wow .. ok first this isn't me nor am i "asking for a friend" but recently through a sugar daddy site i connected with a nice 30 ish young lady, very nice, office manager, became obvious she is not a player ... i met her once  CFS  ... so i say ok for next time BBFS but just to be 100% i will pay to get you tested .. since one of the usual benefits of SB is their willingness to go BBFS    (let's not go down that rabbit hole right now) ...  

so she gets  tested and is HSV-2 positive  (gen herpes)  she wigs out .. it was obvious she didn't know, thinks only caught last year and from a local BF  (and also chlamydia )   ... point is ...  she is now near suicidal ..her texts and one phone call were very serious ... i have tried to talk her off that cliff but only so much since i have no real connection.  

i have learned sadly that's not a unique response to herpes 2 ,  i had no idea .... she told me two of her friends actually did commit, (she told me that crying on the phone so i believe her)   ...  wow ...  of course that probably influenced her thinking its a proper response.     i sent her a link for online support groups .. just hope she works it out and its just shock for now...   wild.  

Notwithstanding the positive results, you're probably about to played. None of this is your problem to solve.

Dude, do not f around with this information and hope it works out. You need to call 911 and inform them that she has shared this with you.

HSV2 is NOT a death sentence. It's treatable with valacyclovir and acyclovir. Millions of people deal with it without undue disruption to their lives. Please calm her down.

Did she retest? Just a quick search shows this test has a high percentage of false positives.

Woof. That's heavy for a Friday. First, I’m really glad you recognized she was in serious distress and made an effort to point her toward support resources. That kind of shock is unfortunately common after an HSV-2 diagnosis, and it’s heartbreaking how often stigma compounds the trauma. I truly hope she finds grounding, healing, and community because this isn’t the end of her life, her sexuality, or her worth.

 
That said, I think it’s also worth gently reflecting on how we, as clients and companions, talk about safety, risk, and intimacy. HSV-2 is manageable. There are daily antivirals that drastically reduce transmission risk, even more so when those who are carriers are honest and those who aren't carriers educate themselves. One of the benefits of being in this industry is learning to navigate STIs without shame and the ability to make an informed decision without being rude about it.  

 
I'm not fixin' to shame anyone about BBFS requests. All I will say is that I think the idea of going "barrier-free" is somehow a default benefit of a sugar relationship highlights something deeper. That so many women, especially in sugaring or grey-area dynamics, are asked to negotiate the terms of risk under the illusion of care. When really, they’re negotiating against their own body for someone else’s pleasure.

 
Anywho, I hope she continues to find support. And while I'm sure you aren't going to continue seeing her, if I were you, I would reassure her that with medication, her life is not over.

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Your right. Not his problem.

the ONE person here who said, "Call the police."   They're a drama queen.  I would start with the advice given by Nicky and Rafi on this thread.  1)  Tell her to get retested, because HSV-2 DOES have false positive results more than with other diseases.  It happened to me once years ago, and 2) She should go to a clinic and find out about the meds that Nicky suggested.  He is correct on the info that these are often used for suppression and limiting the risk of transmission.  

 
After that, tell her you wish her the best of luck in getting this all under control and make a clean exit.  For you, there are benefits and risks that come with choosing either escorts or sugar-babies.  Most Sugar-babies expect that they're in a long-term relationship with you. This is not going to end drama-free, even without her diagnosis, whereas providers will usually accept the fact that in their business, each time they see you might be the last, so don't get too attached, and if it does come to that, their exit will be more graceful because they are professionals, not amateurs.  

Of course you had to take a snip at me because you can’t get ms off your mind. The obsession is unreal.

 
Back in 2007, I was on a FB group and a young girl said she wanted to kill herself. I exchanged a fee messages with her and then friend requested. This allowed me to see details on her profile. I contacted the local police.

 
There were numerous follow ups because the police that take the initial report aren’t the same ones who ultimately manage the case. By the end, they shared that I helped save her life.

 
Months later she messaged me and thanked me. She shared they found her in the school bathroom after eating a jar of pills and had to pump her stomach.

 
But sure be a bitch on your high horse and call me a drama queen. You’re a heartless bastard.

Herpes tests are highly unreliable and false positives are incredibly common. In fact, Herpes tests are not included in the standard "full panel" STD test and you usually have to ask for it. Doctors do not recommend getting tested unless you show symptoms. Mostly because false positives are very common and cause a lot of mental distress. She should just get retested and talk to her DR.

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That's probably the last number you want to call in this type of situation. She isn't a threat to others. Call 988, not the police. Too many horror stories about police showing up because someone called 911 for help in some emotional situation and things go from bad to much worse.

911 has worked for me, but sure 988 is good too. The fact is most suicide threats are just threats. But, most people cannot distinguish a threat from a serious plan. Unless you’re trained, you take it seriously and let someone trained handle it.