When I'm with an older provider I get off on the milf fantasy, I tell them to talk dirty in a way that tells me that I'm with my hot stepmom. And then when I'm with a hot young petite provider we do the whole daddy-stepdaughter fantasy n I get off on that. My question is which one works for u n why? Also is it normal to have these two type of fantasies? Just wondering

What if I say none of that shit works for me, and I can still have great time with the gals..You do understand that what you are referring to is pretty sacred to people. Even though you have distanced yourself by adding "step" to your fantasy, most people are not comfortable with having sex with their step child or step parent....

Would that be an acceptable answer?

Which one works for you and why?

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Harold can get his dick up, and keep it up. Kind of hard to have sex with a limp noodle..lol

A lot of guys request it. The step mother/step daughter fantasy does not involve fantasy of blood related incest. The mother/son one does.

Through talking to people who request these, (for fantasy roll play I require a little talk through at the time of the appointment to discuss boundaries, triggers, reason for the fantasy, and my needs to make sure it is safe emotionally and physically for both of us.)

Many have actually been sexually abused as a child by a parent, and over time it became fetishized. Whether the offender back in the day was the actual mother, aunt, etc still caused the desire for a mother/son role play.

How I've taken it, is that it creates a new memory that is safe and under the full control of the client. It's like looking back in time, and not clearly seeing the offense, because later in time a matching image, (that is closer to now,) is blocking the true image. (In emotion, sense of control, photo images, etc. etc.)

I believe it is the mind taking action/creating a desire to heal itself. It almost becomes obsessed with it for the person to pursue the fantasy until new images are burned into the psyche.

The new images sometimes being a hot younger girl of their own choosing taking the place of their mom.  

But I so know that it is a real fantasy and a real lust. Some think about their actual family member. All in all, they have total control over the situation as an adult, and a lot of people are trying to work something out in their own head.  

Sexual abuse causes a lot of confusion, and I would assume a hell of a lot of confusion as a child. The brain is very powerful, and stores memories forever and ever, (unless damaged,) which guides our every day actions, our planning, etc. Even if we don't consciously know the reasons for our consideration for current and future decisions.  

So again, I believe the hard drive is trying to fix itself and measure, make sense of the large amount of past events that are using a significant amount of memory.

 
I don't think there is anything wrong with it, and in have actually pursued fantasies due to past sexual weirdness as an adult with uncomfortable situations. It has turned my sexuality around completely. It has also brought a lot of healing and understanding.

Wow it does make sense in different levels, thanx 4 the in depth response

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Wow Courtney! You are truly a woman of quality, substance and empathy. I'm really impressed. Nice insight.

I never had any underage sexual experience with an adult female whether blood relative, relative by marriage, or otherwise. However, I did fantasize about all three a lot as a teenager (as well as my similarly underaged female relatives).  

I have a very clear understanding of why this is usually very bad with the gender roles reversed from female friends, although I have one female friend who was introduced to sex as a post-pubescent-but still-underage teenager by an uncle and she has fond memories of it. However, I don't see the male/female situations as as completely parallel. I think that I would have been thrilled if some of my incest fantasies had been realized as a teen, and I doubt if I would have felt all that damaged by sex even with one of my aunts to whom I was not attracted and did not feature in my fantasies.  

Courtney has a different and probably better understanding than I do. Are there some clients that are just trying to recreate a fond memory or fantasy of incest? Also, is the step-mother/step-daughter variant of the fantasy an attempt to make it feel less perverted or a reflection a a reality in which the real sex is more likely without the extreme taboo of blood-relative incest.

or everything is NOT "Normal", take your pick!