A question for both the ladies and the gents.....

I have found that when I meet someone new, an impression is usually formed in the first minute or two, that tends to influence the way the session goes, and may influence my feeling about seeing the lady regularly.

Do you find this to be the case?

What creates a positive first impression for you at the first sight, during the first few words, first touch, first moments?

My own contribution:

Positives:

direct eye contact and a bright smile

an inviting kiss, but not tonsil hockey (yet!)

a light hug or a hand on my arm or shoulder

leaning in close to greet me in a low voice
*and especially, at least this once, using my
name!!!!*

taking me by the hand to lead me into the room

moving to undress me, help me undress and allowing me to reciprocate

staying physically close to me as we get naked

Negatives:

turning her back on me immediately after the first introduction and expecting me to follow her into the room

passively waiting for me to undress myself or her, or just saying, why not get comfortable or something to that effect

quickly removing her clothes and waiting for me to follow suit....

Positives

Big smile like she is so glad to see me!

Acting a little shy and nervous as that is how I feel at first as well.

Take me by the hand and lead me to the bed still smiling.

Keep holding my hand while we get to know a little about each other.

Hugging me but not just a quick hug, more like it's been a long time hug that holds on for a minute or two and tell me how glad she is that I wanted to meet her.

Making a lot of eye contact and keeping that smile going.

Gently start kissing small at first and then a little deeper and more passionate as time goes by.

Asking if she can help me take my clothes off.

Negatives:

Opening the door and then her going to a chair to first talk.

Not much eye contact and no smile.

Start taking her clothes off with her back turned and expecting me to follow suite.

Feeling rushed from start to finish.

First there was the smile, hug and kiss - then the "let me make you comfortable."  She said my name on at least two separate occasions during our time together... that was just a very nice thing indeed.... as she preceeded a sentence where she would not really have to use my name.... Sweetie or hun would have worked equally well...

But other things - she is clean... and appreciates your desire to be clean as well...  

But to me, most of all, even if she was having the worst time of her life... she acts as if you are the king....  and have just made her day and would see you even without the envelop (even though ya know that is a lie.

All of that makes me think that she is worth seeing again.

All of the physical aspects that you mentioned are important and noticed but for me a sense of humor and ease of conversation s key in the first few minutes to making me feel comfortable.

before we meet. If I get an email back from a lady, and it's not just a one-liner, that's a very good start. If she makes me feel as though she is genuinely interested in me, it will go a long way. When we do meet, I like the extended hand, followed by a nice gentle kiss. After the initial conversation, I don't like to rush. I love to assist with the disrobing, and have her help me as well.

What I love most is a lady who will let me know what SHE likes, what feels good to her, and if she can do this without being a traffic cop.

Hey I'm with you there.

I love it when the lady wants to have pleasure from our time together and guides me or even tells me how to make it happen for her.

But tone is everything

When it becomes mechanical, impersonal, or demanding, it's a turn off...

I suppose the ladies would say the same

While first impressions are important in hobbying and in life (and we all have different opinions on what criteria we are seeking), I do not think a session is made or lost on what transpires during the first two minutes. You really need to reflect on your entire time with the lady to see if you want to see her again.

I have had wonderful sessions where the first 5 minutes were very business like mundane and quite mechanical (some would say boring). Some ladies are nervous at the start, trying to make sure you are legit. Other ladies are just quiet by nature but when they feel comfortable with a hobbyist, they let loose. If I made an impression of these ladies during this initial 5 minute period, I would certainly never come back.

Conversely, I have had appointments where by the lady was very sweet and passionate from the second I walked in, but for a myriad of reasons (sex was not great, lack of physical attraction, only one pop when a second one was anticipated, took a phone call in the middle, rushed our time along, etc.) the session certainly did not maintain this high level.

First impressions may be important and put you in a nice frame of mind, but they certainly should not dictate how the session will or will not go.

recently I've not really felt like writing reviews... so I've lapsed - but this one is a muse to my soul.... I'd been with her before, years ago - but did not see her again until today - kicking myself for that!

At first, I thought that I was in disagreement with your premise, but then remembered an appointment that I'd had a few years back.  Through a series of mistakes and mis-communications, it appeared that this appointment would not be great.  As we got to the room, I learned of a problem that she'd been dealing with, and I was certain that I'd regret our time together.

