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Why do you all insist on over-complicating?

Hello,

Recently I had set up two dates with different providers while I was in town. #1, someone I had seen several times and always looked forward to seeing, and another(#2), that I had not seen at all.  I used the other for the reference( I have not partook in the hobby for that long of a period).  The only reason I had setup an appointment with the second persion was because I had read a post that had mentioned #1 being out of pocket for 6 months or so.  Since I had not heard back from them, I contacted #2 after a couple of weeks of not hearing back from #1.

About 2 days afterwards, I had heard back from #1 saying she received a reference check request from #2(Yes, I used the first for a reference since I had seen her a couple of times).

Well to make a long story shorter, she gave a good reference to the second one and even booked a date for the next evening with me.  

Well ,when the evening came to see #1, she did not arrive at the agreed time, but texed me about 15 earlier that she was running behind, etc.  Not a problem to me as I am very flexible.  Well, more texts and about 4 hours later, and she still had not arrived.  Several excuses/reasons, and basically went to bed after midnight and no further calls or texts.  Received another text early that morning and she apologized, and was sorry.  She wanted to come by if I was still going to be in that morning(She knew I had to leave that day to go back home).  I let her come by for a few minutes, and she was supposedly had some family/friend issues that had her tied up.  

She asked me if I saw the other provider durng our conversation, which makes me think she was upset maybe that I saw someone else maybe while I was there.  She said she was not mad, but, not so sure now.  She has not returned any email or text I have sent to check in with her.  

Is this probably a situation where that was the last time I will see be seeing or hearing from her? She really is fun to be around and we have enjoyed each other when we have gotten together, but something just was not right, and could not put my finger on it.  I asked her what was going on, and she said that I did not want to hear it as it is one big soap opera.

Just curious.

Tx

I was thinking the same thing.  If I bang my head against a tree and no one sees it, will it still hurt?

I can see where you're coming from, but yeah I wouldn't worry too much. Might as well try to get a date with her next time you're there anyway.

There are a million scenarios that could be going on.  Here's one:  she had a fight with her SO (who may, but likely does not, know her source of income), and she's upset, and her keeping the appointment meant the end of the relationship with her SO.  (He says: "Why do you have to leave while we are fighting?  Who do you have to phone/text that is more important than our future?...)  She doesn't want to mix her SO with her professional life, so instead of lying to you, she just clams up and says "it is one big soap opera."

Regardless of the events, if I felt a connection to the provider, I'd cut her some slack, let time pass, and try to reconnect with her next time you are in town.  I feel that a good physical relationship is easy to find (just use the "Search" page on TER), but a good connection is more valuable.  

(I know:  pay to play, the 4 "P's"  (good one, by the way), etc.   All I can say is that I work with people at my job whom I would never have dealt with except for work, and whom I'll never see again if the work relationship ended.  But I like some of these people, and connect with them, and enjoy interacting with them, and at times I'll go out of my way to assist them.

maybe she had a problem as she said. maybe she didn't. it's best to just let it alone. if you are in the mood to see her again in the future, put it to the test and see what happens.

that will be more informative than relying on random advice from strangers on a board who may or may not share your preferences as far as repeating with ladies.

As I actually tend to agree with your assesment, we are trying to have a society here....LOL. A society no doubt full of love depraved sycophants, (self included)  who spend more time wondering "will she love me? or will she love me not?" than fucking. I am sure most of the ladies here would rather us focus on the latter and leave the former to EROS and Aphrodite. Long live the fantasy that "she cares and I think she is starting to love me".

Pass the Macallan.

Just an old ugly fat fuck with an opinion.

And many of us have that similar complex (on both sides of that envelope).  This has nothing to do with you whatsoever.  Her reasons/excuses are irrelevant to you (outside of the fact that your were stood up).  See her again...or don't.  Trying to understand or come up with a rational explanation is never needed here.

She does not OWN you.   She has no right to complain when she did not take you up on the offered booking & in fact, your date did not happen.  
Drama does happen.  You have to give her the benifit of the doubt on that one.  I had dates interrupted 3 times...  a couple of months between each...  with the same Fav lady.   She interrupted the date because the family ring tone and I gave her privacy to deal with it.  She made it clear she wanted me to stay, though she was so upset we struggled to pickup where we left off.   So perhaps you were better off.
If you care to see her again, you might see if she's available when you are again in town.  But it is good for her to remember not to take you for granted.
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... It is always strange to me to see posts like this.  I have worked in many of the strip clubs in Atlanta and have seen first hand that guys do not get the fact that the only reason that these women bother with most of the guys is MONEY.  

    You have to learn to separate sex and love. If you are in the "hobby" and find you are having more than a good time feeling you need to change dance partners.

  She first met you because of the money ... Always remember that!