Who here has made friends (with the same sex) in the hobby? Speaking about many conversations, possibly even hanging out together?
I use to think it was a horrid idea based upon some of the horror stories I have heard over the years.
I have a few ladies that I converse with often and have known for years. It is great to be able to talk with someone who knows how "this" world goes. These ladies have been nothing but nice to me and I appreciate our friendship. I can't wait to travel and meet them!
I am thinking that it is better to friend another provider not in your area, so there is no jealousy issues nor drama. Very important to find nice people who you have some things in common with as well. Also valuable to know the boundaries of chatting and still being discreet about the guys.
Your thoughts, if any? 
It is very nice to be able to talk about this world off the boards.
I would not call him a friend, but I talk to a guy every few weeks
who was very helpful when I first started.
There is another guy traveling here on business in August and wants to have a drink. lol
Good Post!
Escalade, do you give him bbbjnqns?
Tey attending a TER M&G in your area it helps!
I am attending another one this week & am very excited because I am always seeking new play partners too!
Too many BSC hookers out there to go giving away too much info. about yourself. That said, I did meet one of my best friends through the hobby. She's 10 years younger than me, Nigerian, nearly 6 ft. tall, does not smoke or drink...complete opposite of me in most ways, but on the serious issues in life, we totally agree. Yes, I think it's better not to get to know too many local providers if you have anything to lose. If you're a person who can broadcast this life, your family and friends already know what you do, etc. it's a little easier to dismiss the paranoia
I have met a few! The are very sweet and we can talk about what we have in common. I agree about not meeting a provider in your area. To many issues with that. The ones that I have met are outside of my area and I have gotten to know them well
for your proper use of the comma.
Seriously though, one of the great surprises of this world is the friends I've made. I'm lucky enough to have fallen in with a kind of rat pack of a dozen or so guys. We came to respect each other on the boards and then got to know each other better back channel. Next step was partying together at a huge M&G with a bevy of sexy gals, which has become an annual event.
I've also met a few guys at other M&Gs who've become friends
Beyond that, I've become friends with several providers. One of them I've screened for. In fact, she's taking me to lunch later this week. Others I've socialized with OTC. The result is I have a broad circle of friends in this game, with whom I can share experiences and information. It makes the whole thing even more rewarding in every way.
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Way too much drama and BS for my liking. I go to work, do my job and keep work things at work and my private life, exactly that, private.
It is so sad that some people are so jealous and insecure in regards to what other providers have or do outside of this business...so much so, they will out you just because they are too fkin stupid to do anything with their lives, and you did. Sad, sad, sad. We have to keep our guard up, because of things like this and that was not always the case. The girls on the streets don't operate as bad as some high end hookers. They respect each other, look out for one another, and are like a family.
I'm friendly with the ladies on the boards but have found only one woman that I think I'll be friends with for life. She's now retired so maybe that's why we get along so well. ; )
If I need to talk it out with someone I have one gal pal in Florida and one in NYC but we don't hang out like girlfriends. We chat, trade information and we're back on our way.
I've learned that no matter how nice you are, no matter how low you try to keep your head eventually someone will put a target on your back. Meet & Greets are a double edged sword in that respect. Of course you want to be out there building your brand, meeting new clients and of course to see who the ladies are on the other side of their photos and everyone should attend a few around the nation if they plan on touring but it's also a breeding ground for bad blood between providers. The usual scenario is that we ladies disagree on something small or we miscommunicate our feelings online/virtually, the "girl tiff" escalates into WWIII, truths get twisted, lies are created and then the rumors set in and spread like wild fire. It happens across the boards and regions. I've chalked it up to we ladies being so fiercely independent.
Good luck with your endeavors!!
xo Love Laney
I have never and will NEVER attend a meet and greet. When I say I have "friends" in this business, I don't mean them coming over to my real house for afternoon tea, and meeting my family lol. I just mean, we help each other out and have some common beliefs. Now, I do have two providers that I actually did not know did this...I met one in college, and another in NYC. We became very close, I knew both of them had a brain and a life outside of this and just as much to lose as I did...that's the key. I will never involve myself with providers who are loose cannons and have nothing to lose. Those are the very first to make sure you too, have nothing left.
There's a hotel I stay in a little too much in Northern Virginia. Minding my business.. Jumping in the shuttle to visit the mall.
One afternoon a young woman struck up a convo with me. She said she had noticed me and that we visited pretty much the same time, "What do you do?" Needless to say.. This was last summer and she has turned out to be my friend in the industry. I wasn't interested in picking up homies, but I think it's possible to have outside interests and share them with someone if this is a person whom you would have in your life outside of this. I was so happy to have some one to ask questions and share a glass of wine with. And far as competition goes... That's overrated... There are too many men to worry about as to who he may pick. And considering some like young, mature, Pure MILF, hourglass, ethnic, Californian Blond, and my favorite type- I only see girls with natural breasts type!!! --hell, you can't be everything to everyone. Why try?
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