I always have a few female condoms in my goodie bag, available upon request. But if you wanted to ask, I’d be okay with that once all screening and booking had taken place, and while any other requests were being discussed. Like “hey do you have black fishnets you could wear and can you bring female condoms”?
Of course speaking for myself only. The suggestion to bring your own is probably the best but unfortunately you can’t get them just anywhere like a traditional condom.
I very much prefer female condoms to standard ones to the point where it's highly unlikely I'll be able to be successfully intimate unless a female condom is used, and they are a search option on here, but that doesn't guarantee a provider would have them available during any given date.
Opinions may vary since I'm sure some percentage of providers wouldn't mind a request and some would consider requesting female condoms the same as requesting any acronym and proceed to ignore a date request, but is there a generally preferred way if any to request female condoms or ask the provider if she uses them? Would it be best to wait until after screening and the date being confirmed to ask? Would it be best to ask if she uses them in her personal life rather than requesting them for the date and hope she gets the hint? My main concern is not wanting to be blacklisted for requesting something explicit, though I could see how that could happen from a request for female condoms since that's implying/indirectly requesting sex.
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I have some that I bring. I feel I am also responsible for being safe along with the lady.
I've seen many providers say they won't use condoms a client brings due to fear of them being tampered with from things like holes poked through the packaging that are hard to see, and bringing them doesn't guarantee that the lady uses them. I've seen some providers say they hate using them.
If ever bringing condoms to an encounter they should be in an unopened box for that specific reason, but yes the provider may still refuse to use them.
I won’t lie, the sensation is not as good for me using a FC as it is with a good quality male condom. But it’s still enjoyable and the session is supposed to be about what is best for you, so I am happy to use them.
I use a particular brand of condoms I like. I’ve never had an issue with a lady refusing them. Apparently, I see women who don’t have the same “ standards “ that you do.
Are these repeat visits or first time encounters? Makes a difference. Many providers are not cool with loose condoms on a first time visit with a new client. People are both careless and creepers. That condom could have been in the glovebox of his car for a month sitting outside in 100+ degree weather and is weakened, or as alluded to previously, some sickos actually would poke holes through the wrappers. Just like some jerks might try to slip off a condom when you aren't looking. You probably don't think about these things, most decent clients wouldn't. But those dudes are out there.
I carry female condoms, large, regular and small sizes, latex and non-latex condoms. That usually covers all the bases and I've never run into a situation where it was an issue.
You note: "Just like some jerks might try to slip off a condom when you aren't looking."
That's called stealthing, I'm told.
I am personally not a bit fan of them either. I have an inverted uterus so my cervix sits a bit different (per my gynecologist!) so the interior ring on a female condom does not sit the best inside of me. They are a bit pricy and not something I normally have on hand, but I would be OK if a gent brought them to use. I did awhile ago buy a box of 12 as I wanted to try them out with a few of my regulars. The consensus was either they could not tell the difference or they actually liked the regular condom better so because of that I just did not buy any more.
That interior ring is easliy removed (at least on FC2 brand) and they work fine without it. Do put some lube inside the condom, since that's where you want the slipping to happen.
I see. So essentially you just want to know if they will even use them.
I agree. The client should not rely on the provider to always provide protection.
However, if in the proposed case, the provider is not familiar with their use or has a reason to oppose them, then bringing them without any forewarning may be pointless.
The client should not rely on the provider to always provide protection.
If you are seeing even a semi reputable provider she is always going to have condoms and lube. Always. I have yet to hear of a situation where the guy showed up to the room and the gal said she didn't have any covers that he did not then experience a smash and grab with the envelope. If you show up and she says she does not have condoms 99% chance you are going to leave that room much lighter in the cash department and with blue balls.
I have taken FC2 to several encounters and introduced a few ladies to them, with generally pleasant results. Most of these ladies had heard of them, but had not tried them yet. I do prefer them for feel and function.
I always have female condoms & encourage trying them it’s different. If the provider is a professional she should always have creative & fun options.
