I find that many of us face the "how to rate" conundrum. For some, it may be easy. For me, being honest, it's only easy when the provider is near perfect. But more often than not, there may be some flaws. What makes it hard is these are people, not some product you can find on Amazon or eBay. They have real emotions and can be impacted by what we write.
I find myself not wanting to be overly critical, especially if she is nice and delivers in the service department. I cannot so easily be as tough with a provider's review as I can with my thoughts on a TV or restaurant. The less I emotionally connect with a lady, the easier it is. But if we connect emotionally, I'm now more concerned with how I might make her feel.
I once met a lovely young lady who had returned to providing after a 6 month hiatus. Her reviews were top notch. But one reviewer slammed her. In the services department, she was amazing. But in the looks department, she's what I would consider a niche that isn't for everyone. I can see how some would think she's beautiful. Yet, others would be very disappointed. And, once a client gives off that energy, I'm not certain her services can save her every time. Anyway, this review really hurt her and she became depressed over it and this is why she took time away. It was a reminder that our reviews can have this impact on providers.
I know some may say this career isn't for everybody and if she cannot take it then maybe it's not for her. I can't disagree more. I say this because one of the most disappointing things we encounter is providers that feel mechanical. When they lack emotion it's hard to enjoy the session. But when they feel real and emotionally connect with us, the sky is the limit. And when I meet one like this, I might inflate her a little bit.
I do my best to be honest. I don't just give out high marks. But I also don't follow TER's definitions. I openly participate in the rate inflation that exists in TER. And, I do so more with ladies that show they deserve it. And, while this might not be the popular feeling amongst everyone, I do this unapologetically.
That said, let the berating begin!