I see my atf on a regular basis but see other providers also. Multiple reasons for that, but one is that this atf is also a friend. My seeing other providers helps remind both of us that our hobby relationship is strictly professional.

...seeing my favorites and some new (to me) ladies. I like seeing new ladies for the variety and favorites because ...well they are favorites for a reason. Sometimes a new lady becomes a favorite.

For a while I made it a point to see 5-6 new gals a year, but circumstances are forcing me to cut back from that.

I now see 5-6 local regulars, plus a few traveling gals who I see once or twice a year.

It keeps things interesting, and also provides stability

...but I haven't been hobbling long enough to get a true ATF.  I do have a few favorites though.  I guess I need to get out and do read my wings more lol


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retires, goes on vaca, etc...  you've got no recourse.  In addition, I find it useful (since I fall for who ever I'm with at the moment) to rotate a handfull of favorites.  3-4 has worked well for me.  I'm down right now due to 1 retirement & 1 falling out.

See who you most want to see... for whatever reasons you choose. Over time, your ATF will appear as the one you always return to, the one you choose most often, the one you prefer above all others and compare all others to.

Even if an ATF is apparent, exclusivity is not a "hobby" attribute.  

After 3 years, I know I have an ATF because I have seen many others. I doubt she has any idea that I see her as my ATF... I haven't always shown it by choosing her. I may just need to change that; I tend to be too easily side-tracked.

In any case, my suggestion is to choose as you do and let things fall into place as they will. There is nothing wrong with seeing your ATF or choosing another... that is the nature of this world.

I have several ATF

and I use several of them, sometimes both at the same time

I much prefer to session with atfs. Comfort is my number one priority. Unfortunately, the atf relationship is fleeting. Therefore, it's incumbent that new ladies are thrown into the mix in hopes of discovering new atf relationships.  

Does an atf treat you better because you repeat? Absolutely. Do atf sessions become routine? Absolutely not. In fact, one atf changed things every time. I never knew what was going to happen. To be honest, I don't think she ever planned anything out. It all seemed so spontaneous. I saw her many many times before she retired. If a lady does the exact same thing twice, I doubt she'll warrant a third session.

ATF Most Definetly.

I've been seeing one provider for the last two years. Very happy to see only her. Every Session although is pretty much the same as the last one, are always great. When I see a provider I like I just see her. Seeing a new provider would be great. But I'm pretty satisfied with the current provider I'm seeing.

It's your hobby...play the game as you see fit.

Variety is spice of life

well...

i have many repeats and i am an atf to a few...i encourage them to see others and have a lot of fun...some do, some do not...as for your question if some providers treat their repeats better, well i do not...everyone is treated the same, with courtesy and respect...the thing with a repeat is that we move one to another level to our "relationship"...yes it is still a business, but we become better friends, true companions even for a short period of time...we share our lives together, our kids, grandkids, work, just every day life...so please do not choose one or the other...a healthy balance would be good

the thing is, I'm not sure it's all that easy to find a true ATF with whom you want to be exclusive. I think most of the time it just happens -- like any other relationship, I would note. Of the scores of wonderful women I've had the pleasure of spending time with in the hobby, only one has captured my attention fully. But for her, I think I'd be continuing to experiment with lots of ladies.
That being said, even if you don't have an ATF, there's no reason to try to find a new person every single time. Before I took up more fully with my ATF, I had many women that i visited on multiple occasions, and loved my times with all of them. You get to know them, and they you, without it necessarily being a full-blown "ATF" situation.
Mostly, have fun, and see whom you're inspired to see.