No one can assure you you'll never get an STD, but if you stick with well-reviewed girls the chances are very slim.  It's also very rare for a rubber to break if used properly.  One thing to do is buy your own and bring them.
That said, I have no doubt most girls would absolutely love to get paid for full service and only have to strip and talk dirty while you jerk off.  Since gals don't want to talk about the service before screening you, the best thing to do is post on your local board or the ISO board here about what you want.  I'm sure several girls will reply enthusiastically.
Also, since the service you seek is not illegal, you might even try asking about it before seeing her and after the screening is done.  Girls won't discuss their menu beforehand since you might be LE.  But in your case the service you want breaks no laws.
Good luck.  And, who knows, after you try it a few times you may feel comfortable enough for full service.

I know many men who justify oral as not cheating, so if that makes you feel better by all means do it. I am not saying it's accurate, but hey...whatever works for you. I even discount oral only dates but I still require a min. of at least 90 min. with dinner after to justify the rate. I can't see charging a guy over 400 for just an hour of oral.

and based on your post, it should be easy for you to find a provider who will do what you requested. And NO I don't do the type of things you describe. I prefer a full service date, however, from time to time I will do just an oral session.

a few years ago I went thru a short period of having ED problems due to medication I was taking for a health issue. a provider that I had seen several times provided the type of service you are talking about.  our sessions included her stripping naked and masterbating with her favorite toy .  titty play and  DATY was  involved .  paid her the full rat

I have had a few clients just like you Frank that only wanted certain things. Bottom line for me is that I'm there for my client. Not to judge his likes, dislikes, fetishes, etc... But to provide an unforgettable experience in whatever capacity he I'd desiring. I would be willing to bet that most providers feel similar. To each his own....  
Xo

I Offer Plenty Of Other Sexy Options!

I just updated my website to reflect the kinky fun I enjoy, so many providers offer plenty of sexy options.

(Body Rubs, Fantasy, Fetish, or BDSM fun)

Some gents just enjoy the pleasure of a quality companion to converse over drinks, or a fine meal.

I worked at a deli once after a while I d fill in at bakery coffee bar at front of store. It was nice to get to snag organic bread and tofu salad to fill up back pack with some days. Then other day chug free rasberry soy cappacinos all day and the tofu vegan pizza and baked goods.  
Its great to have sex but its nice to get a rest or break and still make income. I can only with stand so many appt per week. Having whole body in same positions extended periods i dont care who you are it begins to hurt. Its nice to have pegging bj sessions , spa with easy quicky at end. I am only good for x amount pse dates a week. And when. Give in and cater to regulars whom do not pre book. I regret it get tired and end up canceling on some next day, because i just am not able to do many. I work out sometimes two hours a day too which also greatly lowers my ability to take too many.  
I was at a hotel for a week when ac broke in july. I HAD to skip excercize if I were to make my rent utilities and food phones while also livi g in hotels all month. One week i made three thous a top the over a grand extend stay cost and my food. There was no way I couldve swung it and excercize.  
Then it got hard i was exhausted and unable to do that another week. That wS a hard time . Its nice to have variety . Last week I did the appt in am. Then go to the bar. With friends from my neighborhood. I was getting more and more wound up.
A appt calls i say hey i did a rowdt session this am the guy was so amazing in bed. I was so rough with him.no way i could do this other guy. I tell him i can do a massage n bj. He brings up pegging. Perfect i got to make xtra where other wise if they werent flexible. I woulda haf to settle and pass on the extra monry. Which i hate.  
I have a limit to my pse dates per week. I still answer the phon but i know my breaking point and then may seek bj only . I actually am in need of more bj only dates every week cuz i alwaus turn away a dozen pse only potential customers. I force multiples. On them. I cant do appts like that day in day out. Now i havent had sex since last thurs.

hell, you can borrow my girlfriend for a couple hundred bucks and no contact. anytime you want. and shes exotic looking.

Hey Frank, I'm new and have also been looking for some middle ground. Spent some time with the review search looking for providers that would be fun to hang out with, do massage, and stop at cbj or less (figuring that would reduce the std risk), but haven't found many. And as others have said its all legal, so no risk there either. A connection and having a good time is the most important part for me. The reviews have been very interesting to read - a lot of great women here

Imagine that your hands are tied behind your back but you still need to open the door.. Getting You to new levels of excitement and heightened pleasure while taking away the fastest ways to achieve them.. The idea of being able to maintain passion and Hunger without these tools is very erotic indeed. I suspect that many of us get a rush from being able to satiate men.. Knowing we are just as capable with fewer tricks is a very powerful feeling

 
~Happy Hunting

Thank you

Thank you to everyone that responded.  I really appreciate everyone making me feel as though what I want exists and is normal.  I will definitely post in my regional forums and set up a date soon.

Just my opinion.

Frank,

Its your money! If you would like one of us to roll around in bed filled with $1 bills, request it!  

As a provider, all I want is my money and knowing that you left our meeting a VERY happy man.  

If you want me to dress to kill, meet you for dinner or talk your ear off about cars, guns or sports, I'm game.  

As long as no one gets hurt, I doubt very few providers would feel offended by your appointment request.

Best,

Alexandria  

An escort is selling a segment of time.  Not sex.  You seem to be confusing ESCORT with PROSTITUTE.      

We are companions.   We are fine with doing whatever you like in the time segment you purchase.  (barring anything illegal of course)  

Pretty sure every lady in the biz has gone out to dinner or something for our fees and had no private time at all.. or had an evening of conversation.    Fairly common.  

Hope that answers your question

As our disclaimers tend to say, we are here for time and companionship.
However you see fit, and we agree to, is how things shall go.
That also means, there could be time for roleplay, other fetishes, it isn't always about intercourse.