See very few, but one out of two encounters has been resulting in confused feelings on his part, and occasionally on both parts.

It's an extraordinarily intimate, precious, and special time together, esp when you connect on so many levels, and it feels like you've known one another for years!

But both parties have to take things in perspective and realize that even when it is steamy hot and there is a strong mutual connection, it's still just a 'first date'.  We still need time to get to know one another better....  another few dates, then in other settings -- with others, doing other activities, just like any new romance.

This has happened SO many times.  Sometimes it ends up to be a fab relationship and then ends amicably.  Or, we could have something, but time and patience are essential.

It's Risky Biz as you risk inadvertently hurting the other and/or yourself, but without a little (still always safe in this context! risk, there is no reward!  Always open to explore new relationships, but patience is a virtue.

There's nothing confusing.  It's sex for money.  If - especially on a first "date" - you think it's romance, then you're in the wrong business.

Most ladies in this business are professionals and prefer to remain that way.  Most hobbyists get into the hobby because they want no-strings or a fantasy that does not include waking up to the same person every morning.  

While I'm sure that love can blossom in this type of setting over time, it's never a good idea to encourage providers or hobbyists to persue relationships in this avenue as it is usually one-sided and causes difficultly.

Yeah, it happens, but just keep things in perspective.

Best,

Kate

It happens, though. As I wrap up a five year relationship with a brilliant girl I met on the job so to speak... had incredible ups and absurd downs, give us both credit, we surely tried our dead level best to make it work the best we knew how. It was the real deal, we had a major constructive influence on each other. She straightened me out about certain of my foibles, I coaxed her into dressing better, showed her how conservative could be a heck of a lot sexier than putting too much out there for the world to see, helped her with her life issues, saw and did many things together.... it was cool, really was... then we hit the deep issues stuff, everyone eventually will, the stuff you have to work through, you can't keep putting it off 'til tomorrow, core identity things you will face, one way or another. Finally had to say, we can't go on, this isn't functional at the level it has to be functional on for us to be 100% real.... plead with her to get professional help... I think the idea of confronting her deep personal issues was to frightening, or she just wasn't ready, or it would make her see her life in a way that she wasn't prepared for... don't know the answer... the ball's in her court and it's her choice what she wants to do with it...

Have the opportunity for a completely civie relationship with a civie, but opt for this hobby.  why?  Am divorced and do not wish to add drama to my life.  But even with providers there are connections that are impossible to not acknowledge - these are good, not bad, but with providers I realize that they have their lives and I have mine....

Then there are the strippers....  a different breed....  life is good.

Is there a god?  Why do I believe in Jesus?  Because as his first miracle he turned water into wine!  proving that life is too short to be too serious.

"Meetings" can be romantic and emotionally charged without love being involved.  We should be adults about it; enjoy the heck out of these encounters, in every way, but I agree, love usually should be left out of it.

It happens!!!  We click like best friends, have steamy, hot sex, and connect on so many levels, common backgrounds, etc. So what do you do at the end of all that?

If you've ever had an experience like that in any context, you know you can't just walk away....  and when the other seems to feel the same way......  So you go for it, and see how things progress!!

I love being in love, and always eager to take (safe, esp physically) chances!!  Only concern is, I don't want to hurt anyone again... so men must take things slowly!!!!

If he is trying to get you to do other activies, he is expressing interest in you. If you respond that shows your trust in him. Remember trust is a powerful bond, it is away to keep a client hooked and keep him cumming back for more. It is really nice to see a provider trying something the first time with someone new.

Know guys will say anything to get what they want!!!  Will always stay ultra-safe.....

The way you expressed the word "trust" and implied to use IT to keep him "hooked" sounds a bit devious, no? I mean people can have a genuine interest in each other depsite the labels that either may carry, but that starts with "honesty." Trust grows from honesty, not manipulation or keeping someone hooked on you. I know of a provider/hobby relationship where he continues to make regular donations but more for mutual trips, dinners, gifts etc. He continues to be married, she continues to work her biz. It can happen and yes they probably "love" each other on some level too. To be successful in ANY relationship each party must first give up their need to control/change the other person and what they do or what they don't do. People who are not sure about themselves make the worst partners. To be interdependent one must first know love of self. From there, it follows that you can join with another without the need to be anything but who you are.

That is why you are having such a high turnover. Guys will find other providers who are open minded.