i have never hired an escort before id there any helpful tips sopme of you can give me , as in what to look for and what to stay away from. i also dont know what the process would be once i hired one am i suppose to get service before giving money or how does that go to

If you are interested in this hobby, you should read the Newbie Manual
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=23107&boardID=33

There is no short cut, you really should invest the time to read back several pages on the Newbie board.  
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and read the acronyms and newbies Manual.