I see a provider here occasionally who likes me to  play burglar early in the morning.  Hope she never buys a gun and forgets what we have set up.

And I guess I don't get the turn on factor having someone do things to me and me not being able to stop them. I guess the level of trust has to be extremely high to be able to do that.

while i will agree with you that the vast majority of women who claim to have "rape" fantasies in actuality simply have a ravishment/domination fantasy. they want some dark sexy stranger to take them unawares and do all the things to them that they desire anyway, without the guilt of open consent. and yes, that is a far cry from actual rape.

however there are a few women who do fantasize about actual rape. real, ugly, emotionally and psychologically scarring rape. i am one of those women. and, i have been raped in my past. there was nothing fun of exciting about it. it left me on the brink of suicide. and when i fantasize about rape, i do not imagine myself being aroused or feeling good...i imagine the overwhelming fear and loss of self and horror that i know firsthand. i reflect on those feelings of utter humiliation and helplessness that i know all too well. and no, it is not something i would ever wish to "roleplay." my fantasies are about real rape, and no one wants to be raped. some may call my fantasies self-hating, however they are actually more part of a martyr complex...in my weird brain, my suffering spares the suffering of someone else. and that gives me a sense of peace and purpose. that is what drives the fantasies.

we human beings are very complex creatures...you'd be amazed at all the nooks and crannies deep inside our minds.