Especially if it’s your first encounter. 🚩 if vetting is taken care of & the deposit is sent ask away. I would not ask at the initial contact. It can be a catch 22. If you pick a pro you shouldn’t have to ask because she should be well prepared. I always bring a goody bag with lots of fun options.
I always have a few female condoms in my goodie bag, available upon request. But if you wanted to ask, I’d be okay with that once all screening and booking had taken place, and while any other requests were being discussed. Like “hey do you have black fishnets you could wear and can you bring female condoms”?
Of course speaking for myself only. The suggestion to bring your own is probably the best but unfortunately you can’t get them just anywhere like a traditional condom.
It sounds like he wouldn’t want the session if you’re not okay with female condoms. If that’s the case, would you still prefer going through all of the screening first? Or, is there a polite way he can say it in his intro, perhaps without you having to answer the question? I understand certain details you wouldn’t want to get into until after screening. Just wondering if something that may be a deal breaker could save you both time.
I was assuming he had found a provider that had the use female condoms box checked on her TER profile. If he didn’t know then this changes things. Personally I would rather know upfront before wasting anyone’s time screening or booking if that was something I didn’t do. Maybe just a line saying that he is seeking an FC-friendly provider for a session on such and such date etc… Throw it in there casually and give her a chance to say yay or nay? I’m sure there’s going to be some ladies who won’t like that but there’s always going to be someone who doesn’t like an approach, and better than taking a chance and spending the money on a date that doesn’t work out.
That’s what confused me. Why go through the screening if the whole issue is if she will even use them.
now that is kinda stupid to bring up because no matter if a man or a woman wears a condom..........the condom can break and shit can happen.
I highly prefer internal condoms so I'll always have them with me. It's hard to say what's the best way to pose the question to different companions. Being asked directly about condoms can still come as a shock even after screening.
When reaching out to different providers, you just have to determine if it makes sense to ask before the session. Also I agree with others who've commented that if you bring your own, bring an unopened box.
I also love them and always have some. My TER profile says “female condoms - yes” and several of my reviews mention them.
OP, if you see this, be aware that in the US, female condoms retail for $180 for a box of 12. I would suggest you be prepared to tip for a provider that uses them with you.
"... that if you bring your own, bring an unopened box."
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Cool once. Then there are 23 good condoms remaining in the opened box.
What could I do with these? Seriously.
I suppose I would see providers who do not require the box for my next 23 sessions.
Hmm.
Interesting point. Based on my experience, they do come in smaller boxes with way less than 24. Luckily, I live in NYC where they are easily accessible and I can acquire them for free.
Hello JTN, 💐
Please make this simplistic...
Communicate your desires.
This is where "YMMV" lands perfectly:
For those in the back;
"YMMV" means "Your Mileage May Vary",
Aka
"Your Experience May Be Varied"
If you have specific needs, without being
vulgur, request it or just bring your own
desired accoutrements:
"The Kit":
"Keep said "Kit" in your locker at the Gym,
your Office, or your car trunk only if you're
"Single":
• Assortment of Condoms/Dental Dam
• Lube
• Cock Ring/Vibrator/Feathers... "Whatever"
• Mouthwash
• Toothbrush/Paste
• Gum/Mints
• Wipes
• Deodorant
• Comb
• Sanitizer
• Boxer Briefs
• Water with Electrolytes 😅
© "I may be magical, however I sometimes
can't entirely read ones' mind"
AJ 💋
I come prepared with both. I try to come prepared for any scenario.
I love when someone simply asks politely.
Your wish is my command
Kind Regards Lovely lorena
It's great that many providers have them on hand, but the OP's question is if there is a safe and secure way to ask a new provider if she can have them on hand prior to a first appointment.
I would like to know the answer myself as it is arguably the greatest invention for sex ever (imo).
Depending on the situation, the provider may block the guy or ghost if he asks because it no different than asking "do you do uncovered blow jobs? If not, how much extra would I have to pay?" lol
To answer the OP’s question 🙋🏽♀️ No.
Every provider operates their business differently.
YMMV = your mileage may vary
Not everyone has the same perks sometimes it depends on vibes.