i've been toying with the idea of putting a favorite under an exclusive contract. has anyone here done that on either side?
not sure what a fair "donation" would be -- i'm guessing it's something like 70% of her expected annual income.
the agreement. I believe in the "trust but verify" doctrine in having working girls as GF's.
Is her ad still up as if she was working regular way? It should at least read "on vacation" or something like that.
Is she readily accessible? If she has nothing to do but see you, then she should be able to pick up the phone live or call you right back. If she was cheating and doing an overnighter with another john, she would likely take a while to get back.
Does she genuinely appear to be burned out on the 5 guys a day model, and really up for a break? This is important. Alot of girls internalize massive amounts of stress being with many dudes they would not date on a bet, and it takes its toll. Also, is there solid chemistry between you two that will make it worth a trial commitment?
If you suspect she is working a little on the side, you can have friends call as shills and try to set appointments. If none of them can get a date with her, that's a good sign. If they can, it's a bad sign.
If she wants to cheat with old clients who will not write reviews and she can hide those trysts expertly, there is really nothing you can do about it. I have had mixed results, and the positive outcomes made for maximum 3-5 months of apparent monogamy. It might work much better long term for single guys who have less to lose than us hitched to a wif...
Good luck, and email me if you wish, Drollere...
If reviews pop up here on TER and elsewhere, that's not a good sign
It sounds like it would be A LOT easier...and cheaper...to get a real GF....but at least you admit that you actually would have no way of being sure about the "exclusivity" of the arrangement.
"Exclusive"..."Commitment"....those aren't words I typically associate with "money" and "sex", but hell, what do I know.
BTW...and I've wondered about this both inside and OUTSIDE 'the hobby"...why is it that guys think they can sleep around (ie, have wives, and hobby, or have a "working girl as GF" ) but expect a different behavior from the women in their lives?
well, i could get her an ankle bracelet, too ...
the idea, which three other ladies i've met had entered into themselves (two on a monthly basis, one for a year), is that the minx will be exclusive to a man whom she enjoys without effort, who treats her right and covers part of her revenue expectations.
in return, she foregoes other clients and the extra revenue she might make as an independent, because she doesn't have to worry about marketing, screening, the lottery of unknown faces and oozy organs, LE, overwork, and uninvited microbial guests, among many other things.
both parties get a health screening to make the sex safe without latex or special douches, and mutually more relaxing and enjoyable.
why not get a girlfriend? because she's not a minx, silly!
There is no way I would do such a thing....
You make a LOGICAL argument...but I don't think you could really sell the idea.
Wait...I take that back. You COULD sell the idea. I just don't think you'd get what you’re trying to buy.
Most women (since we hate sweeping generalizations here so much) escort for money. Given a choice between a civilian job and escorting, they've decided this offers the best ratio of money-reward vs. effort-invested for them. They do it, even though it is illegal, even though it is stigmatized, even though for many escorts it is (according to other escorts) damaging emotionally. They do it even though it is a risky profession to both their health (even PROTECTED sex with hundreds of men you know little to nothing about has risks, as condoms only offer reliable protection against SOME STDs) and to their well being (they never know WHICH stranger is the one who likes to beat up women for kicks...)
It is hard for me to believe a person so motivated to make money that they ware willing to accept all of these risks would be willing to pass up any opportunities to make MORE money. Which means, once she has yours (and you KNOW she is taking yours up front, right?) she will continue to "work", albeit perhaps on a reduced basis. You just can't tell me this wouldn't happen.
Besides, of what benefit is this to you? You can pay $$$$ an hour, get what you came for, and leave, OR you can pay a few grand a week (you think any reputable escort would do it for less?) and what? Have a 3-hour session every night? Again, a real GF would be MUCH cheaper...
Sex without latex huh? So you are going to risk your health with a woman you know has had sex with hundreds of other men, on the assumption she isn't going to have sex with any others, because you trust her. And of course, she is going to be willing to have sex with YOU unprotected, because she trust you, a guy who believes the best way to an exclusive relationship is to just pay for it, a guy who SHE knows has had sex with...a dozen? two dozen? escorts before. You know, those same escorts who have had sex with hundreds of guys...
In MY limited experience with women, the only thing that ganders fidelity from them is A) assumed fidelity from her partner (even in marriages where she might "know" it doesn't exist...and truth is those wives usually have stopped fucking their husbands, which is why the husbands sleep around in the first place) and B) an emotional investment. Otherwise, you can't keep a good-looking woman on a short leash, no matter HOW much money you toss at her (unless we are talking MAJOR cash...so much that her very lifestyle is radically changed...in which case, she is doing it for the new life she is leading, not for you).
Your theoretical escort isn't going to be do it (go exclusive)for the money...she ALREADY has sex for money. She might do it for the reasons you cite...except...there is this opportunity to make even MORE money.
I simply can't imagine how it would ever work in the real world with the sort of women you are targeting...women who already exchange sex for money.
In my opinion, you'd be much better off being a sugar daddy to a young "GF". If you find the right one (struggling artist?) she will want / need / appreciate your money A LOT more than an escort (who you are asking to take a pay cut, or wash out even with her reduced expenses), and she won't have an annoying existing client base to dispose of (like any established escort is going to blow off her list of hard earned regulars that will feed her stomach and pay her bills after you move on to the next "pretend GF"). And, just like an escort, she won't really care about your old sorry butt anyway, so when you are ready to dump her, she gladly move on to a new boy toy more her age who likes snow boarding and whatever.
The only down side is that there probably will need to be SOME attraction on her part. Is this the problem you are trying to eliminate?
Because if it is, then I have another observation for you…it seems to me that all of the escorts who have posted here, and who I have communicated with off the board, who at least SEEMED to not be strictly about the money, have also gone on record that they think fidelity / exclusivity is at best, not for them right now, and at worse (for you) a total crock. So if they don’t break the leash for the money, they’ll do it for the thrill of new / different dick. Meaning…they aren’t going to fly right for you either, unless you are better (read – better looking and a better lay) they anything they can expect to find elsewhere.
Bottom line…the only reason people MAKE a fundamental change in their life is the belief that the change will result in something substantially better. You offer exclusivity as your selling card…but these ladies have already gone on record with their words and behaviors demonstrating that exclusivity is of little value to them – at least not within their current standard of living. Unless you are willing to make a considerable upgrade on that standard of living, the pursuit of additional income is inevitable.
-- Modified on 8/4/2002 12:29:59 PM
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