To be clear, any time I contacted my provider, in the past,  it was to set up a date. Nothing more. Except recently, I sent her a suggestion to on how to cope with the new situation we're all in because of the laws.  Instead of emailing me back, in any sort of professional manner - "Thank you, but I'm covered" or "No Thanks". She put up a post on her social media roasting me for sending her a message unrelated to a date. Am I missing something? Was I being a jerk?

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Her response is surprising.  All of my regulars, and those who I don't see or communicate with as frequently, have been more than willing to discuss the current pile of BS we are all mired in, and strategies and potential solutions in coping.    Then again, I've known my lady friends for years, so we are way beyond the point where our communications are just about setting up dates.  That being said, it is obvious that the lady you are referring to was offended, and it's probably time for you to move on.    Regardless of whether it was justified or not.          

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THCCC is The Hooker Condecension Cuk Club.

We discussed setting up more dates on last visit. Anyways, I think I get the picture. Thank you for your responses.

Yes, I had been.

Had she ever contacted you about something other than setting up a date?

...and a whiner. Get a grip. Unless you know someone really, really well, giving unsolicited advice is usually met with resistance.  Would you presume to give advice to your doctor or accountant?  

how you would have reacted if she gave you unsolicited advice on how to do YOUR job.  Unless you have credentials from your own experience that make you an expert in HER line of work, its best to STFU.   Its a rookie mistake, is condescending, and comes off as you thinking she is less than intelligent and incapable of running her own business.  Who would not be offended?  As Fisher says, "live and learn."

I mean, none of us were there for the exchange.  I could see how it could potentially be annoying as fuck having some spectator telling you how you should run your business.  Unsolicited advice aggravates people.  I also assume that if a girl puts herself out there as available for a good time, she has to sort through many many messages, a lot of them bullshit.  You adding to her workload without contributing to the bottom line might have made her sour.  Which I also get.  

The first one of course is "what was your ADVICE to her?"  

of woman you want to take your time with after smashing the clock on the nightstand into little pieces.  Lol

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By and large I agree with Zorrf. However, the provider is out of line. It is precisely because she is pro she should have maintained her decorum. I am no provider but I am in a service type industry and at times clients really do try my patience. But as a pro I know I have to remain kool, calm and collected. Beyond that we ARE ALL in this together. For one, any long time hobbyist will know quite a bit about the business as likely he will have accumulated many experiences over the years. Granted, not necessarily on par with a provider but still plenty. While one might not tell a doctor or lawyer how to do their job one might question this or that prognosis, advice or line a treatment. Not in a heavy handed way but just cautiously after having done your homework and perhaps seeking out a second opinion.  

Probably thought he was on a friendly basis with her. Of course how many times and over what length of time he saw her weighs in. Also, what " advice "  was offered. If it felt in any way like he were trying to tell her how to run her business or her life, then that's obviously not gonna fly. Too little info provided to say who misstepped. Some ladies have genuine affinity for their clients, some are just punching a clock. Regardless....I think it's safe to say she has no warm feelings towards you now.

...it's just takes a special woman to make me want to. 😎

I would never ask someone to adjust their rates.

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I don't know what the OP said to this provider. But if any provider had sent me an email with helpful tips on coping in this New World, I'd be very appreciative, whether or not I already knew all about what the provider told me.

To her, ur a jerk time waster, she didn’t ask for help did she? You have said what suggestions you offered. You haven’t said what she posted or if it was directed at you by name.

Sadly this is true. Some girls are just straight out nasty on twitter. They full out hate reviews. Yes, bad clients can weaponize reviews and use it against girls but that is a minority. It happens in all forms of reviews system. But that is not an excuse or something i am say to devalue the damage that it does

Yet we seem to get it all the time.  I have gotten unsolicited advice about everything from diet to advertising and most of it has a tone of condescension.  Sometimes we just get to the point where we will yell at the next person who tries to do it, though I have learned over the years that accepting/asking for a man's advice strokes his ego.  I guess guys just like feeling like they can be useful.

Yes, but it’s not limited to guys. Though they do go out of there way sometimes.