Hello everyone! In light of recent events both locally and nationally, I feel the need to revamp my screening process and come up with a better/alternative system. I currently ask for full name, age, and three references. I check ID upon meeting (but by then it could be too late!). I love references because it makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside if another provider can vouch for you. However, as of late, I feel like I should have options.
I am wondering what other providers rely on to feel safe when seeing a new client (besides instincts )?  
Also, I am considering using the app Snapchat for ID verification prior to meeting if a client can not provide three references. Clients, would you consider sending a photo of yourself with your ID that would self-destruct in a few seconds? Ladies, would you consider this a valid screening option?
Thank you guys so much for your time and I am eager to get some input! xoxo
Alex

-- Modified on 7/29/2013 10:23:28 AM

YOU ! Can't we just meet for a drink and take it from there ? Worked for me for years.

Posted By: AlexandraHill

Hello everyone! In light of recent events both locally and nationally, I feel the need to revamp my screening process and come up with a better/alternative system. I currently ask for full name, age, and three references. I check ID upon meeting (but by then it could be too late!). I love references because it makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside if another provider can vouch for you. However, as of late, I feel like I should have options.  
 I am wondering what other providers rely on to feel safe when seeing a new client (besides instincts )?  
 Also, I am considering using the app Snapchat for ID verification prior to meeting if a client can not provide three references. Clients, would you consider sending a photo of yourself with your ID that would self-destruct in a few seconds? Ladies, would you consider this a valid screening option?  
 Thank you guys so much for your time and I am eager to get some input! xoxo  
 Alex

It is important for me to be safe! I know that everyone does not have 3 references. Some just have one. But if I can call them at their work and see a picture of them it helps. Also I meet them at the bar and have a conversation with them. I do not generally meet them at my room. You can ask them for their ID at the bar confidentially.  If you meet them at your room they can just open your door and that isn't very safe or smart. So, meet them at the bar and use your instincts!

We can get creative, you know !!!

You are beautiful... but that's jumping too many hoops for me!

Asking for a boatload of info can be a non-starter. You might as well include:
'Note from the wife saying you're okay'.  

That said, you need to do WHATEVER you need to do to to feel safe, and if that makes me uncomfortable, then that's my problem.  I totally feel for you ladies and the one thing I hate most about this hobby is the hassle surrounding a first date.  I've actually had to pass on a few that wanted more information than I felt comfortable giving, and I'm still kinda disappointed that we never met, but not so much that I'm going to put myself outside of my comfort zone.

Place she would like to meet at . Or I may suggest one. Its nice to break the ice , drink can be water ,( alcohol isn't a must ) a lunch is nice too. I mean all the mission impossible shit us not gonna work for me. I just don't want to deal with that. I"be NEVER had a problem . So I will not change , and the ladies are very happy too. xoxo

Devin u said it was to rub to .

Then u would want to play with her mission impossible self destruct machine . And have her call u Mr. Phelps

I'm working on getting you a hot gf.

Curly , nick , CPA , dawg , medic , cashorcredit ! I mean if I'm bib , and I post and the girl then knows its me ? Fucking duh I pick the fun girls ! And my whitelist n other shit kinda helps too.

you know we'd all vouch for you, we're tight like  stocking caps? and waves lol

Protects you in more ways than one. There were few providers where I live did this. They are retired and no one has picked up on this idea.

is a must. good switchblade and make sure your comfortable with it, a skill saw in event you use said jack knife liquid cement as well as several large duffel bags. just in case.
study ai-jutsu and the offensive art of ju-jitsu,this way in event a hand or fist come at you you can turn around and paralyze them permanently with out breakin a sweat ,      
keep a black belt Italian guy with tattooes  who just came out a jail who s biceps are each 40 inch in the closet for event you need to crack skulls.,  
hmm. oh bleach in a spray bottle good easy self defense trick, even a bottle hair spray.  
you can check them on intelus which I did to every client as well as the provider references.  
try googling the place of employement addy make sure it s a legit business not some landline with their dumb ass on the machines.
take their dna and finger prints and a stoole sample.  
take the fire arm course with a retired cop at good times pool hall and get your class b license say your a hairdresser and carry cash in large amoutns a lot and need license to carry, join the n.r.a.  
buy a pit bull. don't allow passer byers to pet him and don't train him to be a pussy so he  l protect you, .  
hmmm.
there s always pepper spray howeve r I am unsure ifin event I d recommend that, I think a good old fashioned switch blade is best. just attach it to the garter belt for duration session and tell him not to be such a pussy about it and to toughen the fuck up.

