or do you expect to at least be consulted, if not completely deferred to in regard to decisions such as where to dine and what to see and do during long term dates.  

regarding the game plan including dining, non-BCD activities, etc.

Or are you talking about civvie dating?

Some of my longtime clients like to plan things they know I'll particularly enjoy (so long as they enjoy the same things). I do have some extremely nice clients

I like the way you take charge in a very disarming way
while keeping your client front and center. Nice

If I book you personal life. Lol

I also defer to his or her preferences, and will also provide a nice variety of choices if s/he asks for a recommendation. I always offer to recommend something if they are from out of town. If they ask my preference, I have absolutely no problem offering up my opinions, which will include his/her tastes as well. I love it when his/her choices meld nicely with mine!

Don't feel bad; I scare myself also.

Now you're scaring me even more. LOL

an escort doesnt ignore the qualities she finds attractive in a man. she can for a little while- that's what the donation is for- but eventually...  

a lady I've seen many times.  I asked her on email which place she wanted to dine and got radio silence. Nothing.

just saw this on Bourdain's show. Uuugghh!

I'd be totally cross if a guy dragged me to a mysterious restaurant featuring the world's most fabulous spinach dip, and it turned out to be Applebee's. I might let him pick a restaurant again for the sake of keeping peace, but it would be an ordeal.  

then I'm game.  

But I actually prefer a brunch with eggs, bacon, hash browns and pancakes.

...I would hope and encourage the provider to take the wheel and drive. I'm lousy at choosing dining destinations and if it's left up to me I'll take her to a stripclub. Lol maybe she'd like that.

whole gamut of preferences since I've seen so much variation. I know in P4P a gal has to restrain her preference on account of business reasons, though some gals don't let that stand in the way of their preferences.  
I've found some gals offended if I don't take charge and some gals offended if I do.  

This was with a very long term SB type relationship:

There used to be one right up the street from me where I would meet my buddies for drinks and to watch football.

She told me to say that.

usually i run it past my date in advance, discussing my plans on a date previous to the dinner date: "so i thought we'd go to the cheesecaske factory for lunch.  they have a uni-sex bathroom in the back behind the store room with a lock.  i thought that after lunch you and i could go in and **^*!!* how's that sound?"

There are customers in civie relationships?

but that's not the point.

Yes you are paying for the session, so you should get the experience you want. And for the best experience, it would be best to discuss with your provider about the date and offer up options or ask her opinion. The decision is ultimately yours, but you'll have a much better time if she's enjoying herself too. If she's not open to anything you say, find a different provider or pay for a bad night.

In civilian land on a first date I have found that the majority of ladies want you to plan and call the shots on what, when and where. Think they like the effort and just want to go with the flow on date 1.  

You'd get better answers from women who aren't being paid to pretend to like you.

Civvies and longer sessions (with dinner decisions etc), it's somewhat automatic that the man "takes charge." I mean, you ask, "Would you like to go to The Stinky Rosé for dinner tomorrow evening at 7:00?" If you were to ask, "Do you want to go to dinner someplace sometime?" she wouldn't know what to wear, when to be ready, what sort of cuisine is being offered, and maybe what kind of a date you're suggesting. If she doesn't like the idea she can turn it down or suggest a different restaurant or a different time. But you sort of have to suggest something specific to start things rolling, so if that's what you mean by a guy taking charge I would guess that most women prefer that. At least most in my limited experience. If you mean some heavy macho trip, then I have no idea what they like as that's not really my style.

Hookers are paid to do what you want them to do.

In fact, he's no longer welcome at Applebees, which is why he's been forced to spend so much time in Central America.

Plus how may woman feel the same way all the time anyway?  We want what we want when we want it. I'll take dining out one night AND having some of your famous lasagna the next...and a late brunch too...counting the weeks....