What are your thoughts about a client that doesn't want to fuck?

Let me add some context...I've been married to the same woman for the last 30 years and she's a fantastic life-partner.  She'll fuck me every day, if I want to, and we fuck more that most couples our age (60).  However, she doesn't give me blow jobs any more, and she never did give me the quality of blowjobs that providers give.  She doesn't like DATY (she's ticklish), and I'm extremely oral.  I love both DATY and receiving an amazing BBBJ.  

I would prefer to spend my time with providers enjoying the oral offerings and could care less about the fucking.  My face between a beautiful woman's legs is my happy place.  So, how do you feel about clients who want to spend their time orally, versus fucking?  Do you care?

I've been seeing providers for the past several years, and just recently came to the realization that I could take a pass on the fucking and spend my time with them orally and leave even more satisfied.  I'm just trying to gauge the reaction(s) that I may get going forward as I've not yet asked for a session where we don't fuck at some point in the tryst.  

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You had me at...

My face between a beautiful woman's legs is my happy place.

lol Smile 4 me! I had to hit the like button. xoxo

that you’re only paying providers for their time, right? 😉

 
Also, did you know there are providers who charge extra for “full service”?  So you could save yourself some money to boot.  

If done correctly there's nothing more that I love. Many are so quick to just stick & go they forget one of the most enjoyable parts foreplay and I do enjoy a lot of that it receiving as well as giving. I like to take my time build up to the hot and heavier stuff but to each their own...

     Xo
     Ariel Summers

Thank you for your comments, Steve.  I do fully understand that I'm only paying providers for their time---After all, we are consenting adults....

To be very candid, I didn't ask this question because I thought I could save some cash.  I would never, ever try to save money because I'm not into the actual fucking part of a tryst.  The reason I asked the question to providers is, based on my favorite provider experiences, many of our lady friends actually enjoy fucking.  It's not just a perfunctory part of their job.  I've had many a provider call me a "pleaser" and they are right.  I take as much, or more joy, in providing pleasure as I do receiving it.  I certainly wouldn't want a provider to walk away with anything but good thoughts about our time together.  I'm ready, willing and able to fuck like a wild man.  It's just not what's missing in my life and hasn't been since was about 16 years old.

But I’ll add you’re asking the wrong audience about this. The only people you should be concerned about with your dilemma are those providers you’re seeing. Ask them (in person of course) if they mind no-fucking sessions.  Or as I implied, seek out providers who make fucking an option or don’t even have it on their published menus.  

In fact I'm sure that the providers I've seen were happy with a break from fucking for a minute, lol. I don't like dildos or strap ons so the only thing penetrating a lovely pussy (on both of us) is a tongue

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how much work they have to do, you sound like a provider's wet dream.   lol

I'd like to think so!

You believe their pleasure is your "oral offering" and not the money?  You're paying them; do what gives YOU pleasure.  If you want to do less, why would they care.  Have a conversation or whatever, they'll still taking your money.  

Regarding your wife not giving good BJs, practice makes perfect.  Nobody comes out of the box, stellar.  When I started fucking in HS, I was a hot mess.  Very embarrassed to think about those days.  Not sure I would want a wife that can suck the chrome off my bumper; she's getting her practice somewhere?!

With that said, I also enjoy a good blowjob with CIM.  Sex can be a bit taxing on my body.  Also, I am very lazy.  But that's just me.  

I love oral, giving and receiving.

more than most would care to believe. Intimacy comes in many ways and can be just as intense without it

Thank you for your reply!  

I prefer to look at it through a bit of a different lens.  I consider it "our time".  Although I have paid for "time" and whatever else happens is between two or more consenting adults, part of the fantasy for me, and what brings me more enjoyment is that my partner also has a great time and her satisfaction with our meeting is important to me.  

Some guys on this forum will consider me a "simp" or some sappy, lonely, awkward bastard.  That couldn't be further from the truth.  I see providers because I very simply enjoy the oral delights that I don't get at home and unlike some men, I actually care that my partner is happy.  Regardless of the fact that I'm the one paying for her to be there, it matters to me that we both leave with a smile on our faces.

The intention of my post/question was to hear from ladies, like yourself, to get feedback on how you feel about sessions where fucking is not involved.  From your reply and other ladies that have replied, it sounds like I probably should not have any worries and that I should simply let the ladies know how I want the session to go and to ask for their input during our time together.  I should lead rather than be guided, perhaps.  

Your reply and the replies from the other ladies that have replied are sincerely appreciated and I will look forward to my next encounter with confidence.  Thank you!

Honestly,  I actually prefer it.  Intimacy comes (no pun intended, lol) in many forms.  If you don't feel like fucking, it's fine. I have had quite a few sessions where that was the case, and they were quite enjoyable.

This is exactly my situation. Same age, same willingness to fuck anytime... zero foreplay.  I originally started hobbying because I couldn't get in my happy place (between a woman's legs) with my SO of 30+ years.  She is an amazing woman and partner, and I'd be lost without her....and I really miss oral foreplay. Along with FIV.  I look for providers who are multi orgasmic because my SO also doesn't cum very easily if at all anymore.  

That having been said... I've gone into more than one encounter with a provider with the intention of oral being the reason for meeting... and then I can't help myself and we end up fucking anyway.  

The important part of my convo with a provider is that I'm NOT looking for a discount.  That usually is met with "fine whatever you would like, it's your time, let's go for it".  

I love to please women.  Being a child of the 60's and 70's, that meant fucking.  One must penetrate to give pleasure.  I know that is B.S. but in the culture of the day it was a truth.

30 years of marriage reinforced this attitude in me.  My wife enjoyed only fucking, no foreplay, and no oral, and only in missionary.  

I enjoy doing the things she would not do, Cowgirl, oral, etc.  However it has taken me a long time to adjust my attitude that I can please a lady orally and not fuck her, assuming the ladies orgasms are real, lol.  

When we don't fuck, I apologize which is often met with a giggle or comment about not being a problem.  

Need to stop apologizing!

I am a child of the 70's and 80's and I agree with you.  At that time, pleasing a woman meant fucking (or so we thought). I guess that I still had that idea in my head until now.  I can still fuck with reckless abandon, but I prefer to spend my time doing things with providers that I don't get to do at home.  

From the feedback here, it sounds like guys like us really don't need to apologize for not fucking.  These days, my tongue stays hard much longer than my cock (I despise condoms, but would never fuck outside of my marriage without one) and is also much more reliable and diverse in its action!  So, going forward, I say let the fun begin and may every encounter end with our faces looking like they just took a trip through the Krispy Kreme glazing vat!  'Y'umm'Y'!!!

I'm similar in my desire for oral, both giving and receiving but I usually go with the flow and start fucking after a time.
(I don't have your problem of getting a lot of fucking at home tho)

I think at my next appointment I will suggest giving each other oral in turns until we are bursting at the seams to fuck.

In the current punitive climate I have taken to tell them that donation is for companionship, and that what occurs depends on where the mood takes us.

"Fleur de Lys"....  "Whatever You Desire"....  Your pleasure, your time and money @yesyes36  

"Fleur de Lys"  doesn't actually translate into  "Whatever You Desire",  however, I'm always  
reminded of the movie "LA Confidential", where an Escort Agency is named   "Fleur de Lys",  
which is so very apropos.

My ATF and I didn't always have intercourse during our sessions as we sometimes just cuddled and talked through what was on our minds at the time.  Connecting with someone on an intimate basis is more than just sex.  

I enjoy dates like this. Full rate though. I don't charge per service.