This may be a bit unorthodox.. But I had a gentleman that was coming into town and wanted to meet me.
Felt I was a little new and wanted to gage my personality. We made a greet time (lol) and used face time video  
to just have a conversation. He was in Miami and I sat in my living room in LA drinking
coffee. It was my first experiment and I loved it! Did it again 2 days ago..  
think I will continue for those who are technically savvy.  

Angel will you do one of my biggest fantasies?

You can have my P411 and Date-Check profiles.
You can check my white lists.
You can have my board handle.
You can have three provider references, including their TER ID#s.
If all the above doesn't cut it, we will not be seeing each other.
You have every right to ask and I have every right to refuse and move on.

But that's also why I choose BP. They don't ask for my firstborn to date. That's leaves the security issue in my lap. I like that.

Are you starting an international agency?  A national agency? Some other type of felony associated organization?

Posted By: AlexandraHill

Hello everyone! In light of recent events both locally and nationally, I feel the need to revamp my screening process and come up with a better/alternative system. I currently ask for full name, age, and three references. I check ID upon meeting (but by then it could be too late!). I love references because it makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside if another provider can vouch for you. However, as of late, I feel like I should have options.  
 I am wondering what other providers rely on to feel safe when seeing a new client (besides instincts )?  
 Also, I am considering using the app Snapchat for ID verification prior to meeting if a client can not provide three references. Clients, would you consider sending a photo of yourself with your ID that would self-destruct in a few seconds? Ladies, would you consider this a valid screening option?  
 Thank you guys so much for your time and I am eager to get some input! xoxo  
 Alex

Out there . But having info us not good for you. If some guy gets jammed up and thinks you could hurt his career or whatever . That computer of yours is dangerous. There are many shows with real life stories of such. Talk to other girls and see what they do. Most I know gave a rolling pin in hand behind the door , I never got hit yet and don't plan to . Again you bring up what many want , so thanks.!! xoxo

Posted By: ChgoCPA

Are you starting an international agency?  A national agency? Some other type of felony associated organization?  
   
 I agree 110% with those that won't give up personal info.  And as nick said...feel free to ask and I'll feel free to move right along.  
   
 I'm sure you don't keep anyone's personal info...no one does    
   

Posted By: AlexandraHill

Hello everyone! In light of recent events both locally and nationally, I feel the need to revamp my screening process and come up with a better/alternative system. I currently ask for full name, age, and three references. I check ID upon meeting (but by then it could be too late!). I love references because it makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside if another provider can vouch for you. However, as of late, I feel like I should have options.  
  I am wondering what other providers rely on to feel safe when seeing a new client (besides instincts )?    
  Also, I am considering using the app Snapchat for ID verification prior to meeting if a client can not provide three references. Clients, would you consider sending a photo of yourself with your ID that would self-destruct in a few seconds? Ladies, would you consider this a valid screening option?  
  Thank you guys so much for your time and I am eager to get some input! xoxo  
  Alex

... now allowed to arrest girls who use the word "screen". It happened recently here in the Tampa area. The article said that using the word "screen" implied illegal activity. One thing to note here - the girls were found on BP and they waited to "screen" until they were actually alone in the room by asking said client to flash his private parts. That's the point that the girls were arrested. I don't use BP but the information still concerned me. I've updated my "screening" page to say "new friends" and I talk about needing to know who they are as opposed to using words like screen and verify. Even Eros has dropped "verify" from their online vocabulary.  

only to have her ask for references?

