We are all guilty of it. A random woman wants attention and men rush in to indulge her in hopes they will get rewarded with sex. Saturday night live did a parody of this phenomena called "Why'd You Like It"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lMYOQ3NAidg If this is true then why do men waste their time doing it? My rule is never to engage with women unless they reach out to me first AND have something to offer ( food, money etc ).that’s really fucked up.
No, we (men and women who prefer women as sex partners) are not ALL guilty of it. Many, I think most of us, are “nice” to civvy women for reasons other than to be rewarded by sex.
Consider: is everyone who likes women as sex partners and who’s in a committed relationship constantly trying to have sex with women by being nice to them, and if they don’t want to have sex with a woman they treat her like shit? Of course not.
Just because SNL does a skit on something doesn’t make it true in the real world.
Harry: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail 'em too.
But not what the OP was about… being nice to someone doesn’t necessarily mean you want to be friends with them.
Also, I have some women friends who I don’t want to “nail”. And some are even attractive!
sweaty guy changing a side on the side of the road for some hot babe, I can't help laughing because here's a guy who may actually believe this good deed, the only way she will want to repay him is with sex. The divide between Samaritan and sucker is as wide as the Grand Canyon, yet so many men don't see it. It's almost like the princess fantasy that some homely women have. Lol
Never was a fan of ulterior motive "kindness", personally.
With that said I must admit I've seen it work sometimes.
Ie, men specifically being very nice and polite just to get laid. And they got laid. While game is game and I can't knock the next man's hustle, it just seems very fake to me. Not my idea of pretending in order to get something. But idk.
Being nice just to get sex shows what kind of person one really is deep down in their heart, scum..
So how would you treat a woman if you knew there was no possibility of sex?
Like shit just like everyone else you come into contact with I bet.. terrible terrible morals of some of you guys man, please identify the problem and do better, you give manly men a bad name.
What are you talking about?
I literally said I think that being nice just to get laid is not a good predicament. Being nice just to get something in return in general is pretty questionable to me.
I'm going to disagree a bit. Humans are pretty self-centered, a necessity for survival, really. We employ "nice" strategy because it works and lets society work. I think "nice" is only negatively deceptive when the real goal is to do harm.
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Of course I don't think that "nice" works on modern chicks. They want bad boys. If you just want to get laid in the civie world you just need 666, six feet, six figures, six pack (or six inches.) Just be the top 5%. Nice has nothing to do with it.
Im just nice in general. I dont overextend this courtesy of being nice, i just make sure that shitty people dont ruin it.
You can be nice to people you meet without looking for sex. Ive found thats when it usually finds you.
I have a theory that your $1200 hour escorts have similar personalities.
Sadly there are many women like this out there. She must have a golden pussy.
This type of behavior is absolutely unacceptable, men that do this kind of thing are the reason no one accepts a man as he truly is. They all think we are all like this and here you come putting the proof right in the pudding..
"Gross narcissistic behavior" is unacceptable, but regular narcissistic behavior like you do is fine? That's not only astute but very generous of you. Lol
How did the date go? Has she moved in yet? Enquiring minds need to know!
As a hobbyist friend of mine used to say - I don’t really pay an escort for the session, but rather for her to leave when it’s done.
Way less complicated when both parties have a clear understanding on the expectations of their “relationship”.
according to most sources it was movie icon Clark Gable.
"Although the King could snap his fingers and get almost any woman he wanted, at times he preferred to go to bed with high-priced call girls. Asked why, when he could get it for free, Gable replied, “Because I can pay her to go away. The others stay around, want a big romance, movie lovemaking. I do not want to be the world’s greatest lover.”
Clark Gable was notorious for his bad breath, so he probably didn't have to pay them much to go away.
1. Women want equal pay and consider unequal pay a form of patriarchal oppression.
2. Women want men who earn more than them and consider those who earn less than them to be losers.
Now you are just stirring the pot.
Making sweeping generalizations like you are doing is foolish.
I could say men expect women to be barefoot and pregnant. Or men expect to be providers and expect women to stay home.
Ridiculous no?
Which statement was generally untrue?
You meet a woman exchange contact info.
You invite her out for coffee..dinner..or lunch to get to know her better.
Somewhere down the line as you get to know one another how much have men spent on gifts/dinner/and activities on a woman?
In the long run it is going to cost the man more money to date than him booking a provider? And it i still uncertain if he is going to get any sex from the civy chick.
So many civy guys always say "Oh no I would never hire a sexworker/prostitute /escort that is beneath me I do not have to pay" Lmao sir you have been paying for yrs and probably not always getting what he anticipated.
A girlfriend of mine once asked me if I had ever paid for sex. Without missing a beat, I said, "Oh, yeah."
She asked, "You have?"
"Sure," I quickly responded. I could see the wheels turning in her head and her temperature start to rise. After about 20 seconds, she finally asked, "How many times?"
I looked her in the eye and slowly said, "Every, single, time."
She slapped my shoulder and said, "You know what I mean."
I chuckled a little and said, "You know what I mean."