather she told me I was handsome and a great lover! LOL

It's more than physical.  Splunge says it well.  For me, it's something I can't put into words. Actually trying to define it tends to make it seem less than it is.  It's wonderful when you find it.

Her Look is Mesmerizing, Her Touch is Electrifying, Her Smile Is Radiant, and She Makes Me....

cum so hard I think my back is going to break!

We both get each other off and we both enjoy each other's orgasms as much as our own.  We just meld into one beautiful orgasming being during our time together!

I have never once felt like a customer or client around her.  I have always just felt like her lover.

That's why she is my ATF.



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...and the willingness to remove them.

right out of my mouth Terrev... :0)

I'm a big fan of the total package: looks, presentation, attentiveness AND bcd talent.

I try to bring all of that plus that special touch to every session. Be it remembering his favorite drink or knowing that he'd enjoy a hot sower after a long drive in to see me, for me it's all part of the fantasy.

And this is all about living a fantasy isn't it?..

She makes me laugh from the moment she opens the door until the moment we hug goodbye.

Even after ten months and an appointment or two a month we are still discovering new ways to enjoy our time together.

She tells me what turns HER on.

We talk about things that I've never been able to talk about with other women, much less other providers.

OK, Absolutely the best sex I've ever had in my life!

The only time I think about the money involved is when I am at the bank...and even then I have a huge grin  on my face!

Trust me there's more...I think of a new one after just about every visit...

For me, although this is a 'fantasy' hobby, it has to be the level of openness and genuineness that she shares with me. I don't seek perfection, I seek connection. Recentlyh had the opportunity to spend a few much-to-short hours with a wonderful lady. Her uniqueness of looks (even though she has many pics up on her site) and personality caught me pleasantly by surprise. Due to jet-lag, I never got to 'home plate', but the time spent with her was just soooo nice. I felt connected from the moment I arrived, seeing her peek out the door of her home. The afternoon went like a sweet dance by two people, who, although having just met, slipped into a simpatico rhythym of touch and conversation.

Never considered defining an ATF before, but the more I think about it, I may have found her. (Now back to figuring out how to see her again without needing to wait another year...)

I go with Carrie on this one 100%. I have only been on chat with Carrie but suspect we will meet this year, but she hit the nail on the head. If the man walks away with a smile and that elusive feeling she described then he becomes a repeat customer. My reviewers describe how they feel in quite a lot of detail and give me great reviews and I credit it to what Carrie alludes to. I suspect that is something that is difficult to aquire and I suspect it is not aquired but there without knowing it.

xoxoxox