First: I do not show my face in photos.  My relevant pics are all cropped and/or blurred.    

I don't think you can do anything about that. I have seen a provider that had a banging body only to be let down with her face. Stuff happens IMHO

and given that a client is free not to see gals who don't show their face, they have no argument against you if they end up disappointed.

Just stick to what you are doing, you'll be fine. Don't let one jerk drag you down.

In youth, males look at female faces since that is what they can see but most of us did not pay much attention to girls until their breasts start to grow.  

In response to your question, it is impossible to keep us very predictably "visual" males from conjuring up an image of what you beautiful ladies look like.  In fact, I think that is part of the excitement, the slightly unknown, that adds to the allure of a first visit.  I do not think it is your obligation to try to convey your looks beyond posting fairly recent and accurate photos.  The blurred/cropped pictures are, by definition, NOT misleading.  They are simply an attempt to maintain privacy.  In fact, as I write this and clarify my thoughts, I think a written description of your looks, trying to "fill in the blanks" left by a blurred photo, has the potential for causing more of an issue for both client and provider.  In this hobby, there is a certain amount of risk that we clients have to take on our end of the equation....getting a guarantee that the lady will meet some arbitrary definition of "attractive" is just not what we should expect.  If most guys are honest with themselves, they will admit that you ladies take on a much higher degree of risk than we do.  So, short of blatant misrepresentation, no guy should feel like they are entitled to anything more than a fair representation of your looks.  My .02

...and that is part of the game. You aren't doing anything wrong and you cant be expected to manage monger fantasies. IF mongers have a problem they can see only escorts with face pics. Pretty simple. Don't worry about them/it.

I don't see guys under the age of 40, and he was definitely older than that.  

no expectations about what a provider looks like, and I think those that do are naive.  Its to be expected that she has a private life and doesn't want to be recognized during her daily activities that are separate from her work.

complete jerk.  You should ignore such comments.  He has no class to put it in those terms.

I've noticed that there are too many guys assuming that when they book a provider they are getting total perfection.
They may be in terms of performance but we are all human and all have imperfections.  
I see no need for a girl to show her face in her pics and ads.  
It's not the face they're coming for...or in!
We all want to see beauty but that's in the eyes of the beholder and its evidenced every day in review ratings.

I gather you've been a provider for many years and have had many satisfied clients.  If you were to add up all of your happy clients and then figure out what percentage of clients had issues like what you have described, it sounds like it would be well south of 1%.  I understand every client is important, but sometimes you just have to discount the outlier.  That's the way I would look at it.

While I haven't had the pleasure of seeing Ms. Hollander in person, I have seen enough of her pictures and read enough of her reviews to convince me that she has a very pretty fact and nothing that could, rationally, be remotely called "disconcerting."  I would book her anytime we're in proximity to each other, without hesitation.

Posted By: Debra_Hollander

I don't see guys under the age of 40, and he was definitely older than that.    
   
 No, it wasn't about my age.  He was specifically unhappy with my features, even called them "disconcerting".  

for example, blur it enough so that I can't really recognize you on the street,

The point of my blurring is so that no one recognizes. No one that I know in my daily life and no one out and about who may have seen my photos. That blurring in the picture defeats the purpose of blurring. Anyone who knows her would recognize her and she's that much more recognizable to hotel staff or anyone creeping.

If you do not show your face for privacy reasons, I understand.  But... you are a beautiful woman who has nothing to hide. Although beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I can't imagine anyone not finding you gorgeous.

your "NEWER" blurred pics still give me an idea of the proportions of your facial features, and I would rather see pics like yours than a hair covered face like the OP's.  

I totally understand the need to protect privacy for certain providers. Some of us make a career out of it so we decide to show face. I think that to blur face in pictures will inevitably carry some consequences such as men feeling disappointed that you didn't look the way they pictures you in their heads. It comes with the territory and the providers who blur their pic should be mentally prepared for some guys reactions. Some men are more about the physical beauty than others.  

Once you screen the client, you could have an option of using snapchat to view a pic of you that is not blurred.

I want to screenshot your posts bingbongwhatever, they are a crystal clear example of mansplaining at its best.  

I burst out laughing when I read that.  Come on Debra, this guy was a complete jerk. They are out there.  Why worry about it?

Posted By: Debra_Hollander

He was specifically unhappy with my features, even called them "disconcerting".  

Have you ever seen those pictorials, celebs without makeup, or porn stars without makeup?

If he was so awfully 'disconcerted' and thought you were deliberately misleading, he had the option (and some may even say the obligation) to leave. He also has the option to review you. Sounds like an ill-mannered shitstain. Pay no mind. Xo

For obvious reasons already stated such as so hotel staff won't recognize, or family or friends won't know it is also wise to crop or blur faces due to the ease of use of facial recognition software. All any girl needs is for some obsessed client to run it and a possible hit come up from a social media site with our personal information. It's why going beyond just blurring and actual cropping is more desirable.  

DH, you mention comparisons to Kim Bassinger, Cheryl Hines, and an older and blonder Angelina Jolie on your website. Who's fault is it if the client expected to find a classically beautiful woman and was disappointed?

Where, on the lady's website, should she put her description? About Me page?  On the Photos page?  Both?"

Contrary to the plot of the so named movie, Vermeer almost certainly used his family members (wife and children) as his painting subjects.