About 3 hours later, as she was trying to figure out if she could re-schedule the rest of her day to have more time together, I was reassessing all of my doubts.

One big negative for me is if the lady's incall spot looks like a bomb hit it.

I've never had a good session when her place looks like hell. I think it is a good reflection of her mental state.

If she gives me a genuine, spontaneous smile at the first greeting, I know it will be a good session.

If the smile looks forced, the rest of the session will most likely be a burden for either or both of us.

How funny most of your negatives I do. I will turn my back  after greeting them with light hug and kiss. I do want them to follow me. I definitely  want to set the tone In that I want them to relax and now. Because if there nervous then I get nervous. Lol  So to get them settled in so to speak and relax is my goal. For me I do my best  not to look for any thing  in there personality until we are both comfy because I don’t think I’ll get any thing Accurate reading until then.  Great topic I will be rethinking what I do (how) I do it in the future. Thanks. Cheers livie.

- Smiling when I walk in is so important, especially if we've never met before! It immediately makes me feel welcome, and starts everything off positively.

- A hug is great, and a light kiss is nice too. Agreed -- save the tonsil hockey for later!

- Either handing me the donation right away or having it in a very visible location is important. I dread having to ask for it (that feels so rude).

- After I've entered, I like when he sits somewhere I can be close to him (i.e., on the sofa or bed, NOT the desk chair). It's hard to be affectionate with someone far away.

- Offering me something to drink (even something as simple as bottled water) is a wonderful gesture. Since I'm outcall only, I never have the comforts of home around me, so it's very nice when someone is a considerate host and asks if I need anything.

just because a couple of us express an opinion that runs counter to your routine - if it works for you - if you find it to be in your interests - don't feel like you have to change.

Of course, direct eye contact, a smile, a hand are all important, but it is hard to analyze.  When I meet someone and have the feeling that --sensual and physically appealing as she is-- I would enjoy spending time with her even if sex were not involved is always a clue that our time together will be something wonderful for me (and I hope she will find it pleasant or better as well.)

Well it's not that...But why would I wan to make a bad impression? I don't I like men and I do want them to cum back. lol

Well what if you are not getting it would you rather I say get off me I'll do it my self..lol Just kidding but when does it become demanding??

First: I always look someone in the eyes, greet them and sometimes I say "Hon" instead of their name. I picked up that habit while living in the south. It's endearing.

Second: Depending upon the gentleman and his response to my kiss, I could kiss him at the door for a long time or -- if it's someone I've already seen -- be more assertive and place him up against the door and devour him.

Third: I always take his hand and lead him into the kitchen first and offer him a beverage. Sometimes I'll even sit on the countertop and kiss and groap for awhile.

Fourth: I also lead him into the bedroom and proceed to take off his cloths. I politely hang them up so they won't get wrinkled, but if he says, "Just throw them down," then I ablige.

I'll leave the rest to your imagination!

You asked what are my first impressions:

1)  If the gentleman smells clean and has fresh breath.
2)  If the gentleman sticks his tongue half-way down my throat. Now, I'm a very passionate kisser, but I don't like a lizard tongue or a really sloppy kisser.
3)  I am greatly surprised to see a gentleman with a bottle of wine or a small gift. But heavens! Please don't think I expect it.
4)  I love it when a man (especially someone whom I'm meeting for the first time) spends a few minutes talking to me while I pour his drink.


Hugs,
Ciara

-- Modified on 12/2/2008 8:03:23 AM

Ciara darlin' you continue to make a good impression where I'm concerned ' eom

-- Modified on 12/2/2008 10:36:16 AM

mmmm I'd really like / enjoy it if you would.....


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not that way stooopid......

My Positives:

I meet you at the door with a smile and direct eye contact and an inviting kiss.

then I take your hand and/or arm to lead you through my neat and clean outcall location

I offer you time to use the clean bathroom before we get to my room.

depending on how fast you are moving...I ask for help to undress me (but once my tits pop out gentlemen usually move faster if they were slower- I should rethink this move)

I love to stay close enough to smell you...being clean with clean breath is a major plus!

I always enjoy the gifts of wine, fruit & cheeses and visa gift cards