Hey guys,

I have been wanting to "take the plunge" for a year now, but always get too nervous to make the call to a provider.  Any idea why I am such a p*ssy?

I really want to do it.  Sometimes I get drunk and feel confident to do it, but then I think they will probably not appreciate a complete lush.  NOt to mention I am 25.  Am I too young?  Do providers like only older guys?

Thanks for your thoughts.

Two suggestions:

1. Find a lady that posts actively on one of the discussion boards here on TER that you would like to see. Contact her by email or phone and tell her what you just posted. Any lady that is worth seeing will be glad to walk you through your first time and help quiet your fears.

2. Check out the FAQ for Newbies board. There is an active community of people new to the hobby that are asking all the questions that yo have asked and some that you might not have thought of yet. Good resource for those that need a little reassurance.

We're all nervous our first time, son. Hell, I'm nervous every time. There's lot's of neat reasons to be nervous. You just wait till you're ready, and make sure you call a lady who is well reviewed on TER. That will eliminate a lot of the reasons to be nervous. Do your homework, and walk into your meeting boldly and with confidence. And make sure to turn in your report when the meeting is over.

If you'd like, I could go with you and hold your hand

All respect,
riker

Remember your first time? Everyone's nervous. Definitely don't do it drunk -- you probably won't get it up and she'll probably not want to see you in that state. I just had my first provider experience a few months ago -- find a provider with good reviews and IMHO fir the first time look for experience over 18-year old hard bodies. Then nail them too.

You are not a pu**y, I never had the courage when I was your age.
It is just life experience and becoming comfortable with yourself.
My best advice is that your age is somewhat of a disadvantge so make an extra effort to be a respectful gentleman. Your mileage will increase proportionately if you choose a provider wisely.
Remember the person you see is a woman and will respond accordingly to sincere compliments and treating her the way you expect to be treated.

vagina, I mean, fahita, that you can live with and go for it!

It's just like 1,2,3.

HB

you're not too young, but you might be too shy. In any case, I don't think the drinking thing is a good idea. Maybe have a drink when you get to the appointment.

My first experience at a massage parlour getting a topless HJ's was when I was 16. My first full-service (FS) provider was when I was 17, but that was in England. I don't think it's as unusual in Europe to go to redlight districts. There's a lot more obstacles in the states, I think.

I like the idea of forming an e-mail relationship to get comfortable with eachother. Sounds like some of these ladies in the reviews are fabulous at putting gents at ease.

Actually, I'm very nervous too about taking the plunge with a west coast FS provider, but for completely different reasons. Mainly that I may fail the verification process and that my wife might discover the financial discrepancies in our budget. The sex part will be easy if I ever get to that stage with a provider.

My first time provider experience happened when I was 26.  A lot of my first time jitters have to do with whether the escort will agree to see me, whether she will greet me warmly, whether she is worth the money and whether I can perform adequately in the session compared to her other clients.

My thought is that once you minimize the down side, it is a lot easier to take the plunge.

1. First time is usually not the best, so don’t spend too much. - No matter how great is the provider, since this is your first experience in the hobby, chances are there will be something you can do better next time.  (Maybe, the way you talk, kiss, etc.)  I am assuming that you intend to do this at least a few more times.  I suggest you to find a provider that is more affordable to you.  (Say 250/hr to 300/hr instead of 400/hr to 500/hr)   If the cost to you is not that high, most likely you will be more comfortable to make the call.

2. Call well reviewed agency girls if you have problems contacting independents -
Often a well reviewed independent provider is busy and uses voice mail to screen calls.  Independents are also more concerned with LE and often preferred better reviews so they might not want to see a young new client.  Agency dispatchers have fewer qualms with reviews and new clients.  A well run agency will also answer your calls promptly and make sure the girl showed up.  However, make sure the provider is well reviewed.  There are lots of bad agency girls out there.

3. Incall is better than outcall – For first timer, it is better to do incall.  You don’t have to set up or find a place for outcall.  Most of the time, you don’t have to wait.  You can walk out of the site if you feel uncomfortable.  If you don’t have to worry about things you needed to do before you see the provider, it is easier for you to make the call.

4. Younger provider is better – Since you are young and a first timer, a well reviewed younger provider is better than an older one.  There are lots of highly rated and excellent older providers.  They usually provided better service.  However, there are lots of grade inflations in reviews especially in the look section. (Check my other postings on this subject.)  Since you are only 25, there is less chance of you being disappointed in spending time with a young naked beautiful woman.  (Prepare to add 3 to 5 years to the age of a provider based on her profile.)

5. BBBJ and Multi-pop as safety net – BBBJ will help get you going no matter how nervous you are.  Multi-pop provider will relieve you of the worry about finishing too soon.  This takes care of the anxiety about performance.

With the help of TER, the worst you can do is just having an average encounter.  In time, you will have a true GFE that will be savored for a long time.  Start the call and have fun.


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The rejection won't be as bad as it was from your first foray into the hormonal world (sorry, sometimes I feel the need to crack my~~~f up).

If you do your homework, you should be able to narrow down the ladies that don't have specifics on their web pages about ages. & even if they do, they might be like me. I only have age specifics because I'm not interested in being your penpal (believe me its happened, & I couldn't think of a nice way to cut it off). I'm not say you in particular, but lots of younger guys (& probably older as well), use pen pal in lue of a subscription xxx. W/no interest in actually scheduling.

MY other big reason is that I have no interest in drunkin' frat boys bugging me. Which brings to mind a guy basically begging upon the chicago boards of another site for a freebee on his b-day (as the new tri was coming up w/the terms check due; I really felt for him......haha. poor college kid).

So perhaps a well worded note that includes everything she asks for in the way of info....... the restriction might get lifted depending upon the lady.

good luck, & always have fun!

Lisa

Hey PT

Everyone here has had some great thoughts, I have just one thing to add. You may want to try a lady who offer’s massage only. Kind of takes the pressure off the performance level of your first encounter. Make the call, set up a time and go enjoy your massage!

I had my first GFE encounter last week, (which was pure ecstasy!!). Having had a couple of massage appointments earlier that month eased my nerves and made the experience more enjoyable.

Good Luck

CI  

Well....I don't think its his hand that needs holding! But I could be wrong.

I agree with the massage first... it will take the pressure off you; and you can relax and get a fill for the provider. Take it easy and in no time you'll be swinging bat in the majors.

being nervous is part of the adventure. nothing like getting the trembles as she slides down your pants in that strange room ...

i have to believe that women get nervous too. sex with strange guys, some rude, some smelly, some butt ugly, take 'em all. if you look ok to them and act like a gent and say thank you at the end you are going to be a bouquet of roses in their day.

"massage only" providers are a great way to start. they dress flirty, are in total control, and let you pretend you have a sore back. go get a massage and take it from there.

hey, don't show up drunk, ok? the sex won't be as good for you or for her, and you'll still have the problem of being nervous while you're sober.