Let me explain..

I usually don't make many comments on the general board though I do skim through it. But I'm curious, was there a particular posting someone made that prompted your remarks?

I highly agree with your thought process, & sadly, you are spot-on for some individuals. While some ladies uphold their morals, values, & standards, regardless of what their occupation is, some do the complete opposite. They take the approach of, "I already do this, so doing x,y, & z isn't so bad". You cannot lose sight of yourself when you enter this profession.  

you may question if I even have a dick.. And if I do, if it even works..  

The most awesome compliment that I've ever been given was from a provider, she told me that I'm a free spirit. If you were to only know me in my non hobby life you would never say or think that about me. But I feel that when you are out in public you should practice some discretion. This is not to say you shouldn't be yourself, but there's a time and a place for everything. I like to talk dirty during a session, but I always explain to the girl that I don't mean any of it, it's just fantasy. And if she even hesitates, I refrain from doing so. So my opinion is that you are correct, just because you are a provider and I am a hobbyist and we can get crazy behind closed doors doesn't give us the right to impose that on other people. Just as others shouldn't impose their integrity on us. That's my opinion, I didn't charge you for it and that's what it's worth.

nor should you be held to a lower standard. There are a lot of providers like you who can separate the two life styles and a lot that simply can't.  

well, except on occasion but that was with folks who I trust (and you can count those on 1 finger!).  Since my divorce (over 10 years ago) I've dated, been with escorts, strippers and pornstars.  I've kept a relatively low profile for my kids' sakes, and that has never been an issue.  BUT, I've also been discrete with whom I've exposed my kids to - both male and female.  Each person they have met, I've known for over 3 and closer to 5 years.

Unlike people like myself whom treat it like a business and aside from part time job at the full service salon I work in, . I chose to do this. I treat it like a business. I treat the guests well. I don't try and rush them in and out a hotel room and see how much I can get my grubby little greedy money hungry paws on. So I can do such egotistical materialistic endeavors such as getting twenty boob jobs until they are so big if I go on a dinner date the client is gonna be the laughing stock of the joint . surely every one will laugh and say look at the loser with the hooker. which is why I get such excellent reviews and am in the top 5 for boston.  
   I treat my clients with respect not like losers I am tryin to get in and out so I can buy thousand dollar shoes. I am not rich , I am not greedy,.  
so I have success.  
there are as I know having met many. Women with drug problems and they just want the quickest easiest cash so they can go feed their addictions. not every one is a savvy business woman like me or yourself.  
there are lost souls among us everywhere, it is by no means a choice they are desperate down and out and just simply having a hard time a things.  
they aren't investing in their business in thousand dollar web sites like us, so clients can learn more about us to decide if they want to enjoy an experience with us.  
they are not caring if the atmosphere is nice for the clientele.  
   I was introduced to a girl by a friend last week. she sounded great on phone pics looks great. some how I was in this situation where he wants me to help her since she does appts for well. for basically enough to buy her drugs at 100 a date, !!!
  I felt badly and was since shewas a friend of a friend, I was worried and sad for her, it didn't make sense!
  when I finally met her. she was the most inconsiderate jacked up on drugs , sweaty , pale, bugged out. didn't even talk to me and friend that had had us speak over phone In his efforts to think he d be helping her.
no she made a bee line for the man who throws her the 100, and took off, sweat dripping shaking white as ghost.
  Not every one is havin an easy time a things out there, and being in new Orleans the coke capital the world where all major shipments travel through, I am sure you see more than your fair shair of sad cases. lookin for next fix, grabbing whatever crumbs fall from the table.  
             Being a girl who was surpressed majorly as a child, for me I went in the opposite direction. demon tattooes , being a singer in  not one but several metal bands. and yes drinkin crown royale with the guys, swearing,  
I love my rebellious nature, and still treat my guests well,  
I always wear garters thigh highs show up in a dress with nice nails and make up. and I do my best to show them a memorable time. I do not swear during my sessions and behave in a classy manner. I do enjoy talking derogatory at times during sex. I enjoy sometimes smackin the guy lightly in face a few times. I am a wild rocker type and I am rough . I can also be the classy mature Italian girl you can bring out for lobster, and guess what. no ones gonna point and say hey check out the old man w a hooker. I don't have ginormous obnoxious fake tits like a porn star and I often don't wear make up and like to dress down,  
   its all your choice how you wanna be perceived, and theyl perceive you however they want,
so far I have had every client try to reschedule more than once.  
I am the top 5 in my city,
and when a guy disrespects me , those are the guys you l notice I had a low low score from. I have my pride and I will get through the session, But I am not giving my best showstopping impressive kegel moves for a guy that's inconsiderate or arrogant, I am not n will not ever be some one that gets a ten ten from every one on face the earth because if I get one that pisses me off, he just isn't gonna get a ten ten time from me, or even a 9 9. he doesn't deserve it,  
I think havn all ten tens is very admirable but that also means you've kissed evry clients ass you met even when some may have treated you like dog crap.
so that not me never will be, I can pull off an ok time, but if a guy wants to be mean he will get a less than mediocre session. for that I am glad I am who I am , glad I am a bitch to guys that deserve it, and let them go and give me a totally low score that sticks out like a sore thumb amongst my other reviews. from way more seasoned hobbyist! its always the guys that have no experience and they need to be schooled no pal it just doesn't work like that. here you go you l get a mediocre time, I cant get into it when a guy is trying to make me feel bad or hurting me, then acting like its my fault,!
I think be grateful your a successful classy established extremely sought after successful mother friend and on here known as a provider.  
just keep your eyes lookin straight ahead of you at your next goal or project, don't look to the left the right behind you, don't look at what your neighbor is doing, you spend all your energy perfected your business. that's all you can do.  
its a waste of time to get upset over all the hookers on back page offering greek for 100,  
it s too tiring and theres just too much of it out there.  
and the times are as you know tougher now than when we were kids and we ll see it getting nastier and nastier out here.  
I know boston has fact highest over dose rate in emergency rooms . so imagine all those girls and they surely can hold jobs they surely have run away, they certainly are on bp and in trouble some of them. as in life threatening teeter totterin trouble , when I stayed at Avalon motel one tough time in my own life,,, a guy overdosed across the way while I was in my hotel room, now in july when my ac broke the whole month, I tried to swing fancy hotel the whole 30 days n food, and my rent 1700 back home w utilities, I got burnt out by end july and had to go motel 6 for a week, I was wiped out, .
on fathers day am, I hear a screaming, turns out two girls across hall from me, one them overdosed, fatally, .