If this fella contacts you...well, good luck

agree..i joined p411 and TER so i would not have to constantly go through this reference stuff..i realize the need for safety and screening any newbies..i have not been asked for a reference for over 2 years now..if my TER handle and P411 OK'S are not enough..so be it..there will always be my regulars and the new providers who actually believe in a track record and are willing to trust their instincts..

All of that turned me on. What other dirty talk do you have up your sleeve?!

If I ask for real info, I have no problem giving mine. In fact it has worked very well for me. That way, we both know who we are and neither party is likely to mess up. Done this many, many times

My reviews and leave it at that. In fact I've had girls refuse to see me because I'm a reviewer. If they aren't satisfied with my history I pass.

Do you use Face Time?

Posted By: devindavette

Def my kind of man.  
 That's why I 'screen'.  
 

You've seen just on these boards that some have become stalkers trying to "help a gal".  Do you honestly think that exchanging real info would deter someone who's bent on hurting someone?

The box of Trojans in your bag ? Replace those with zip lock ? Sandwich size for white guys , freezer bags for colored ! And all those escort links on your site ? Just helping out the lookers ? R u serious ?

If I were a provider, just a clients potential review history. Would be just as uninformative as not asking any questions at all. Why bother?

I fully realize that anything we do is imperfect.  

Stops LE dead in their tracks every time.

You are only safer "physically" this way, not from LE. They can, and will, bust you for meeting in any public place. Your ad is all they need and the guy showing up...it's called "intent." If I am not already 100 percent sure about a guy, I am not meeting him period.  
 

I love it when my bank gal pals...or payroll service gal pals (these are the hottest...usually 25 y/o and gorgeous), or my legal gal pals want to take me out for lunch.

Dear Ms. Hill:
Think of yourself as an admission's director for a College and you weigh certain pieces of information differently when determining whether or not a certain applicant will get into your school. That is the same thing you should consider when determining if certain hobbyist will have the right to see you. For instances if they have a membership to a verification service they would get a higher grade than a person who doesn't have verification from one. Then you can look and see what providers they have seen and what type of online presence they would have. For instance if someone has seen London Rayne, or Arden Moon the reference would have stronger weight and merit than someone who doesn't. Also make it a practice to interview as many ladies who have had a history with a prospective client before making a decision. Also weight the interviews with comments from the providers and start to have your own scores. Perhaps you can have a top score of 25 and a minimum of 15. Those who score below your number definitely don't see. Those who may be a the borderline have a conference with the girls and those who meet and exceed your standards in points definitely send them an acceptance letter to your home.  Also it is wise to have a local companionship provider's consortium to where you can discuss certain issues that you might not be to sure about. The main thing is the more you know the more comfortable you are about seeing him just like the director of admissions is wondering will the student predict if he does get in. Words to live by my dear Alexandra.

agree

Actually you are safe from LE if you read my AD. That it is why it is put that way. If you do not discuss anything ~ AT ALL,  then you are safe.  I am only being paid for my time nothing more! I have consulted with LE and you can not be arrested for being paid for your time. Just like a SD/SB relationship is not illegal. Therefore you can not be busted for just a guy showing up. If I do not like the way a guy speaks to me or get a bad feeling anyways. I do not feel that "my time" is worth any amount!  
 

The other issue (I have been told) is that they are uncomfortable meeting in public with a beautiful woman in public that they are about to spend their time with.  
I always say... It's just a drink.

Exactly. Then everyone is comfortable. What is wrong with that? If you talk to the person (if everyone is comfortable with that) and set something up. What is the harm? It's lunch, water, drink and it is normal. You can still ask for the references. And still look on here or the other sites and ask the providers if they know the client. It isn't rocket science!

You are so right! That is all you need honey!!!!! You know me and I know you! So what do you think  of me?????

I have NO clue who you really talked to...but clearly it was someone who knows NOTHING about prostitution and the legalities.