Hookers and johns should be just like anyone else in terms of the standards they are held to.  That said, this life attracts more than it's fair share of whack-Os whose sociopathic nature makes them feel entitled to what ever gets their rocks off.  It also attracts people who just get a thrill out of playing on the other side of the law, condescend to "civvies" and thus are more prone to excuse anti-social behavior like drugs and overuse of alcohol.
It ain't complicated

I think sometimes the bad things about the game outweighs the good things.

On one side you have the provider that's business savvy, sets her own hours.. lives a pretty normal life and makes a success out of the profession.

Then you have providers that are crack heads, engage in bbfs, aren't business savvy.. smart providers such as yourself sometimes are grouped with these gals.

Then there's this preconceived notion that hobbyists are tricks or johns who are old fat and ugly who may pose danger to woman.

While sometimes this is true, it's far from the Norm.. some of us are good looking normal guys who live everyday normal lives. I hate negative stigma that's been placed on prostitution, it is what it is.. Understanding that I've just learned to adjust my life accordingly.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=Ij3Su3BGIAI

But "morals" are very subjective.  
I'm super down with my code of living: doing what makes me happy, while not trampling on other's happiness.
I curse but I don't do that in front of kids. I do other questionable things but to them behind closed doors and don't infringe my decisions onto others nor expose them to my actions.
It's all about trying your best to respect others, and doing your best is perceived differently and varies differently by your geographical region where other factors are concerned like politics and religion (huge factors for how a society views your lifestyle).
There is really no solution other than try to mostly be where most like-minded people are.