If you have REVIEWS and ads on ESCORT sites...what you say or don't say in your ad makes no difference. If a cop shows up to meet you "just for coffee" from your ESCORT ad, you're getting arrested. That disclaimer so many of you have on a website, saves you from nada, which is why I don't even bother with it.  

Actually honey... nobody has LIED to me. They are very close. I do not know who  you are or anything else. The people I know are not the usual LE you deal with. In fact not LE. But people who defend and prosecute. So, excuse me for responding to your rude message but you should never type or say anything like that to a lady (or any lady) who has been doing this for a while (with no problems ~ ever!)

OK. Maybe we got off on wrong foot. Let me explain. The people that I know .. Yes they are real!
Are not only LE but also Attorneys.. and in good standing with the bar. Maybe you do not understand the law. I actually looked it up with them. I am sorry I do not trust ESCORT sites to tell me the law. I also have been a "Courtesan" , PSE, not an Escort for a long while. (Sorry for the Jab but you gave me plenty.) I was instructed to this site and a few others recently and thought I would make some new friends.  I didn't realize I would be picked on for something I already knew. I have never been arrested and I am a smart woman who knows what she is talking about. I do not care if you have been arrested. Hopefully not. All I was doing was giving my opinion on the subject of my experiences and who I know and how I got into it after doing all of my XXX movies (250.) Sorry for the advertisement!
I am a fun, lighthearted person, so I do not understand all the crankiness!

As well as full of shit.

There are many here that are attorneys as well.  The discussions can easily be found on the legal board.

Posted By: Zana12345

OK. Maybe we got off on wrong foot. Let me explain. The people that I know .. Yes they are real!  
 Are not only LE but also Attorneys.. and in good standing with the bar. Maybe you do not understand the law. I actually looked it up with them. I am sorry I do not trust ESCORT sites to tell me the law. I also have been a "Courtesan" , PSE, not an Escort for a long while. (Sorry for the Jab but you gave me plenty.) I was instructed to this site and a few others recently and thought I would make some new friends.  I didn't realize I would be picked on for something I already knew. I have never been arrested and I am a smart woman who knows what she is talking about. I do not care if you have been arrested. Hopefully not. All I was doing was giving my opinion on the subject of my experiences and who I know and how I got into it after doing all of my XXX movies (250.) Sorry for the advertisement!  
 I am a fun, lighthearted person, so I do not understand all the crankiness!

P411 and references are not good enough? Your way doesn't do much. Hey, go for it if you want... but I doubt anyone will be ok with what you ask. It doesn't even do anything but show you it is a person who could still be a LE. You DO know LE could video chat with you, right?

I will not exchange anymore jabs. Thank you for your opinion. I hope you have an enjoyable time on the boards. I always do. I also know I meet mostly nice people. Thanks for your opinion. Have a great week!

Posted By: ChgoCPA

There are many here that are attorneys as well.  The discussions can easily be found on the legal board.  
   
 For you to make the absurd and incorrect statements that you have as fact...just shows your naïveté....or stupidity.  
   
 Your choice.  But you are allowed to tell a judge that you are right...and he'll tell you that you are not!  
   
 Sure hope these geniuses you claim know better have enough to put up bond.  
   

Posted By: Zana12345

OK. Maybe we got off on wrong foot. Let me explain. The people that I know .. Yes they are real!  
  Are not only LE but also Attorneys.. and in good standing with the bar. Maybe you do not understand the law. I actually looked it up with them. I am sorry I do not trust ESCORT sites to tell me the law. I also have been a "Courtesan" , PSE, not an Escort for a long while. (Sorry for the Jab but you gave me plenty.) I was instructed to this site and a few others recently and thought I would make some new friends.  I didn't realize I would be picked on for something I already knew. I have never been arrested and I am a smart woman who knows what she is talking about. I do not care if you have been arrested. Hopefully not. All I was doing was giving my opinion on the subject of my experiences and who I know and how I got into it after doing all of my XXX movies (250.) Sorry for the advertisement!  
  I am a fun, lighthearted person, so I do not understand all the crankiness!