Does not define us or should promote any type of reckless behavior although I have to admit that some providers may show that streak to society (dressed very inappropriate, vulgar language, obscene behavior in public, substance abuse problems, psychological issues etc) but you can't include each of us into that "reckless, immoral and careless category". Ever since I got into this "underworld" I feel more confident and open minded about life in general but nevertheless, I take seriously my personal and professional life being that one day I plan to be out and move on. People fail to acknowledge that we are educated and rather normal and quiet on our private life and that in fact, many of us hold important positions at companies and business or some ladies may even have started their own venture. The stereotypes of society have painted us in a very derogatory way, but I do my best to proof people that they are wrong.
I guess like I said, part of the problem are those bad apples that made the worst out of this lifestyle but I can vouch for the other group (where I am included) who has a superior judgement to make the best out of each interaction with a gentleman and take it as an opportunity to learn new things and enhance my life whether it is financially or intellectually.

Isn't this simply a case of varying degrees of criminal activity?  Prostitution is a misdemeanor, selling a kilo of coke out of the back of your car is another story entirely.

I am in no way a religious man, but I have a sense of guilty doing what I do as a husband and a father. My needs are what they are and I want them satisfied. For my guilt, I try to compensate this ying with some yang like charity work, donating my time to helping others and a ton of extra things I do for my family. But that's me.  

...That does not give me the right to act immorally, and that is not who I am - that's just how I earn my living.

I'm not sure what this is all supposed to mean.  If someone acts trashy and makes bad choices with their life...that says a lot about who they are, how they were raised and what they have been exposed to.  If this crass person HAPPENS to be an escort, then one has nothing to do with the other.  

I enjoyed reading your discussion topic.  I have often said of myself, " I am not what I do." No one is.  Your work is your work how you conduct yourself 24/7 is who you are.

...if anyone in my personal life knew I did this, they'd think it has to be some kind of joke.  Even though Im not, I appear very conservative, and for some insane reason people usually assume Im religious and a church goer (nothing wrong with that...just that Im definitely not either! lol)

Not a single poster broke out and screwed up the geometry of the thread...

nothing more straight up than that .  

don't remember ever seeing a thread that long without branches! Of course I just screwed it up, but I couldn't resist.:

See me IRL, and provider is the last thing you'd think by a mile. However, I'd absolutely admit to being a rule-breaker. I break two laws doing this...one civic, one societal. However, I find the reasons for those laws' existence archaic, unrealistic, and uninformed. So I've developed a strong tendency to distance myself emotionally from prevailing opinions/societal mores.

London,

I may be picky but the vast majority of ladies I've seen have been very classy. The only thing I'd worry about is the age difference.

I'm not saying every provider is bad or lack class. A lot of them do make the industry look bad.

Try six years of the same ignorance from both sides. If another person wants to live their lives like a complete dipshit, go right ahead, but to say there is something wrong with those of us who don't live like hookers 24/7 is a bit comical. Sorry, but I did not spend 7 years in college to piss that away but being careless and indiscreet.  

Excellent comments, and my point exactly.

That's cuz I bring it...bitch! Ha ha ha!

Now, all of you are going to be in my book bwahahhaah. You did not really think all that philosophical shit was just for kicks, did ya?

My friends , family or anyone that knows me will think is an escort. I practically grew up in the church and I am quite conservative in my leanings.  

I have too much to lose broadcasting my alter ego.  I have children and a real job that would suffer horribly if I were exposed.  That said, I conduct myself appropriately in both my worlds.  I do not consider myself immoral, I view this profession as a healing art.  I make people happy and feel good about themselves.  That, in turn, makes me happy.

Very insightful thoughts, Laura. I can't remember the last time I just went out to a bar, wore a short skirt in publc, or even posted a picture url. The last time I had sex for free was with my child's father back in 06. I too, live a rather boring life and it's about to get even more boring when I start working full time.

it NOT  big deal.  People have sex all the time....who cares if it's about money.   Porn is the same thing and it's legal.  Because there is a Third party paying both parties involved, otherwise it's the same thing.  If I show up to Sarah Jessie's house and she is filming a movie and we fuck and they pay us (NO problem), but on the other hand if I show up and pay her she's now a hooker and/or escort and it's illegal?  WTF ?

Amen brother.  
And great thread,  special thanks to London and Nikkey and all the other ladies for sharing their thoughts.  Y'all are genuinely lovely people.