You think that was "mean?" Stick around lol. No, I was not mean, I was honest. The reason I am so honest is because you're giving out bs information that a newbie provider might consider golden, when it's not. In YOUR case, since you actually do screen prior to meeting in public, not such a big deal, but there are women out there who do NO screening and think meeting in public is all they need to do. That's the only point I was making, and yes....you can be arrested for just showing up. Do you not watch the news? Busts rarely include talking about sex for money, and then the exchange of money. Most every bust I have ever seen, the women/men were cuffed upon ARRIVAL.  

Thank you. She's "a smart woman and a courtesan" so I guess that keeps her out of jail lol. No reviews? Interesting. Being a porn star is legal, being a courtesan, is not...unless of course you never fk the men that PAY you lol.

Well, I do take your opinion (or advice) in consideration. I did not realize there were women who did not screen prior to meeting. To me that makes no sense. I have seen your posts before and I haven't seen you be mean.. well... maybe to mean! LOL

I wouldn't do the fantasy . I like wearin my garters n lace n bein made up n habve realized I must turn down same day appts as it leaves me in a predicament in which I am runnin amuck to drop whatever kooky activity I was previously engaging myself in . usually involves sunscreen a dog an umbrella a kiddie pool oceans n sand n my weights n yoga mat n snack for the day. or may involve rice paper skin and steamed vermicceli noodles and some intricate cooking project which involves a Vietnamese cook book and a lot of patience and time ,.  
   hmm that is a funny requiest n I realize your playin on my fun loving banter and you actually get my silliness and r also bein silly. n I appreciate you fun and goofiness and foun the response extremely entertaining n after all this is what I am here for, so I thank u,  
    I did one Halloween dress up as a female irish gangster, fully equipped with a plastic m-80 , pinstripe miniskirt n vest and a scali cap n a black n mild, it was awosme n a blast n I wore it at the club on stage ,m I was the queen of costunmes, even had super women costume I d do stand up comedy stage sets which envolved not sexy but funny costumes n makin myself a jester of sorts but me n the dancers be d laughn so fuckn hard we pissed, and the guys appreciated the not so serious entertainment, . women with senses of homour are still not widely accepted anywhere or in Hollywood and comedy is fairly male dominated still world, as is heavy metal and punk styles of music and hard rock, women whom can achieve to hold their ground w the boys in these fields rock, thanks for ypour funny response too, you rule, .. its nice to see funny posts instead of mean n nasty , black magic posts, . when u speak mean to some one or think mean of some one, that thought or energy behind it dispelles negative energy to the world n all whom read it n is in turn the definition of a true black magician of which their r many on these boards,

in your case I d def not be wary . and wasn't even nessecary to screen u at all after all the banter we d had on here n I seen all the people know u n all your experiences. you don't have to worry bout that. a guy w no reviews, I may be wary of cuz of time needed to intelus him n do a lot work on my free time , to re assure oneself .
  I usually skim over those n go for the aliases I have seen here a lot n hav established hobvy carreers n are less hassly n require little time to screen, inicki is an easy def apt, as he is well established w every one n allladies that been members for ten years that's totally re assuring n its nice to see guys n not feel worried they r the cheese or just inexperienced n will be annoyin n noit know what they r doin or etiqueete high end escorts demand,

Not to mention that most girls want to be paid for their time, whether it's at the bar or in the bedroom.  I prefer not to pay for time not spent in the bedroom, so I'd prefer she do her screening in other ways than at the bar.

In fact, the information London and CPA have given you is completely correct.  The information you have been given, whether it is from LE friends or lawyers, is completely wrong.  Many others here, all quite experienced, will tell you saying "payment if for my time only" on your site is no protection at all.  Nada.  If your "advisers" are telling you differently then you need new advisers.
Best of luck.
I hope they also have not recommended the infamous "LE check," another old wives tale.

Well... I do appreciate everyone's advice... As stated before. Never had a problem. I do screen before I meet anyone at a bar so I have NEVER had a problem. I do appreciate everyone's comments. Although the ones that were not so nice I did not like. That is ok though.